Lowering Child Support if your having...
Really

Washington, MO

#325 Feb 1, 2014
Julie wrote:
All of the dead-beat dads and new girlfriends/wives on here have no problem complaining about the money they are RESPONSIBLE to pay for the child that was willingly created and it disgusts me. If you had a baby in a past relationship, think about your child and the heartbreak and pain he/she feels because of the split. Are you really so selfish that you can't do the right thing and pay a reasonable amount for your kid? If you're irresponsible enough to leave your own flesh and blood without properly caring for them, give their responsible parent enough money because at least HE/SHE is doing it. All i notice on this thread is the complaints toward the mother for this and that when the main concern should always be the real victim: the baby.
So no, do the right thing and pay the money your child needs without being a selfish ass trying to pay as little as possible. If you found your true love, good for you! But your baby still exists and needs to be cared for without feeling like they are meaningless.
Common sense people, stop thinking of yourself and think of your child.
Sincerely, a woman with no children but surrounded by PLENTY of these disgusting cases.
Do you know me or any of us personally? Then you don't know what I go through or any of us. Are you trying to call me a deadbeat dad lady cause I pay 643 a month in child support for one child while she gets free housing, food stamps, and whatever else she can get, doesn't work, changes boyfriends like she does panties, wears all the name brand clothes yet buys our child Wal-Mart clothes and shoes, she has the best phone, always gets her hair done, nails done, toes done and everything is about her. So I'm the deadbeat? Like the other person said, you need to reconsider your job, hell, you need to be removed from your job if this is how you look at all of these cases. The woman is just as responsible for financial, medical, and anything else that kid might need and if you don't think so, do us all a favor and quit. I believe that the majority of you women that handle these cases were either abused by a man, cheated on, or whatever the scenario, and are just looking for any man that you can take that anger out on. Try therapy but you do not need to work with these cases if you are already going into it with your mind made up against the man.
MLR

Roslindale, MA

#326 Feb 1, 2014
IT WORKS LIKE THIS. In a house with four children, two children are not pampered while two others are deprived. It doesn't matter if two are from another marriage or not. If the fathers income hasn't changed and he has two other children to take care of the child support amount should change. Just as if they all lived under the same roof and the money was split evenly. It doesn't matter if YOU THINK the father was irresponsible to have other children. Those children matter too and deserve to be taken care of equally.
Sharp01

Toledo, OH

#327 Feb 5, 2014
I'm so tired of hearing about dead beat dads and poor innocent and victimized mothers. Though this happens all to frequently-there is a special breed of demon that exists on the opposite end of the spectrom-enter the selfish (and self serving) "victimized" mother. This contemptuous shrew collects nearly 50% of the "sadists" fathers income-supports herself and her jobless dirtbag meth addict boyfriend on this, purchases breast augmentation with this, has the audacity to declare two months later that she doesn't have the money to purchase the children's school clothes,(and consequently solicits MORE money from the father) quits her $30 an hour job because YOU pay HER enough to support a platoon of children, claims for 3 years that she is "trying so hard" to find another job, the entire time becoming thinner and thinner to the point of nazi concentration camp skeletal,(hmmm--meth??) and telling YOU she's doing YOU a favor by not hauling YOU back to domestics, while telling your children the can't get what they need because "daddy" doesn't pay enough child support. This happens every day, no one hears about it-or gives a damn-and the courts side with HER because she is such a weak and frail WOMAN. Welcome to the world of a father who loves his children, has a sense of pride values and commitment, and can't get the courts to do a simple-at HIS expense-drug test urinalysis, while he struggles to create a new and healthy life for his bride and child. That's what life is for a MAN in this society. If your x doesn't pay-stop bitching and have the courts ENFORCE THE ORDER. If you are unwilling to do this-I suggest you stop whining about your life, take advantage of the grants and scholarships awarded to single mothers, and get a JOB. Hypocrites.
haha

United States

#328 Feb 13, 2014
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
lol you can tell this is a woman replyin always tryin to get more money and live off the man
Funbucket

Opelousas, LA

#329 Feb 27, 2014
Going through this now!! Child support will drop 40% after te second child is born, and yes I am a woman and yes I am the one who has the second child and the mother of the first sits at home does nothing and collects almost 1000$ off of disability because she oviously can't read or tie her shoes but her manages to get her hair n nails done when needed!! then turns around and collects almost 1000$ off us a month!
Lawyer of 25yrs

Buffalo, NY

#330 Feb 27, 2014
Why do people answer posts when they have no clue what they are talking about. Dont give your false or bad advice to someone asking for true advice. In every single state every child is considered so YES your su.pport obligations will change the more children you have. Just because a child wasn't born first doesnt mean they deserve to live poorly. For example say your monthly net income is $2500 and the courts decide your support obligation is $1000. Your bring home pay after deductions is $1700. Should you then be expected to raise your family on $700 monthly? Obviously it is only logical that they calculate for an equal lifestyle for ALL of your children. Also the parent receiving supports income is also calculated in so that if they are making good money they wont recieve as much. This person had a real question that deserved a real answer not a bunch of uneducated opinions.
Cleverclover

Arlington, VA

#331 Mar 3, 2014
From my understanding they would lower it. I receive child support, well sometimes, and believe it should be lowered. If you and said father were still together the finances would end up split between additional children anyway. HOWEVER once you start having numerous children with numerous people they should stop allowing a deduction and simply state grow up. If possible try to talk to the mother to perhaps reach an agreement of what would work for the two of you. Cooperation always works best with children if possible
cyndi

United States

#332 Mar 12, 2014
everyone whose saying moms are hungry money whores come on. maybe some are but not all. im a single monther and have to work 55 hours a week in order to afford everything. i dont even get to see my daughter as much and because her dead beat dad wont pay a dime to help?! kind of sounds like a nice gig to me!! have children dont work and dont support. honestly u 'dads' shouldnt be talking about paying too much or that theyre lazy. everyone knows what it is to have children should have thought about all consequences. yes i even understand what ive gotten myself into and have to live w it!!
I know of some people wrote:
I know a guy that has four children, all from different mothers. When he started off with the first one, he paid 300 a month to one mother. Now that he has four, he still only pays 300 total for all of them. You can't expect someone to keep paying the same amount when there are other children involved. If the man is only making 1500 a month, do you honestly think he should pay 300 for each child, no, it doesn't work that way. Figure it up ok, 300 x 4 is 1200, that would only leave him 300 a month to live on. To some of you mothers that are just out for money yeah, that is ok in your eyes. Use some common sense and stop being money hungry wh**** when it comes to your ex husband or ex boyfriend and stop using your kids to get more money. Get off of your lazy butts and get a JOB. Maybe that would help instead of depending on the fathers for every thing.
Annonymous

Ottawa, Canada

#334 Apr 11, 2014
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
If there is another child involved I believe the child support gets lowered, I am not sure by how much. But the court does take into consideration that there is another child that you must take care of. And people just because this person already has an obligation to a child that he can only see on certain days, does not mean he should be punished by not being able to have another child, and being able to experience to the full extent what fatherhood is, without being told when they can see that child. Should the person that has full custody not be able to have another child then too, as they already have an obligation?
Jheff

Montpelier, VT

#335 Apr 14, 2014
If my kids mother stopped working and had another child will se get out of paying her child support?
Jax

Philadelphia, PA

#336 Apr 17, 2014
bssouth2008 wrote:
<quoted text>So you are saying that your obligation to your child should lower because you decided to add another obligation. I don't think it works like that and if it does it shouldn't. What does how much the mother makes have to do with your obligation to the child in the first place??? That logic does not even remotely compute. If that were the case then you could have 300 children and lower your payment to almost nothing.
In pa it matters what each parent makes. It's called the shared income model. They determine income of both parents as if they were together rausing the kids. Then they determine percentages and go off of a scale for how much is owed. Example: my husband and his ex together make 3400 a month. He makes 2k she makes 1600. He owes 55% she is accountable for 45%.

The scales states that making 3400 a month, one child is due 783 in total. My husband is required to pay 55% of that.

And having another child in a different marriage does count. Whether if makes sense or not.
frustrated dad

San Leandro, CA

#337 Apr 22, 2014
What if the mother of said child refuses to work so she can sit back and collect $1000 a month in child support? Shouldn't the support of the child fall on the shoulders of both parents not just one? The child's mom had access to free child care ( her parents a r e willing to watch her daughter while she works ) and even if we had to pay her parents I would be fine with that but why should my second child be deprived of having certain things because my ex wife refuses to support a child we had together?
frustrated dad

San Leandro, CA

#338 Apr 22, 2014
My ex wife and I separated when our child was less than six months old. Since then I have paid anywhere from $1000-$1500 a month in support. She now refuses to work and expects me to continue to pay such a large amount of my salary to her. My new wife and I are expecting our 1st child together. She works full time so that we can have what we currently have. Shouldn't she be forced to work so that she contributes to the support of our child and therefore allowing me to help support my child I have on the way without leaving all that on my wife's shoulders?
yup

Saint Louis, MO

#339 Apr 29, 2014
If she is able to work then her lazy ass needs to get a job and I think you need to talk to a lawyer because I'm sure something can be done about that maybe even a change of custody to the more stable parent
eff11

Dallas, TX

#340 May 26, 2014
KLT wrote:
I have been thru this. I have 2 children with someone who is already paying child support. First, the baby has to have been born by the next modification. Then u will get a credit for your new baby. Depending if your pay has changed the mother to the other child's child support will be lowered. If you need to know anything else just ask me.
How long until the next modification? My boyfriend is currently on child support but we were already married when his ex put him on it and now we are expecting. Does that change anything?
well

Saint Louis, MO

#341 May 26, 2014
If there is a significant change such as another baby then you can request a modification before its due and yes with a second child they will lower child support
TSJ

Dacula, GA

#342 May 28, 2014
KLT wrote:
I have been thru this. I have 2 children with someone who is already paying child support. First, the baby has to have been born by the next modification. Then u will get a credit for your new baby. Depending if your pay has changed the mother to the other child's child support will be lowered. If you need to know anything else just ask me.
KLT I have more questions
Truth hurts

Pikesville, MD

#343 May 30, 2014
Lottery winner wrote:
Yeah you can say its up to me. After about 7000 dollars in lawyer fees and my ex still not following the court orders it gets a little old. But they are grown, got a great relationship, and the ex just cant stand it. But they make their own decisions now. And I am a big part of their life. Dang did we get off the subject or what. Just had to vent. This thread brought back bad memories and nightmares. LOL
Most women speaking on this thread are scorned! They are the very bitter woman who push over men and create a very hostile environment for all involved. If the relationship didn't work out that man should be able to move on and make another family just as you may and still provide for his children without the woman sealing vengeance in his pockets because he chose to start a new family which does not mean he forgets about his previous child/children just means he is done with you! His new wife and all of his children become one family but that's the part most females hate ! A real woman would be happy that she has extra help remember as a woman you too will have a new relationship eventually and what if the shoe was on the other foot ?! It's a bad feeling to know that your new child doesn't meAn anything at all
truth

Beltsville, MD

#344 Jun 16, 2014
It should matter. Why should have to live off a thousand a month and have her living over 2000. Shes not putting any money toward the child. she is using yours. She keeps her whole paycheck and then uses half of yours. that not fair. it should be 50/50. both of you made the child so both should put in along with equal time. Where ar you women responsibility, always on the men, and talking about what u nee while taking out hard earned money and adding it to yours. we cant even get a second job with out you dipping in that too if we are trying to survive.
WTH

United States

#345 Jun 17, 2014
I just can't believe that a single mother with a full time job who has their child 85% of the time should have to worry about keeping a room over her and her child's head because her ex takes on more then he can afford.

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