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why do women want relationships with men in prison

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Googoo girl

Saint Louis, MO

#1 Jan 10, 2010
Can someone please help me to understand why women like prison inmates?? I know a hard working gal that could have something going on but will take care of a man in prison before she will take responsibility for her kids! She gets the usual correspondence about how great she is and please send money and i will come home and we will live happily ever after. Oh and lets not forget that they find God in prison. Then they get out and use her for a home plan. Let's also not forget that she has allowed this to happen with man after man after man. I looked up the last one on casenet and his court cases were four pages long! Wasn't nothin' nice either. Somebody make me understand why she does this??
guest

United States

#2 Jan 10, 2010
i don't know why girls do it for alot of men. But my man is locked up and i am standing by him 100 percent first man i have been with that has been locked up he does not ask me for anything but to write and come see him. he doesnt have anyone else watching his back. i do for him because i choose to not because he asks me to. i love this man. and no he hasnt found god being locked up. and he loved me before he went in. like i said i wouldn't do this for anyone else just this man. maybe she feels that these guys don't have anyone else out there and she tries to help these guys. its sad that they are using her though. but when u do good for someone good comes back to u so maybe she will come into some good times soon
Grander

Jackson, MO

#3 Jan 10, 2010
Many women chose to establish relationships with men in prison because of the forced circumstances it places on the situation. Typically the woman has an abusive past or has dealt with a cheating spouse for a long term. Lastly the female is reaching an older age where she feels it's her "last chance" to foster a good relationship with a man.

There are several forced circumstances I mentioned earlier. One, it's normally an opportunity for role reversal in terms of control. The woman ultimately dictates when they meet and has ultimate say so. If not, she just won't show up at visiting hours. It also afford her a captive, attentive partner which she likely didn't have prior. Another seen benefit is the male is forced (without other options) to be faithful. The female doesn't have to worry about his faithfulness nor be concerned about safety while away. Lastly, it's an oddity for her, something out of the norm and draws the attention of friends / family.
Rico

New York, NY

#4 Jan 11, 2010
I'd say it more because they have not one ounce of sense.
prof

Jackson, MO

#5 Jan 11, 2010
Rico wrote:
I'd say it more because they have not one ounce of sense.
There is an inverse relationship between emotion and rational thinking.
Googoo girl

Saint Louis, MO

#6 Jan 11, 2010
prof wrote:
<quoted text>There is an inverse relationship between emotion and rational thinking.
could not have said that better! those who act on emotions are scarey people!~!
Seymour Peeder

Saint Louis, MO

#7 Jan 11, 2010
They seek out those kind of men because they have serious psychological issues themselves that would make them unattractive to sane, rational, normal thinking men.

So they seek out men who are even more screwed up than they are knowing that the man won't be telling them what to do all the time because he is in worst shape mentally, and they can counter everything he says by pointing out how silly the mans behavior is. Sort of like the Blind leading the blind.
Googoo girl

Saint Louis, MO

#8 Jan 12, 2010
Seymour Peeder wrote:
They seek out those kind of men because they have serious psychological issues themselves that would make them unattractive to sane, rational, normal thinking men.
So they seek out men who are even more screwed up than they are knowing that the man won't be telling them what to do all the time because he is in worst shape mentally, and they can counter everything he says by pointing out how silly the mans behavior is. Sort of like the Blind leading the blind.
yes, i think you also are right except that everyone she has been involved with, gets out, calls the shots, beats her ass, and takes her money. EVERY TIME! She just keeps doing it over and over and over. Could she be THAT desperate for a so called man in her life.
Guest

New York, NY

#9 Jan 12, 2010
How does she keep getting approved for home plans if that is the case?
KCPO

United States

#10 Jan 12, 2010
MBPP Policy and Procedure severely restricts the ability of a Parole Officer to reject a home plan if someone indicates that they are willing to allow an inmate to live with them. It is a seriously flawed system.
guest

United States

#11 Jan 16, 2010
WOMEN PLEASE EDUCATE YOURSELVES. These freaks on the street are living GAY lives in jail where pitching instead of catching is considered cool. There are men living as women behind bars and the disease rate is out of control since many bring things with them off the street, happy to get their free medical. Stop bringing them drugs in messing up your life! Stop sending your last dollar when you out here hurting in the streets! Stop believing you are the only one, because next visit session it's a new woman there. Please pray up and get strong, a real man is out there for you
agree

Saint Louis, MO

#12 Jan 17, 2010
guest wrote:
WOMEN PLEASE EDUCATE YOURSELVES. These freaks on the street are living GAY lives in jail where pitching instead of catching is considered cool. There are men living as women behind bars and the disease rate is out of control since many bring things with them off the street, happy to get their free medical. Stop bringing them drugs in messing up your life! Stop sending your last dollar when you out here hurting in the streets! Stop believing you are the only one, because next visit session it's a new woman there. Please pray up and get strong, a real man is out there for you
Couldn't say it better...
Guest

United States

#13 Jan 17, 2010
I know for sure that this is sometimes the case, but you are making it sound like the rule as opposed to the exception. And please explain to me how one is supposed to "get educated"? How have you received your so-called education?
guest

United States

#14 Jan 17, 2010
Guest wrote:
I know for sure that this is sometimes the case, but you are making it sound like the rule as opposed to the exception. And please explain to me how one is supposed to "get educated"? How have you received your so-called education?
Stop and think about it real long and hard. That's first-hand, not third-party and the truth is the rule applies to most, it is very few that aren't doing all of this. I am sure there is an exception somewhere but I truthfully couldn't tell you who that exception is. The same guys who have fiances, gfs, and wives and children visiting also have a cellie who is more than a friend on those cold nights. If only a prison record could be made public, then you would understand. Until then, choose to remain ignorant and I will choose to remain educated and stay away from those frequent and long terms prison visitors. You sound just like every female who comes to visit the men, believing everything that is told to you. If they will tell you what you want to hear on the streets, what makes you think they won't lie in the pen?
Guest

United States

#15 Jan 17, 2010
So let me get this straight. According to you, 99% of all men in prison are essentially homosexuals. The only way you could know this "first hand" is if you are/were one of these men, or a CO. I think you're making a terrible generalization and believing a stereo-type. Maybe there is SOME truth to it, but I think it is a strong misrepresentation of the majority. Your opinion versus mine, and you are entitled to yours. I just feel you should be careful in that kind of thinking.
guest

United States

#16 Jan 17, 2010
If you see it everyday and then see the same men go get their two allowed kisses in visitation from unsuspecting women, then you would believe the same. Not 99% but probably a strong and holding 80%.
guest

United States

#17 Jan 17, 2010
No generalization just truth. Your opinion counts but until you see what life is like behind the doors then it really shouldn't be considered fact. When you here a "straight" man ask another if he is going to suck his d.ck if he moves in his room with him your opinion will change too. But like they tell you behind the walls, its just prison sex, they straight on the streets.
curious

United States

#18 Jan 17, 2010
did/do u work in a prison?
agree

Jackson, MO

#19 Jan 18, 2010
i agree
Real Men Go To Prison

Boca Raton, FL

#20 Jan 29, 2010
Real Men have at least once in their lifetime been to prison. Only drones that live a closeted sheep-like existence have never been to jail. Women love men who have been to prison because it shows character, especially those that went to prison for financial related crimes. A man that lets nothing stop him to get what he wants, is a very masculine very manly trait that beautiful women love to see in a real man. Not to mention, men that have been to prison are more well rounded then men that have not. They have seen the dark side of the world not just to dogmatic view of the so-called fake good side. Men that have been to prison generally have a higher sex drive and there are more straight men in prison percentage wise then in the outside, so the chances are when dating an ex-con he is not a closeted bisexual like these wimps are on the outside. Prison guys generally have more testosterone another very manly characteristic. Plainly put nobody wants just a regular shmuck when they can have an ex-con. Federal Ex-Con is the best of the best.

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