women really don't want a good man.
guest8

Everett, WA

#21 Nov 22, 2011
Day-Glo-Dago wrote:
<quoted text>I don't think I'm a good man OR woman.
well your honesty is a positive point
Jeremy

Olympia, WA

#23 Apr 7, 2012
guess I got some soul searching to do now that I think about it I settled for less than what I wanted, I thought by being flexible and lowering my standards way more than I should. I thought I was a good person for that, more stupid that describes me for that. Never settle for less than what you deserve. I always thought my standards were very high so I lowered them if one meets some of my expectations heck yes I would give them a try. I don't know if its the best idea but I thought I would try to be fair too. Lot of girls in my area talk about their ideal man I meet the requirements but when I come along they raise it up especially for me, guess its their way of saying their not interested oh well, their loss. I'm a typical 24 year old with aspergers, what do I know right? Dating is even harder now that I'm older now, I do what any normal adult my age does still and I'm proud of that. Never settle for less, be open, but don't fall for those users or manipulaters either best of luck that struggle with finding a good companion like I do.
regrets

Cape Girardeau, MO

#24 Apr 8, 2012
I was married to a great woman and I ruined.
We divorced, and I meet a hot gal.
I tried to be a good man and I got phucked.
So I can see both sides.
Karma is a bitch, and probably deserve what has happen
Definitely true

Saint Louis, MO

#25 Apr 8, 2012
Guest wrote:
I have to agree with you for the most part! I too had a good man, father, provider, and friend. I got bored! Thought the grass might be greener on the other side. I got a divorce, put him thru hell, and turned my kids lives upside down! Met and married a man much sooner than I should have and have been paying for it ever since! He's much more exciting- he's an abusive, alcoholic that is unfaithful and has little to nothing to do with our child! Lesson here girls- the grass isn't always greener and by the time you realize it, it's usually too late to go back! So if you find a good man, there's a lot to be said for comfort and stability so don't take it for granted!
What a slut. Such a dumbass!
Yankee Station

Centralia, IL

#26 Apr 8, 2012
Women always think they can make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. It's he maternal instianct.
Barn Door

Ballwin, MO

#27 Apr 8, 2012
women are crazy by nature.
all their decissions are based on emotions
they change there minds constantly.
Guest

Chicago, IL

#28 Apr 8, 2012
I'd give my right arm for a good man! I'm in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. I stay for the kids, but I'm miserable. The more I do for him, the meaner and more selfish he becomes. I honestly can't tell you why I love him anymore. I want to leave him, but he has always supported us financially and won't let me work. I fear I won't be able to support myself and my kids, although they are almost grown, without his help which I'm sure he won't give me. I feel stuck! I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but surely there has got to be more to life than this?
mommy

United States

#29 Apr 8, 2012
Guest wrote:
I'd give my right arm for a good man! I'm in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. I stay for the kids, but I'm miserable. The more I do for him, the meaner and more selfish he becomes. I honestly can't tell you why I love him anymore. I want to leave him, but he has always supported us financially and won't let me work. I fear I won't be able to support myself and my kids, although they are almost grown, without his help which I'm sure he won't give me. I feel stuck! I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but surely there has got to be more to life than this?
Dont stay just for the kids... I was previsouly married and had a child, I stayed for her which made things worse... He was not abusive or mean we just didnt see eye to eye... Since we have divorced and went our seperate ways we get along great and im thankful for that.... I hope thing get better for you
regrets

Cape Girardeau, MO

#30 Apr 8, 2012
Guest wrote:
I'd give my right arm for a good man! I'm in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. I stay for the kids, but I'm miserable. The more I do for him, the meaner and more selfish he becomes. I honestly can't tell you why I love him anymore. I want to leave him, but he has always supported us financially and won't let me work. I fear I won't be able to support myself and my kids, although they are almost grown, without his help which I'm sure he won't give me. I feel stuck! I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but surely there has got to be more to life than this?
please contact the safe house for help
Guest

Chicago, IL

#31 Apr 8, 2012
mommy wrote:
<quoted text>
Dont stay just for the kids... I was previsouly married and had a child, I stayed for her which made things worse... He was not abusive or mean we just didnt see eye to eye... Since we have divorced and went our seperate ways we get along great and im thankful for that.... I hope thing get better for you
He batters me verbally and emotionally. Tells me I'm fat (I'm 5'5", weight 132) and ugly and says nobody will ever love me. You hear this for long and eventually, you tend to believe it. He spends no time with me, not even sexually. His hobbies are and always have been more important than his family. I know I can get a job, I do work part-time, but I know I'll never make enough money to support our kids. Sure, he'll be ordered to pay child support, but he hides a lot of his income. I'm becoming more and more resentful of him and wish I had never met him, but then I wouldn't have my kids, whom I love dearly. The oldest is beginning to act much like his father which breaks my heart. He is disrespectful towards me now too. I'm just venting. Wishing there was a better way to remedy this besides divorce. We've tried counseling, but he goes to one session and quits. He doesn't like hearing how badly he is behaving or hearing how his words and actions make me feel. I'm not perfect by any means, but I've been a damn good wife and mother. I deserve better than this, but I don't want to be alone. Although the thought of another man is absolutely out of the question. So if men think its hard trying to fine a good woman, try finding a man with a heart.
Guest

Chicago, IL

#32 Apr 8, 2012
regrets wrote:
<quoted text>
please contact the safe house for help
Thanks, but he's not been physically abusive with me for years.
Guest

Chicago, IL

#33 Apr 8, 2012
When I said earlier that he doesn't want me to work, it's true. I do work part-time, but it's from my home do I'm always here for anything he needs or wants.
amanda

Saint Charles, MO

#34 Apr 8, 2012
I hate to admit it but you are right . now that im older i realize i treated all the good men in my past badly and always broke up with them the fastest . i dont know why us women are so weird but its true . however i do regret it , one comes to mind more then any . this guy would of done anything for me and i just go and fuck his friend .. he will never talk to me again and i dont blame him . looking back i realize he was a great man , and did really care about me . this was several years ago , but ill never forget him .
Guest

Saint Louis, MO

#35 Apr 9, 2012
It is not just women men are just as bad but the difference is a good woman or man will admit their faults and try to change. A bad man or woman will say they are trying and that you dont see it but they arent trying they just want to blame you! They dont want to see their own faults. Finances, where they came from, or what kind of a job they have or even what they look like has as much to do with it as what they have inside. I was in a three year relationship with someone that I was crazy about. I tried to see past some of the things he did because I thought inside he was a better person but he was a fraud! He was in and out of trouble and it got to be very hard for me. He decided he had changed and didnt want to see what he had done in the past and the way it had affected me. He said he was trying and I treated him like shit! Not true!!! I loved him and still do but I know he will not change for long and the changes he says he made for me, where not for me they where because it was either that or jail. So he tried to make himself look like he was trying to be a better man for me ands to make himself feel better and look better to other people. He was more about what his friends thought than what I thought I lost faith and gave up and he was right I didnt try anymore, but I havnt been able to move on I am still alone and of course he is not. He had to make his ego look good which confirms my head was right and my heart was wrong. I want to move on and I want a good man but I am scared I will be fooled again and end up in the same place I was before. I dont make a lot of money or have alot of nice things but I have my family and my self respect. I do want a nice man but I dont believe on the inside one really exists for me. Their has to be chemistry, like things in common and RESPECT. At 45 I dont want to spend the rest of my life alone but am terrified of putting myself back out there and being hurt again. RB I loved you and you hurt me so many times and even though you kept saying that is the past it isnt just the past it was who you are, not the cover up you tried to pass off to everyone else. I hold no grudges and hope you find someone that can help you bring that good person out of you that I saw. Drugs and Alcohol hide the great person you are. They make you look like a fool and even though your friends wont tell you that they are thinking that believe me they are. When you are not around it is the conversation! Grow up and let that other man out maybe you wont make the same mistakes this time and tear someones heart out. I tried but three years is just too long to hold on to something that was never meant to happen. Good luck to you hope you can make peace with your demons and become a good man, It is in you but you are too ashamed to show it! Good Luck to you.
Guest

Dallas, TX

#36 Apr 9, 2012
Day-Glo-Dago wrote:
<quoted text>I don't think I'm a good man OR woman.
Woman
barefoot baby

Jefferson City, MO

#37 Apr 9, 2012
I want to tell you that you should run, run far away. That you should do what you want and that everything will be fine. But...unless you've been there people have no room to talk. You leave for a while, it gets difficult and then you go back because he says he's changed. I wish you the only the very best, and no matter what any of us tell you, it's your life and you will do what you think is best. Hear to lend an ear if needed! good luck!!
Guest wrote:
When I said earlier that he doesn't want me to work, it's true. I do work part-time, but it's from my home do I'm always here for anything he needs or wants.
Guest

Chicago, IL

#38 Apr 9, 2012
barefoot baby wrote:
I want to tell you that you should run, run far away. That you should do what you want and that everything will be fine. But...unless you've been there people have no room to talk. You leave for a while, it gets difficult and then you go back because he says he's changed. I wish you the only the very best, and no matter what any of us tell you, it's your life and you will do what you think is best. Hear to lend an ear if needed! good luck!!
<quoted text>
I would love to talk to somebody, just not on here. People can be so rude.
Guest

Saint Louis, MO

#39 Apr 11, 2012
amanda wrote:
I hate to admit it but you are right . now that im older i realize i treated all the good men in my past badly and always broke up with them the fastest . i dont know why us women are so weird but its true . however i do regret it , one comes to mind more then any . this guy would of done anything for me and i just go and fuck his friend .. he will never talk to me again and i dont blame him . looking back i realize he was a great man , and did really care about me . this was several years ago , but ill never forget him .
Your name isnt Amanda is it?
barefoot baby

Jefferson City, MO

#40 Apr 11, 2012
I agree.
Guest wrote:
<quoted text>
I would love to talk to somebody, just not on here. People can be so rude.
Man

Fairfax, VA

#41 Feb 2, 2013
U are totally right. It's almost impossible to make a women happy. This is sad, but my advice is to keep your heart out of if u can. Try to not hold them up so much, get mad. With technology it's hard to get away, but so have to change your mindset. Turn off your phone, block numbers, don't check Facebook. Basically, fuck a bitch. Beat off and get a hobby for awhile

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