women really don't want a good man.

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lokelyocal

Cape Girardeau, MO

#1 Nov 21, 2011
Any woman who tells you they want a good man really dont. they may think they do but in all actuality its the farthest from what they want. If they had a good man they would be bored. I am not perfect, but i know how to treat a woman. Am I bitter? Maybe. I've been through the wringer with women of all shapes sizes and colors and the one thing they all have in common is that they complain about what they want, but when they got it they are not satisfied. They always want more! nothings ever good enough, especially me as it seems to be. I know it cant be anything im doing wrong because they always kept coming back when it was convenient for them. yes it hurts because. i have to go without because a woman simply cannot be pleased. i go out of my way to make her feel welcome and appreciated! all they have to offer in return are mind games drama and whoa is me pitty partys when things arent going right with their new guy friend who they dump me for. they treat me like garbage when they think they find someone better, then run back to me for advice when it blows up in their face. does anyone see the irony in that? i dont know if its a woman thing, or a women around Cape thing. they dont have any self respect. i hope that whoever read this can offer me some logical and rational advice. i know topics is the last place i should bring this matter to but i just need a variety of responses to try making sense of this. thank you everyone.
guest

Sikeston, MO

#2 Nov 21, 2011
Some women may have never been treated with respect this can be stemmed back even back to their childhood.It may actually scare them to have a good man. Women do tend to fall for men that remind them of their fathers. Many may deny this but you can see it. I have also experienced relationships where the man is genuine and totally respectable at first and then down the road they become complacent and loss these characteristics. It is as if they feel they have the women so there is no reason to go out of his way to continue to make her happy. Men and women definitely think totally different.Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, very true. They actually truly want different things.
guesty

United States

#3 Nov 21, 2011
you're just dating the wrong type of woman. where are you meeting these losers at? what's their education level? what's their income level? there's a lot of variables you need to consider in weeding out the losers to avoid the drama and baggage a lot of women have that causes problems in a relationship. sounds like you've just been dating trash.
Mak

Florissant, MO

#4 Nov 21, 2011
tlg812

Santa Barbara, CA

#5 Nov 21, 2011
well, i know im a good man but my wife is the only one that doesnt see it so we are divorcing...i will NEVER put myself in this position again...RETURN OF THE MACK!
Suckitdumbass

United States

#6 Nov 21, 2011
If there is one constant in the universe it's that women have no fucking clue what they want but they expect men to know. Have some fun now that you'll be single. Treat women the way they have treated you; like shit. When your ex comes crawling back to you, get her liquored up and do every depraved thing to her that you can think of. Then tell her thanks and walk out the door.

Since: Jun 11

Cape Girardeau

#7 Nov 21, 2011
guesty wrote:
you're just dating the wrong type of woman. where are you meeting these losers at? what's their education level? what's their income level? there's a lot of variables you need to consider in weeding out the losers to avoid the drama and baggage a lot of women have that causes problems in a relationship. sounds like you've just been dating trash.
Their income level has absolutely nothing to do with the type of person they are.
guesty

United States

#8 Nov 21, 2011
AryLen wrote:
<quoted text>Their income level has absolutely nothing to do with the type of person they are.
wrong. if they are self supporting the likelihood of being saddled down with a freeloader mentality diminishes. just sayin.
me

Saint Louis, MO

#9 Nov 21, 2011
Well I'm a woman and I know exactly what I want. I love my husband with all my heart, he is a great guy and I see that. He does everything for me and I do the same for him. It is 50/50 give and take. Not all women are clueless about what they want. I always knew what kind of guy I wanted and I married him.

Since: Jun 11

Cape Girardeau

#10 Nov 21, 2011
guesty wrote:
<quoted text>wrong. if they are self supporting the likelihood of being saddled down with a freeloader mentality diminishes. just sayin.
I know many people who make 100K+ a year and they're twats at best .. and other people who make enough to get by and are the best people I know.

I live paycheck to paycheck because I'm going to school and I would rather be late on my bills than rely on someone else to pay them.

"Just sayin'" you should probably not think that money defines who you are.

“Wit is educated insolence.”

Since: Jun 11

Not logged-in, not me.

#11 Nov 21, 2011
For the love of what many people choose to call god... Please break groups of associated thoughts up into distinct paragraphs! Effective communication is a boon to all.
Suckitdumbass

United States

#12 Nov 21, 2011
me wrote:
Well I'm a woman and I know exactly what I want. I love my husband with all my heart, he is a great guy and I see that. He does everything for me and I do the same for him. It is 50/50 give and take. Not all women are clueless about what they want. I always knew what kind of guy I wanted and I married him.
I will amend my statement to say "most women". Women like you are very rare. There are plenty who think they know but don't live it. One other caveat to my comment is it applies primarily to females in the 18 - 40 year old range even though I know plenty over that who qualify.
hey

Farmington, MO

#13 Nov 21, 2011
I'm a Divorced working woman and I know what I want. I think you are going with the wrong women . Don't take them back be stronger than that. I would tell them I would be their friend and I wouldn't let them use me. If they didn't like it they could hit the road! Don't let yourself be jaded and all that about women . Just because you have allowed to let some hurt you.Hey you might have to be alone for a while until you find a good lady . Raise the bar and stick with it next time .Don't let them use you .
JHF

Sikeston, MO

#14 Nov 21, 2011
lokelyocal wrote:
Any woman who tells you they want a good man really dont. they may think they do but in all actuality its the farthest from what they want. If they had a good man they would be bored. I am not perfect, but i know how to treat a woman. Am I bitter? Maybe. I've been through the wringer with women of all shapes sizes and colors and the one thing they all have in common is that they complain about what they want, but when they got it they are not satisfied. They always want more! nothings ever good enough, especially me as it seems to be. I know it cant be anything im doing wrong because they always kept coming back when it was convenient for them. yes it hurts because. i have to go without because a woman simply cannot be pleased. i go out of my way to make her feel welcome and appreciated! all they have to offer in return are mind games drama and whoa is me pitty partys when things arent going right with their new guy friend who they dump me for. they treat me like garbage when they think they find someone better, then run back to me for advice when it blows up in their face. does anyone see the irony in that? i dont know if its a woman thing, or a women around Cape thing. they dont have any self respect. i hope that whoever read this can offer me some logical and rational advice. i know topics is the last place i should bring this matter to but i just need a variety of responses to try making sense of this. thank you everyone.
Here's the deal, good women are not rare. Your logic is all wrong. "They treat me like garbage when they think they find someone better, and then run back to me for advice when it blows up in their face." This is EXACTLY where you are wrong and would be the reason you attract women who use and are never pleased. You allow yourself to be treated with disrespect and allow yourself to be a doormat. I'm not saying you are a not a great guy, however you allow these women to come back when it's convenient for them...as you stated above and of course these women know that if they leave you, try out another guy and they don't happen to be better than you, then you are still available. These women may lack self-respect, but so do you. Good women do want good men, bad women want men like yourself who they can manipulate.
hey

Farmington, MO

#15 Nov 21, 2011
JHF wrote:
<quoted text>Here's the deal, good women are not rare. Your logic is all wrong. "They treat me like garbage when they think they find someone better, and then run back to me for advice when it blows up in their face." This is EXACTLY where you are wrong and would be the reason you attract women who use and are never pleased. You allow yourself to be treated with disrespect and allow yourself to be a doormat. I'm not saying you are a not a great guy, however you allow these women to come back when it's convenient for them...as you stated above and of course these women know that if they leave you, try out another guy and they don't happen to be better than you, then you are still available. These women may lack self-respect, but so do you. Good women do want good men, bad women want men like yourself who they can manipulate.
I totally agree !!!! Your letting yourself get used . Don't blame all women for that ! I'm looking for a good man not to use !
me

United States

#16 Nov 21, 2011
Suckitdumbass wrote:
<quoted text>I will amend my statement to say "most women". Women like you are very rare. There are plenty who think they know but don't live it. One other caveat to my comment is it applies primarily to females in the 18 - 40 year old range even though I know plenty over that who qualify.
I am 20, so I would fall in that age range. But I have always been sound in what I want. I'm headstrong and I don't settle for less than what I want. But I'm not a witch about it either. I grew up quickly and learned what I wanted quickly. I found it and I'm never letting it go.
Sissy

United States

#17 Nov 21, 2011
Im a good woman and I have always known what I want and I hung on to my husband for 7 yrs hoping he'd want the same, but he always fell and has fallen back into drugs and loosing everything we have. We spent time in iraq together to gave a home and future but he chose to fall into the old crowd he got away from when we went to iraq. I want a man who wants a future and to be with only me and not every other girl from here to the east coast. He'd rather loose it all than be a real man and tell the losers he calls friends that he has s good life now. I have chosen to divorce him and have a good life. I might be losing my house but at least I have ny self esteem, respect and still have a chance for what I want out of life.
Guest

Sikeston, MO

#18 Nov 21, 2011
I have to agree with you for the most part! I too had a good man, father, provider, and friend. I got bored! Thought the grass might be greener on the other side. I got a divorce, put him thru hell, and turned my kids lives upside down! Met and married a man much sooner than I should have and have been paying for it ever since! He's much more exciting- he's an abusive, alcoholic that is unfaithful and has little to nothing to do with our child! Lesson here girls- the grass isn't always greener and by the time you realize it, it's usually too late to go back! So if you find a good man, there's a lot to be said for comfort and stability so don't take it for granted!
guest8

United States

#19 Nov 21, 2011
everyone thinks they're a good man or good woman. wutever. you're not.

“Wit is educated insolence.”

Since: Jun 11

Not logged-in, not me.

#20 Nov 22, 2011
guest8 wrote:
everyone thinks they're a good man or good woman. wutever. you're not.
I don't think I'm a good man OR woman.

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