Noncustodial Parent Visitation

Noncustodial Parent Visitation

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citizen

West Liberty, KY

#1 Jun 23, 2012
What does everybody think about all these kids having to go to their absent parent's house every other weekend? I don't agree with it. Hell, if you're an ex, you're an ex for a reason. Many of these parents were not willing to put forth the effort to raise the child but want to "visit" the child on the weekend. They want to take the toy out of the box, play with it a while, and then put it back up. And let someone else do all the work. That's the law and there's nothing I can do about it. Well, at least the kids will grow up and know who raised them.
lol

West Liberty, KY

#2 Jun 24, 2012
what is it with people? kids dont ask to be born and ask for no more than love from the people around them. dont fight over your kids and try and out do the other parent, that is not what a child wants and all it will do is cause pain in the childs lif, love your children and make there childhood a happy one
What

Macon, GA

#3 Jun 24, 2012
What about the children that grow up not knowing who their real true parents are. They are told that there daddy or mommy is whoever is with that parent at the time. Sometimes that changes like the seasons so that poor child or children grow up with Multiple people that they call mommy or daddy. What do you think this does to a child in the long run. I think if a parent is paying child support then they should have the right to see them whenever they want. Parents don't realize that they are hurting their children by pushing other people on them. The child will resent them when they grow older for not keeping their best interest at heart because they are only trying to hurt or get back at the other parent for not wanting to be with them. Grow up and don't use your kids because it will come back to bite you in the butt.
parent rights

Chesterfield, MO

#4 Jun 24, 2012
THe way I look at it, is if the non custodial parent wants to be part of the child's live....GREAT!!! To many parents don't want to be a parent. At least they are making an effort. It is better than the child thinking the non custodial parent don't love them or care for them.
Think about all the grandparents that are raising thier grandkids because neither parent wants to be a parent. So shut up and let the child have a relationship with non custodial parent.
citizen

Chesterfield, MO

#5 Jun 24, 2012
No, I won't shut up because I don't have to. What's wrong? Did I hit a nerve?
parent rights

Chesterfield, MO

#6 Jun 24, 2012
No I can't have kids. But I have great nieces and nephews that will never know thier dad because of his drug abuse that killed him.I have other great nieces that have parents that just don't care about them. They would rather use drugs that raise thier kids. They are with thier grandparents. I have another great niece that is 16. When is was eight she saw her dad fot the first time at a wedding and didn't even know what he looked like. He has been in and out of her life for the last eight years. He won't even pay child support. The mother has never ever tried to keep the father away like some women do.
I have seen first hand what kind of shape these kids are in because of the parents and non custodial parents.
citizen

Chesterfield, MO

#7 Jun 24, 2012
parent rights wrote:
No I can't have kids. But I have great nieces and nephews that will never know thier dad because of his drug abuse that killed him.I have other great nieces that have parents that just don't care about them. They would rather use drugs that raise thier kids. They are with thier grandparents. I have another great niece that is 16. When is was eight she saw her dad fot the first time at a wedding and didn't even know what he looked like. He has been in and out of her life for the last eight years. He won't even pay child support. The mother has never ever tried to keep the father away like some women do.
I have seen first hand what kind of shape these kids are in because of the parents and non custodial parents.
I'm sorry the children are having problems. Obviously your situation is much different than mine.
The way

Macon, GA

#8 Jun 24, 2012
The way I see it you should be glad that they even want them on the weekend. Some don't see them at all. What is the deal? Do you just want rid of them for the rest of the days to or is it you just want the child support payments and then just stay out of the kids lives. Sorry but you can't have your cake and eat it too.
citizen

West Liberty, KY

#9 Jun 25, 2012
My kids are teenagers and don't want to go to his house. And I don't think it's fair that they have to.
court

Chesterfield, MO

#10 Jun 25, 2012
citizen wrote:
My kids are teenagers and don't want to go to his house. And I don't think it's fair that they have to.
If there is a reason they don't want to go Then go to court and have it changed. Most of the time the judges will listen to what the children want once they reach thier teen years. Did you stop to think maybe the reason they don't want to go is because thier dad makes them mind?
It has been my experience working with kids that if one parent actually makes them mind they don't want to have anything to do with them. Sometimes the kids like to play the parents off each other. Regardless of what YOUR relationship is with the ex you need to stand together as united parents,
citizen

West Liberty, KY

#11 Jun 25, 2012
court wrote:
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If there is a reason they don't want to go Then go to court and have it changed. Most of the time the judges will listen to what the children want once they reach thier teen years. Did you stop to think maybe the reason they don't want to go is because thier dad makes them mind?
It has been my experience working with kids that if one parent actually makes them mind they don't want to have anything to do with them. Sometimes the kids like to play the parents off each other. Regardless of what YOUR relationship is with the ex you need to stand together as united parents,
My kids will be eighteen soon, and it will no longer be an issue. I just think the laws are unfair and would like them changed.
Not fair

Macon, GA

#12 Jun 25, 2012
The law may not be fair to some but I think it should be enforced. Unless they are being abused then they should have that relationship with the other parent. Sometimes it is custodial parents fault that the child don't want to visit because they hear one parent bad mouthing the other and they don't want to have to pick who they want to be with because they don't want to hurt their feelings.
disagree

Hazard, KY

#13 Jun 25, 2012
I am the custodial parent and my childrens father chooses to be absent from their everyday lives and then call them once a month. I completly disagree that they should "have to go". If you can't step up and be a parent everyday with at least a phone call or hell every other day then don't call 6 months later when the kids are adjusted. Mine are in therapy because of this! Its hurtful to the kids. I will never force mine to go if they do not want to. It is my responsibility as a parent to speak up for my kids and raise them the way they should be raise...I pay their bills, take them to school, give them hugs and kisses every night before bed...not him! to mine I am mommy and daddy and we are happy that way.

You should take him to court and let the kids say why they do not want to go at their age. Mine are still way underage. Do not make them go if they do not want to. they are old enough to tell a judge that.
Citizen

West Liberty, KY

#14 Jun 25, 2012
I've already been and have already done all I could do.

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