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Know of them

River Falls, WI

#1 Feb 18, 2008
I think it is even worse for a mother to leave her kids than a man. A mother has carried a baby in her womb for 9 months and should already have an emotional bond/attachment to that child, yet though some mothers leave their babies for the father to raise or another family member to raise and contribute absolutely nothing to that childs life. What do you think about DEAD BEAT MOMS?
Pathetic

Elizabethtown, KY

#2 Feb 18, 2008
Very sad.. What's even worse I know a mom who uses her child to get what she needs out of her ex. She uses his money(child support) and his family to get everything she wants. and The ex and family are too stupid to see what she's doing and will continue to do. I know for a fact that she is going to do this until she gets everything he has. His own fault though.
udeadbeat

Campbellsville, KY

#3 Feb 18, 2008
Know of them wrote:
I think it is even worse for a mother to leave her kids than a man. A mother has carried a baby in her womb for 9 months and should already have an emotional bond/attachment to that child, yet though some mothers leave their babies for the father to raise or another family member to raise and contribute absolutely nothing to that childs life. What do you think about DEAD BEAT MOMS?
well your a dead beat dad that has never even seen his child so there you go. don't start in on issue's that you haven't a clue about.
Know of them

River Falls, WI

#4 Feb 18, 2008
udeadbeat wrote:
<quoted text>well your a dead beat dad that has never even seen his child so there you go. don't start in on issue's that you haven't a clue about.
And your a Smart A$$ who doesnt even know who you are talking to; so why do you just assume I am a man??!! I am a step-mother of children that their birth mother up and left them, so Hell yes, I do have a clue about it!
Just a thought

Elizabethtown, KY

#5 Feb 18, 2008
I've had experience with a mother giving up her child for someone else to raise. In fact, it was my stepson's mother and I have to say that even though I didn't agree with her doing so...it TRULY was the best thing for that child until she could get her crap together. And for those inquiring minds, she did get her stuff together and he now lives back at home with her.
not so

Elizabethtown, KY

#8 Feb 20, 2008
not only is it younger mothers, it older ones as well. Some women aren't cut out to be moms. They don't want the responsibility. I've seen it. I still see it to this day. Her child calls me mom, wants to come home with me, wants to talk to me on the phone. That mom may see her baby once a month. Thats it. No phone calls no stop bys nothing. She puts herself first. I wish I could adopt this child and raise her as my own. Its not the baby's fault.
well

Russell Springs, KY

#12 Feb 26, 2008
not so wrote:
not only is it younger mothers, it older ones as well. Some women aren't cut out to be moms. They don't want the responsibility. I've seen it. I still see it to this day. Her child calls me mom, wants to come home with me, wants to talk to me on the phone. That mom may see her baby once a month. Thats it. No phone calls no stop bys nothing. She puts herself first. I wish I could adopt this child and raise her as my own. Its not the baby's fault.
But you have a responsibility to correct the child when she calls you "mom".
imajustme

Harrodsburg, KY

#13 Feb 26, 2008
Question: Is it ok for a boyfriend's child to call their girlfriend Mama then their Name (e.g. Mama Dixie)? Should the child be corrected? The reason why I am wondering is because I do not want to offend the child. I will do anything for the child, even treat them like I would my own. I have even picked up the mother to the child to take the child to a doctor's appointment.

I also have a cousin that call me this too.
sad

Elizabethtown, KY

#14 Feb 26, 2008
I know a couple that has 3 small children and lost costudy of them by the courts for stupid acts they made. Now the grandparents have custody of the children and the parents hardly ever even visits with them. The grandparents has had them for almost a year now and the mother or the father still has not done what they are suspose to do (required by the judge) to get their children back. That is a sad situation. The youngest one probably doesn't even know that they are her mother and father.
danh

Elizabethtown, KY

#15 Feb 27, 2008
My ex walked out on me and my 2 sons over 25 years ago. For the next 10-15 years had no contact with them whatsoever even living in the same town. Yes they both knew who the person was that gave birth to them but the also knew who was the "mother". I and they were fornuate to find a lady who loved them and treated them as if they were of her blood. To this day if you ask who their mom is they will say my wife.
Peaches

United States

#16 Feb 27, 2008
danh wrote:
My ex walked out on me and my 2 sons over 25 years ago. For the next 10-15 years had no contact with them whatsoever even living in the same town. Yes they both knew who the person was that gave birth to them but the also knew who was the "mother". I and they were fornuate to find a lady who loved them and treated them as if they were of her blood. To this day if you ask who their mom is they will say my wife.
Hallulah ! That is one for us STEP-MOMS! I was in the same situation! I raised my two step sons and they have called me Mom from day one. THere is more to being a mother than lying down and having that baby! That is the easy part! Its raising them, feeding them, getting up when their sick, clothing them, loving them, making cupcakes for their classroom on their birthdays, watching them at their ballgames, putting band-aids on their boo-boo's, etc. This is what makes us the "MOM" Any whore can lie down and give birth but it takes a real woman with values and morals to love and raise someone elses kids. Not to mention put up with the ex wife's crap from time to time.
i agree

Elizabethtown, KY

#17 Feb 27, 2008
Peaches wrote:
<quoted text> Hallulah ! That is one for us STEP-MOMS! I was in the same situation! I raised my two step sons and they have called me Mom from day one. THere is more to being a mother than lying down and having that baby! That is the easy part! Its raising them, feeding them, getting up when their sick, clothing them, loving them, making cupcakes for their classroom on their birthdays, watching them at their ballgames, putting band-aids on their boo-boo's, etc. This is what makes us the "MOM" Any whore can lie down and give birth but it takes a real woman with values and morals to love and raise someone elses kids. Not to mention put up with the ex wife's crap from time to time.
I agree with you. I don't know who you are, but I have the upmost respect for you. I am a mother and could not imagine anyone else raising my children, but there are so many mothers out there that just walks out on their children. Like you said, any woman can lay down and make a child, but it takes a someone special, with a big heart, to take care of another womans child.

Since: Feb 08

Campbellsville, KY

#21 Mar 1, 2008
But aren't you guys that raise someone else's child glad that the best person that could have raised them did? Instead of a dead beat mother. I just don't get it, I understand that it is hard to take the place of a natural mother but when that woman don't want her child and she can just give it up and walk away that should make the person picking up her pieces even stronger for that child. It seems you guys are fussing about the sorry mother walking away and throwing in her towel when that move on her part was the best dam* thing for those children!!!
Peaches

United States

#22 Mar 2, 2008
sukalot wrote:
But aren't you guys that raise someone else's child glad that the best person that could have raised them did? Instead of a dead beat mother. I just don't get it, I understand that it is hard to take the place of a natural mother but when that woman don't want her child and she can just give it up and walk away that should make the person picking up her pieces even stronger for that child. It seems you guys are fussing about the sorry mother walking away and throwing in her towel when that move on her part was the best dam* thing for those children!!!
I am very glad that I had the opportunity to raise my sons; however, it has always been difficult because their biological mother has been in and out of their lives since they were born and comes and goes as she pleases. But when it actually comes time to parent, to get up at night with a sick child & clean up vomit, to take them to the doctor or make cupcakes for their birthday party at school, or especially pay ALL not some but ALL of the bills, she magically disappears for a month or two.
Been there doing IT

Campbellsville, KY

#24 Mar 9, 2008
Peaches wrote:
<quoted text> Hallulah ! That is one for us STEP-MOMS! I was in the same situation! I raised my two step sons and they have called me Mom from day one. THere is more to being a mother than lying down and having that baby! That is the easy part! Its raising them, feeding them, getting up when their sick, clothing them, loving them, making cupcakes for their classroom on their birthdays, watching them at their ballgames, putting band-aids on their boo-boo's, etc. This is what makes us the "MOM" Any whore can lie down and give birth but it takes a real woman with values and morals to love and raise someone elses kids. Not to mention put up with the ex wife's crap from time to time.
That is the best line I have ever heard and is sooooo so so true!!! Gosh I feel you!
Nunya

AOL

#25 Mar 9, 2008
Here a clue stop making babies with white trash women~point made
FBV

Franklin, TN

#26 Mar 9, 2008
I wish I Could find a man with no baggage!! Every guy that approaches me has kid (s , divorced, or no job...No more drama !!!
Another Step-Mom

Jamestown, KY

#27 Mar 9, 2008
I to am a Step-Mom raising the child. The Mother pops in maybe once or twice a year, just enough to mess with this child's head and fill it full of nonsense, builds his hopes up telling him she will get him back, he doesn't have to listen to me or anyone other than Her and his Dad, blah...blah...blah....then disappears again for months on end, usually ending up in jail for drinking, narcotics, etc....The biological Mothers need to realzie how hard they make life for their children, if they aren't going to be responsible enough to raise them and provide for them, then they need to bow out and let someone that actually cares enough to see to it their child has a good life, give it to them! It just really makes it extremely hard for everyone involved, not to mention the mental torment the child goes through!
Peaches

United States

#28 Mar 9, 2008
Another Step-Mom wrote:
I to am a Step-Mom raising the child. The Mother pops in maybe once or twice a year, just enough to mess with this child's head and fill it full of nonsense, builds his hopes up telling him she will get him back, he doesn't have to listen to me or anyone other than Her and his Dad, blah...blah...blah....then disappears again for months on end, usually ending up in jail for drinking, narcotics, etc....The biological Mothers need to realzie how hard they make life for their children, if they aren't going to be responsible enough to raise them and provide for them, then they need to bow out and let someone that actually cares enough to see to it their child has a good life, give it to them! It just really makes it extremely hard for everyone involved, not to mention the mental torment the child goes through!
I have been there and done that too! My sons are all raised now and they realize who has been there for them and who has not. When they need something no matter how big or small, they always come to me sometimes even before their Dad, ha! Its really hard being a step mom with all the interference from the other so-called Mom. Coming and going as they please only causes so many mixed emotions for the child, not to mention it ultimately causes problems if only minor arguing in your marriage. You have to be a strong person and have strong marriage to be a step mother.
Another Step-Mom

Jamestown, KY

#29 Mar 10, 2008
Amen to that Peaches! One of the sad things being, no matter how much support you give, no matter how much of your life you give up for these kids, and no matter how much you love them...the courts always lean toward the biological Mother! Children know who loves them, and in the long run, it all pays off, but, getting to that long run can be one tremendous hurdle after the other!

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