How would you bury your loved one ?

[ERVIN]

would you bury them in a vault or just the coffin ?

[opinion]

ERVIN wrote:

would you bury them in a vault or just the coffin ?

I would go with the vault because I have seen graves that have collasped when a vault wasn't used. Its not a pretty sight.

[Crazytasty77]

However they requested before the time of thier passing.My parents have told me they wanted to be cremated..

[ERVIN]

opinion wrote:

<quoted text>I would go with the vault because I have seen graves that have collasped when a vault wasn't used. Its not a pretty sight.

would the weight from the dirt cause the collapse of the coffin ? If so then the dirt would be in your loved one,s face all the bugs, worms, and insects would eat them faster. would you call this a proper funeral ? WITHOUT THE VAULT . I would like everyone,s opinion on this please . would you let the money stop you from buying the vault ?

[is that not the point]

dirt, worms and bugs? isn't that the point of burying people? we don't mumify people and bury the body trying to preserve their remains. our society embalms to preserve for a short term during the funeral process, then the body is supposed to decompose. graves do collapse, but that is the graveyards' job to keep the plots filled with soil. imo - sealed caskets and vaults are just a way for the funeral home to make more money. in ten thousand years, you never know what the next society might dig up trying to find out how we lived. if you want to make sure your loved one's remains are never disturbed, then you should cremate their body.

[my opinion]

I think a vault helps some people in the beginning stages of grief. The pain is so raw in the beginning & the vault helps loved ones left behind to feel that their family member is being "taken care of". In ten thousand years, it won't matter but for the first several years, I think it helps us cope with the loss. So, I say yes if it makes you feel better about"taking care of" the one who died. I have & will continue to buy vaults for my loved ones. I don't care about the money, but I do care about my grief and easing it just a fraction.

[opinion]

ERVIN wrote:

<quoted text>would the weight from the dirt cause the collapse of the coffin ? If so then the dirt would be in your loved one,s face all the bugs, worms, and insects would eat them faster. would you call this a proper funeral ? WITHOUT THE VAULT . I would like everyone,s opinion on this please . would you let the money stop you from buying the vault ?

I was told by a Funeral Director that the dirt can cause a coffin to collaspe,but you also have to look at it as they want you to purchase the vault to make more money. After seeing a certain collasped grave I would go with a vault because I think if something like that happened to my loved one it would make me feel really guilty that I didn't get the vault. I think its more about what makes you feel better not necessarily that the dead person will last longer or whatever.

[opinion]

is that not the point wrote:

dirt, worms and bugs? isn't that the point of burying people? we don't mumify people and bury the body trying to preserve their remains. our society embalms to preserve for a short term during the funeral process, then the body is supposed to decompose. graves do collapse, but that is the graveyards' job to keep the plots filled with soil. imo - sealed caskets and vaults are just a way for the funeral home to make more money. in ten thousand years, you never know what the next society might dig up trying to find out how we lived. if you want to make sure your loved one's remains are never disturbed, then you should cremate their body.

The grave that I'm talking about that collasped was fell in almost as deep as it would have been when freshly dug and it stayed that way for at least 2 months. Someone could have laid down in it and you wouldn't have known they were there unless you were looking directly down in the grave.It was that deep. It would be worth paying for a vault to me not to see a loved ones grave like that, on the other hand if something like that didn't bother you, going without would be alright to.

[is that not the point]

what ever is done, it is really done for the people that remain living. i've known some people that buy grave blankets and put them on their loved one's grave. of course it has no effect on the deceased, but it might make the living feel better about themselves. personally, i think it is more important how you treat a person while they are living than taking flowers to a grave or buying a grave blanket.
to each their own.

[my opinion]

is that not the point wrote:

what ever is done, it is really done for the people that remain living. i've known some people that buy grave blankets and put them on their loved one's grave. of course it has no effect on the deceased, but it might make the living feel better about themselves. personally, i think it is more important how you treat a person while they are living than taking flowers to a grave or buying a grave blanket.
to each their own.

So very true.....

[iwasthere]

I think if a grave is collapsed and it is your loved one it is a sweetness to them on your part to take care of it. I am for homemade plain wooden caskets, as beautiful as you want to make them, and also for home funerals myself. I plant perennial flowers and roses on my loved ones graves.