VA middle school bullying STOP NOW

VA middle school bullying STOP NOW

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Since: Aug 12

Bristol, VA

#1 Dec 7, 2012
I have a child whom at the beginning of this school year was at student here. She was being bullied by a boy in her grade whom she had a locker beside of (the same boy who recently made threats that made the news). I went to the school 3x in one week. Everyone seemed so concerned although they did switch his locker nothing was done about the situation. I mean this is ridiculous. Whether it was some "dark humor" or not these things need to be addressed with seriousness. Needless to say my child is no longer a student there. When is this problem gonna be addressed???
Rainbow Connection

Clover, SC

#2 Dec 8, 2012
I really dislike hearing about these types of incidences. What kind of loving, nurturing school system allows this type of behavior to persist? It doesn't sound like much has changed in twenty years. Really!
OMG

Johnson City, TN

#3 Dec 8, 2012
nothing has changed. i remember kids being bullied especially in middle and high school. they all seemed concerned then too but that was only when the parents were there raising holy hell.
Get a life

Burnsville, NC

#4 Dec 8, 2012
A bit of bullying builds character! Just gerais over it!
OMG

Johnson City, TN

#5 Dec 9, 2012
Get a life wrote:
A bit of bullying builds character! Just gerais over it!
spoken like a true bully. bullies are nothing but trash raised by trash. sometimes they grow into adults before they get whats coming to them but i love to see it when it happens!!
Opinion and fact

United States

#6 Dec 9, 2012
My daughter was bullied for a year. We put her in Ty kwon do.

After a couple years she got up enough nerve to fight her battles. And when 5 of them hit the floor and she didn't get touched, the bullying stopped. They quit bullying everybody. I didn't encourage fighting, but I wouldn't take that crap either so I was proud of her.$100 a month well spent in my opinion.

I figure when bullying hurts more than the fun bully's get out of it they stop.
Fact and Fact

Bristol, VA

#7 Dec 9, 2012
Bullies are people with weak personalities. They pray on people who they deem to either have a weaker personality or to be physically weaker. They don't pray on "stronger" kids.

Want to stop your kid from being bullied? Make them "stronger". That doesn't always mean taking martial arts, it can mean putting them into something that makes them less shy and awkward around other kids so they can make friends more easily. There are strength in numbers after all.

There is nothing wrong with being unique, but you have to understand, especially at the middle school age, all those kids are looking to try and fit in. If your kid sticks out like a sore thumb, they are going to get kidded and teased. Some people equate that to bullying, I don't. To me bullying implies some threat to a child's physical health.

However, bullying and teasing can both cause a lot of emotional stress on a child, and numerous problems later in life. Some of the blame lies with the school, but some of the blame also lies with the parent for not finding the reason for the bullying and stopping it. If the kid is getting bullied, and you take the bully away, another bully is likely to step in his/her place. If you find the reason the bullying is happening and you fix it, the problem should be solved forever.

Since: Aug 12

Bristol, VA

#8 Dec 9, 2012
You all have great points but what makes me sick is the school system. I mean you we put our childrens lives in the school officials hands 5 days a wk. and this is how they allow them to get treated. This makes me so pissed. I mean whatever happened to a good old paddeling at school?
VHS Student

Bristol, VA

#9 Jan 15, 2013
Problem is, parents think that when they send their kids to Battle, the problem will go away. It's sad but true, but Battle/Wallace is just as bad as VHS/VMS. It's not the schools, it's the generation of kids
Side note

Clemmons, NC

#10 Jan 16, 2013
Children are taught their behavior. Even when the school "corrects" the behavior, it doesn't change the environment they are being raised in. I feel bad for both parties. The children are likely experiencing bullying from their own parent. Normally the father. The children act out against weaker kids just like the parent acts out against their weakness. It's ok to be angry with the child, but please have pity for him as well. I can absolutely promise that he is experiencing much worse at home.
True

Charlotte, NC

#11 Jan 16, 2013
It's the parents fault for raising their kids to feel entitled, think their better than everyone else. It's really sad but the blame should be placed where it belongs, on the parents who are too busy being freinds with their children and with their own wants and needs instead of being good role models and teaching the child right from wrong.
King Farouk

Stuart, VA

#12 Jan 16, 2013
Opinion and fact wrote:
My daughter was bullied for a year. We put her in Ty kwon do.
After a couple years she got up enough nerve to fight her battles. And when 5 of them hit the floor and she didn't get touched, the bullying stopped. They quit bullying everybody. I didn't encourage fighting, but I wouldn't take that crap either so I was proud of her.$100 a month well spent in my opinion.
I figure when bullying hurts more than the fun bully's get out of it they stop.
Bully for you!(no pun intended) I was bullied till I was in the 5th grade, coulden't take it any more, opnened the idiot that was doing the bulling face with a pair of lead knucks,He damn near blead to death, Never was bullied again.Bring blood to the bully one time, he won't bully again. Three cheers for you and your daughter.
In my kingdom, we behead bullies!
Overpaid Arrogant leaders

United States

#13 Jan 18, 2013
Our taxpayer dollars at work.
ignorant

Bristol, VA

#14 Feb 2, 2013
Bullies are a bunch of good for nothings.
Official

Bristol, VA

#15 Feb 3, 2013
Is there still school resource officers at the Bristol VA schools?
Parent

United States

#16 Feb 5, 2013
Bullying has been around for decades and it will never stop no matter what school you go to. Wallace has it, Battle has it, AHS has it. It is everwhere so stop blaming City schools. VMS does have a officer.
OMG

Ringgold, GA

#17 Feb 6, 2013
Side note wrote:
Children are taught their behavior. Even when the school "corrects" the behavior, it doesn't change the environment they are being raised in. I feel bad for both parties. The children are likely experiencing bullying from their own parent. Normally the father. The children act out against weaker kids just like the parent acts out against their weakness. It's ok to be angry with the child, but please have pity for him as well. I can absolutely promise that he is experiencing much worse at home.
thats not always the case. i was in a meeting with a group of parents and the parent of they child their kids were bullying and 3 sets of parents made excuses for their kids. said their little angels wouldn't do something like that. then all the kids were brought in and when the victim told what had happened only one parent got pissed and and actually jumped their kid's @ss.
so no they are not always experiencing much worse at home.
Revolving Door at VHS

Bristol, VA

#18 Feb 6, 2013
Yes VHS and VMS have resource officers. They are nice officers, but it's time for a change. They have been there for several years and they get to relaxed. They don't need to be changed out yearly because they need to learn who the kids are, but to long is not a good thing either.
VHS grad

United States

#19 Jul 10, 2013
I went to VJHS back in the late 80's and it was going on then too there was a guy that constantly taunted us girls and would grab our bra straps from the back and snap them and if you told the stupid faculty did nothing ... so I doubt they will do anything these days as well ....
watcher

Atlanta, GA

#20 Aug 10, 2013
There have always been bullies and there always will be. It's just human nature. However in today's school system it's worse because we've taken from the students the one thing that stops a bully, the ability to fight back. Now if you fight back the punishment is almost as bad if not worse than living with the bully. For some reason we have insisted on raising a generation or two of wimps who don't recognize that there is a time to fight and a time not to fight.

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