Arthur Sergio

[Carol McDonald]

A dear friend of mine passed away August 16, 2009, at a rest stop in Jersey, where he took his own life. Can anyone tell me why he would do this and perhaps where he is buried so I may pay my respects to him and his family.
Thank you

[val]

i am also a friend of his ..i am trying to find out where he is buried also...it could be NY or AZ.

[sunshine state]

val wrote:

i am also a friend of his ..i am trying to find out where he is buried also...it could be NY or AZ.

I heard he was cremated.

[val]

sunshine state wrote:

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I heard he was cremated.

do u or anyone know what the family is doing with the ashes? like is he at a cemetery or if his family is keeping the ashes?

[a friend]

i understand his family will be planning a service for him at pinelawn on long island, but no date has been set. my heart goes out to his family and those who knew aj.

[val]

a friend wrote:

i understand his family will be planning a service for him at pinelawn on long island, but no date has been set. my heart goes out to his family and those who knew aj.

thank you for the information..if you here a date could you please post it here..and i will do the same...i would really appreciate it....thank you.

[Carol McDonald]

I will be in New York over the next few weeks. I would so love to know when the service is.
Thank you everyone for the concern for a man we all apparently had a friendship with and will miss very much.

[Carol McDonald]

sunshine state wrote:

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I heard he was cremated.

Who did you hear that from? Is your source reliable?

[a friend]

Carol McDonald wrote:

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Who did you hear that from? Is your source reliable?

yes, his mother. i'm sure she would welcome your sympathy.

[Carol McDonald]

Thank you for the info. Perhaps I will see his mother if I am in NY at the same time of his service. I will wait to see when his service is.

[a friend]

Carol McDonald wrote:

Thank you for the info. Perhaps I will see his mother if I am in NY at the same time of his service. I will wait to see when his service is.

thank you for posting this notice and giving his friends a chance to share our knowledge and concern. i promise to keep you informed.

[Carol McDonald]

Thank you in Bohemia

[Carol McDonald]

Any word on AJ's memorial service?

[val]

Carol McDonald wrote:

Any word on AJ's memorial service?

i heard from his mom earlier in the week...she said she wasn't sure what she is going to do yet... if it's going to be at pine lawn or a gathering when his ashes are put in the ocean.

[Carol McDonald]

Well good God, whats the hold up? Tell the mother she needs to put her son to rest already.

[Carol McDonald]

Any word yet on the arrangements? I will be coming to New York soon. Can anyone give me any info?

[val]

Carol McDonald wrote:

Any word yet on the arrangements? I will be coming to New York soon. Can anyone give me any info?

sorry i haven't heard from his mom since last Tuesday...she said she was going to let me know when arrangements are made.

[Carol McDonald]

Thank you Val. I appreciate your efforts in keeping me posted. I will be in NY from 10/1-7, hope I can meet the family and pay my respects. Does she know we have started this thread?

[val]

Carol McDonald wrote:

Thank you Val. I appreciate your efforts in keeping me posted. I will be in NY from 10/1-7, hope I can meet the family and pay my respects. Does she know we have started this thread?

You're welcome and I am also hoping to be given the opportunity to pay my respects and meet AJ's family. To my knowledge she is not aware of the thread.

[a friend]

carol and val, aj's mom also told me she would let me know what arrangements will be made when they've decided. i have been respecting their privacy, but i may call her to follow up this week and offer any assistance i can.

she is trying to find out about her son, and what could possibly have caused this to happen. i understand that he was estranged from his family for the past year or two, and so his mother is reaching out to his phone contacts to see if anyone can offer an explanation. i happened to speak with aj just a day or two before his death, but i did not foresee this happening, and i am still troubled by it. perhaps if we share our knowledge, our insights can help his family lay him to rest.