8th Grader at BMS Shoots Himself in the Head Today

[Amy Cooper Kirkland]

Sunshine wrote:

<quoted text>But the child you are referring to was troubled. There were issues involving this kid. Bullying was the main one. People need to wake up and pay attention to what is going on in their children's lives.

Do you know for a fact that this kid was bullies or that he was troubled? Do you have a child or are you a person that was bullied by him? Just asking?

[Miss Blue Devil 2000]

Amy Cooper Kirkland wrote:

I see alot of people on here that are using "fake" names and making alot of judements on the topic at hand. Let me ask you all one quesiton, with all the hurtful things that have been said to each other and about the situation, how many of you have experienced this first hand? How many of you have had to go and pick out a coffin for your child? How many of you actually know the family and the struggles that they deal with on a daily basis inside the four walls of their home? I know that I don't. and God willing I never have to. Instead of bashing each other and this poor family who might even care what is being written on here, why don't you go to the funeral home and pay your RESPECTS to the family who have lost a son, brother or nephew? If I lived closer I would, but I do not. Please think before you speak.. You cannot take back the stone once it is thrown..

YOU are gonna fall into a trap!!!! BE CAREFUL!!!! All I am saying!

[LadyFromTheSouth]

Amy Cooper Kirkland wrote:

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Do you know for a fact that this kid was bullies or that he was troubled? Do you have a child or are you a person that was bullied by him? Just asking?

You are correct that there is a lot of assumptions/assuming about what occurred and only those close to him might know. I support your comments concerning the ill-meaning responses to this situation, but I do worry that you are wondering if he was troubled. Clearly, he was troubled to have come to this decision.

Unfortunately, as a small community, people are going to wonder what occurred to drive him to commit suicide. What could have been done to help this child is what is driving a lot of curiosity about what happened. What could each one of us have done to possibly prevent this from occurring? What can we do to prevent this from occurring again?

I feel very deeply for the family because, although I do not know them, they are left with the devastating aftermath of this horrible death of their child. My heart and prayers go out to the family and friends.

[black knight x]

One thing we all know for sure,mso4 isnt a guidance or grief counsiler

[Cool Dude]

Has anyone heard about a suicide in Bowdon today?

[econisme]

Cool Dude wrote:

Has anyone heard about a suicide in Bowdon today?

There was one in Bowdon a few days ago, and Carrollton yesterday. Hopefully someone is mistaken about another one today.

[prissy]

The Dyer boy killed himself over a girl!!!! So not worth it!! Please pray for these young ones trying to grow up too fast.

[LadyFromTheSouth]

prissy wrote:

The Dyer boy killed himself over a girl!!!! So not worth it!! Please pray for these young ones trying to grow up too fast.

We have up to this point kept his name off this board in respect of the family. Why would you do this?

[MSO4]

prissy wrote:

The Dyer boy killed himself over a girl!!!! So not worth it!! Please pray for these young ones trying to grow up too fast.

And so it begins.

[oh for fcks sake]

This thread makes me want to shoot myself in the head too.

[Heavy heart]

Really wrote:

Ok, the point of this is to find out information about him, not act like we are 4 years old and argue because... of nothing?'Yep' should be banned from the post because he is just causing problems, people are so ignorant.

Apparently "yep" thinks we are the same person. Lol! He/she is SO smart.

[Wow]

LadyFromTheSouth wrote:

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We have up to this point kept his name off this board in respect of the family. Why would you do this?

How respectful of you to talk about an innocent child and not use his name. Really???? For his and his families and friends sake why would anyone use a trash board such as this to discuss such a tragedy.

[LadyFromTheSouth]

Wow wrote:

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How respectful of you to talk about an innocent child and not use his name. Really???? For his and his families and friends sake why would anyone use a trash board such as this to discuss such a tragedy.

Do you really think the person that plastered the child's name on here was being respectful? No.

I'd like to make note that yes - this is a trash board, but we have chosen to leave a minor's name off of the board up to this point. That is respect. Putting a name means that this child can now be looked up and his name is can be viewed all across the internet world as linked to prissy's stupid comment.

Furthermore, you do realize that even if this board wasn't created, that people would be saying these things in person. Sure, some of the people here are just outright cruel, but maybe you should take a look at those of us who are trying to view this in a more respectful manner. This same rumor mill is probably happening in the school cafeteria, the Walmart freezer aisles, and the soccer fields. Maybe you need to read the posts on this thread to fully understand the difference between who is being respectful of the situation and who is not. Of all the posts to attack on the situation, you choose mine simply because I want his name to remain anonymous and not searchable by the entire world.

Perhaps you should attack prissy who called him stupid for killing himself over a girl or others on here who downright attacked those who might have given him a gun. Or, wait, you probably are prissy and had the fact that I called you out on it.

[MSO4]

LadyFromTheSouth wrote:

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Perhaps you should attack prissy who called him stupid for killing himself over a girl or others on here who downright attacked those who might have given him a gun. Or, wait, you probably are prissy and had the fact that I called you out on it.

Hold on sweetcheeks, I have not attacked anyone on this thread, but you can damn sure know that if I knew who gave him a gun I would.

[Wow]

LadyFromTheSouth wrote:

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Do you really think the person that plastered the child's name on here was being respectful? No.
I'd like to make note that yes - this is a trash board, but we have chosen to leave a minor's name off of the board up to this point. That is respect. Putting a name means that this child can now be looked up and his name is can be viewed all across the internet world as linked to prissy's stupid comment.
Furthermore, you do realize that even if this board wasn't created, that people would be saying these things in person. Sure, some of the people here are just outright cruel, but maybe you should take a look at those of us who are trying to view this in a more respectful manner. This same rumor mill is probably happening in the school cafeteria, the Walmart freezer aisles, and the soccer fields. Maybe you need to read the posts on this thread to fully understand the difference between who is being respectful of the situation and who is not. Of all the posts to attack on the situation, you choose mine simply because I want his name to remain anonymous and not searchable by the entire world.
Perhaps you should attack prissy who called him stupid for killing himself over a girl or others on here who downright attacked those who might have given him a gun. Or, wait, you probably are prissy and had the fact that I called you out on .

I'm stating that it is not respectful period, whether the name was given or not, to be talking about a situation as delicate as this on this board no matter who is doing the talking. I didn't single your post out per se, but the fact that you were calling someone out for giving the child's name when you were talking about the child just the same, without giving the name made what you said ok.

[econisme]

Wow wrote:

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I'm stating that it is not respectful period, whether the name was given or not, to be talking about a situation as delicate as this on this board no matter who is doing the talking. I didn't single your post out per se, but the fact that you were calling someone out for giving the child's name when you were talking about the child just the same, without giving the name made what you said ok.

I dont think the child's name should have been posted.
However, I do think the situation should be discussed. Part of the problem today is that people want to avoid discussing the issues that involve kids. I know talking about it on Topix isnt ideal, but it might trigger some people to have talks with their kids. It might also open some people's eyes. Too many parents walk around with blinders on and dont want to see what is happening around them. Everyone wants to think "that wouldnt happen to my kid" or "my kid's not involved", but obviously that is not always true.

[MSO4]

econisme wrote:

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I dont think the child's name should have been posted.
However, I do think the situation should be discussed. Part of the problem today is that people want to avoid discussing the issues that involve kids. I know talking about it on Topix isnt ideal, but it might trigger some people to have talks with their kids. It might also open some people's eyes. Too many parents walk around with blinders on and dont want to see what is happening around them. Everyone wants to think "that wouldnt happen to my kid" or "my kid's not involved", but obviously that is not always true.

Wow! Like night and day. Thank you Econ.

[LadyFromTheSouth]

MSO4 wrote:

<quoted text>Hold on sweetcheeks, I have not attacked anyone on this thread, but you can damn sure know that if I knew who gave him a gun I would.

Unfortunately, that rant wasn't meant to be directed at you and I apologize, but I got irate that he was giving me an awful hard time about actually being decent in the discussion and speaking up for keeping the deceased name sacred. I personally think he was the one that threw the name out there and just went after my comment when there was so much other room for criticism with the rest of the discussion (even some of my other comments, might I add). If you have a probably with this discussion, have a problem with this discussion. Don't single me out because I disliked the name being called out.

[LadyFromTheSouth]

econisme wrote:

<quoted text>
I dont think the child's name should have been posted.
However, I do think the situation should be discussed. Part of the problem today is that people want to avoid discussing the issues that involve kids. I know talking about it on Topix isnt ideal, but it might trigger some people to have talks with their kids. It might also open some people's eyes. Too many parents walk around with blinders on and dont want to see what is happening around them. Everyone wants to think "that wouldnt happen to my kid" or "my kid's not involved", but obviously that is not always true.

I completely agree with you. I don't think I could have said this better. If those opposing the conversation would read the discussion, then they could see that is where some of us are coming from. I have to be prepared as a parent, and although this board infuriates me at times, it has alerted me to things that I did not know were occurring. A parent can not hide his/her head in the sand and pretend these things don't happen and refuse to be prepared to discuss them with their children.

[LadyFromTheSouth]

LadyFromTheSouth wrote:

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Unfortunately, that rant wasn't meant to be directed at you and I apologize, but I got irate that he was giving me an awful hard time about actually being decent in the discussion and speaking up for keeping the deceased name sacred. I personally think he was the one that threw the name out there and just went after my comment when there was so much other room for criticism with the rest of the discussion (even some of my other comments, might I add). If you have a probably with this discussion, have a problem with this discussion. Don't single me out because I disliked the name being called out.

Argh.. I'm so mad, I've got typos all throughout that.