Well said, Babs. I am sure you can see for yourself that so many of the people who posted comments on here are certainly not practical or reasonable, by any stretch. All they want to do is protect the accused's reputation at the expense of the victim. I understand why, because if my best friend was ever accused of something like this, he would have my support too. However, there is a big difference between supporting a friend and being an ignorant twat.I really feel that Vermont incarcerates people for little to no reason when probably 80% of all inmates should really be home and working and taking care of their families; while jailing him initially for violating the order was the right thing to do, seems he should be given some assessment and a determination made as to whether he's a threat or not -
It's such a game with some women, that much I can see; but so can the courts who see it day in and day out- so if she's fixated on some kind of dangerous game playing, it will come out in the end.
For those of you who are his friends - going to court to show your support and belief in this guy will go a long, long way. However, my suggestion is that you refrain from slamming the female and focus on holding your friend to the light. Otherwise, it cheapens the support and drags everyone into the sewer. Make the distinction obvious - if you believe in him.
And as far as any woman waiting for days to report a sexual assault; I have to tell you there are cases where it's never reported at all. So, that's one bell you should stop ringing in my opinion because it's sewer material to just jump on the blame lane and play that long worn out game. Stay away from stuff like that and focus on your friend if you honestly feel he's completely innocent.
At the same time, don't forget he did break a court order and don't let him forget that. It's one lesson worth learning; he may be a great guy like you say; but no one is so great that they can just ignore a court order. Be practical about it, please.
I have known my best friend for 16 years, I was the best man at his wedding, he's a great husband and father, but if he was ever accused of a crime, I CAN NOT SAY FOR A FACT that he didn't do it IF I WAS NOT THERE WHEN IT HAPPENED. I can say "Hey, that's not like him - what's going on?" but not "Well, I know for a fact that he most certainly did not do that - I know him - he would never do that!"
Ever heard of Scott Peterson? He had the support of his family, his wife's family, and the entire community! The police initially didn't even consider him a suspect because of his reputation and because so many people said he was innocent. Guess what? That man murdered his pregnant wife, cut off her hands, feet, and head, and dumped her body in Berkeley Marina! How shocked, hurt, stupid, and betrayed did those people feel when they found out the truth?
My point is, anyone is capable of anything at any given time, given the right circumstances or context. That being said, you can know someone for a lifetime, but all the things that you know about a person are only the things that they want you to know.