Is this Samantha crazy? I mean did she lose her mind? He's married. What she was doing was playing with fire, and when you do that, you're going to get burned.Samantha Eagle texted my husband night and day.
Here's my message to Samantha: Sometimes it's not a bad idea to have a great friend who is married. This time it is. When you continued to text to him like that, you ended up degrading yourself; you're in a public job where you make your reputation. I say this because it sounds like he's just looking for an affair or just trying to run away from his problems. The chances are when his wife found out, you were forever branded the whore/home-wrecker/married-man -chaser that tried to end their marriage. You probably had that feeling already. If you didnt, you should go to a therapist and try to grok what is so needy about you that you can't go without texting a married guy all day long. Don't you have single friends or women friends that want to chat over texting all day?
A smart lady like you: You should have seen nothing good could come of this. You may believe the wife is horrible or buy whatever other baloney he's told you. I know you don't care about her. It sounds like all you care about is yourself. If you have a conscience, you will feel like crap in your role to help him play his silly games.
I want you to know I think you were in the wrong. If it's not clear enough for you then here it is again: YES, YOU'RE IN THE WRONG. IF YOU REALLY CARED THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT HIM ALONE. Mature relationships with real friends over thirty years old don't send secret texts all day long. Real friends met their friend's spouse and/or conduct their friendship respectfully to the marriage. Your complicity in generating/answering his silly texts was irresponsible. You deserve all the fallout and karma that comes your way as a result of your mindless choices.