Are you tired of trying too?

Are you tired of trying too?

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Tired

Canton, OH

#1 Jul 6, 2012
Is there anyone else out there who grew up abused, neglected. Then you worked hard, went to college, worked to be something better, only for people (even strangers) to pick you out to yell at or bully? I am so tired.

This is what life has taught me:

Marry well if you are a woman. It is your only chance.
Being nice to people makes you a doormat in their eyes.
Most men do not respect women. They don't respect their mothers, daughters, wives, or sisters. To them we do not have brains.

It's topix. Saying something nice or sharing a similar story will be quite unpredictable.
agreed

New Albany, IN

#2 Jul 6, 2012
I have discovered that no matter what, life is unfair and people as a whole are cruel and conniving and have an agenda at all levels. Further they can beat you down the better, allthe while patting your back saying that they are praying for you while thinking about what they can get off you while your down.
Riki

Westmoreland, TN

#3 Jul 6, 2012
In this ole world today, MANY people see a nice, kind heart as sign of weakness. Sad!
true

United States

#4 Jul 6, 2012
Both of you are so right! Going through a similar situation myself right now...glad to know I'm not the only ones, stay positive!
wow

Nortonville, KY

#5 Jul 6, 2012
agreed wrote:
I have discovered that no matter what, life is unfair and people as a whole are cruel and conniving and have an agenda at all levels. Further they can beat you down the better, allthe while patting your back saying that they are praying for you while thinking about what they can get off you while your down.
I'm just glad my brain doesn't think that!! What a way to live
yep

United States

#6 Jul 6, 2012
I agree 100%. The nicer you are to people, the more of an asshole they become. There are very few kind hearted people left who are nice just to be nice. Most are nice because they feel they can take advantage of you. And once they get what they want out of you, they are inconsiderate assholes again. I'm tired of it to. I just stay to myself and worry about me and my kid. Piss on everyone else. As long as me and my baby girl are happy, I'm ok. Tired of trying to be nice and hope it rubs off! Those who are this way will eventually push away everyone and be left all alone. I know I don't want negative people in my life anymore. You can either be nice to me or BUG OFF!
fyi

Franklin, KY

#7 Jul 6, 2012
Just my opinion-- I have found myself in similar situations, but this last round, I came out of it changed. Someone asked me: what is it about you that draws you to people who want to use you. The world is full of horrible people, and of you are codependent (like me), you'll find them. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, but you can change something about yourself to change your outcome.
fyi

Franklin, KY

#8 Jul 6, 2012
One more thing: I know you're tired of trying. I was too. Maybe it's time to try differently. Seriously, look into codependency, and see if you don't identify with it a bit.
Tired

Canton, OH

#9 Jul 6, 2012
fyi wrote:
One more thing: I know you're tired of trying. I was too. Maybe it's time to try differently. Seriously, look into codependency, and see if you don't identify with it a bit.
Part of my problem is that my spouse is codependent. I am not.
Just me

New Albany, IN

#10 Jul 6, 2012
In my 23 years, I've learned not to be so trusting. I use to trust everybody and that just got me hurt. Now, I basically stay to myself. When life tries to get me down, I think about my kids and that motivates me to choose another path.
Leon 45 Jones

United States

#11 Jul 7, 2012
The white man has endless tricks to oppress you my brothers and sisters. He should never ever be trusted. Only by reelecting Obama this fall may he be defeated
Word
Jaded

Casey, IL

#12 Jul 7, 2012
Just me wrote:
In my 23 years, I've learned not to be so trusting. I use to trust everybody and that just got me hurt. Now, I basically stay to myself. When life tries to get me down, I think about my kids and that motivates me to choose another path.
You are describing exactly how I feel. I have helped people and taken care of people and been there for them in their darkest hour, then when I need help or someone to turn to, they are nowhere around. Now, I stay to myself and try to be self-sufficient so I won't get hurt anymore. I don't have any friends because my last few friends used me, and I don't need friends like that. I get punished for being nice to people. The way I look at it, it's their loss. My children give me strength, as well. If it weren't for them, I'd say adios to this world.
Jaded

Casey, IL

#13 Jul 7, 2012
Sorry about the double post. I got an error message and it posted twice.
trusted

Leitchfield, KY

#15 Jul 7, 2012
this is bad, but it is hw things r now. i lost my home several years ago and many lent a hand. i now try and pay it back by helping anyone in need. it does come back to you someday, although it does take a while i have tried to harden my heart but it does not work, i only come out more tender than before.
Hurt

United States

#16 Jul 8, 2012
This is where I'm at right now. It seems like a lot of people have to use no effort to have everyone fall at their feet and love them. However, it seems like I try so hard and it still doesn't get me anywhere. I've been nice to people all my life because that's just how I am but it gets me no where basically.Life sucks then you die. You just gotta keep telling yourself it will get better eventually.
trusted

Leitchfield, KY

#17 Jul 8, 2012
I know things can get so bad at times, but i try and always think someone has it so much worse. my problems are medley compared to some peoples. So when its bad, just think it can get worse. Good has to overcome evil someway
yep

Bowling Green, KY

#18 Jul 8, 2012
Your right. It could always be worse and there are always people who have it worse then you. But nobody has the right to walk all over someone else no matter how good or bad their life is. I used to try ro be nice to people regardless of how mean they were to me and others. It just made them walk over me even more.
bleeding heart

Bowling Green, KY

#19 Jul 8, 2012
what is there anything to try for anymore? everything that was good is gone now.
trusted

Leitchfield, KY

#20 Jul 8, 2012
you have to keep on trying . if you have lost a love or someone , there is something else out there. maybe you have just not been looking in the right place. there is still good , it just needs to be shinned up again. try looking for it other places.
bleeding heart

Bowling Green, KY

#21 Jul 8, 2012
there is just to much to overcome & get thru

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