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Pamela

United States

#1 Jun 11, 2012
I have been married for 14 yrs, recently found out my husband has been cheating on me. I also have learned not with just one but many. We have one child together he wants to stay & make it work but says he still loves another. Should i kick him out or try to make it work for our child?
Tough Choice

Bowling Green, KY

#2 Jun 11, 2012
I hate to tell you but if he's cheated before he'll do it again. Simply because he thinks he can get away with it. If you stay you'll need to accept the fact that he may give you an STD. Or start cheating on him and see if you can give him one. I think you can do better than that.
wow

Louisville, KY

#3 Jun 11, 2012
Pamela wrote:
I have been married for 14 yrs, recently found out my husband has been cheating on me. I also have learned not with just one but many. We have one child together he wants to stay & make it work but says he still loves another. Should i kick him out or try to make it work for our child?
Kick him out! What are you teaching your child? Life is too short to be miserable!! You deserve more! And why would you want him when he admits he loves another? Show your child that you are a strong woman! Keep your head up and start a notebook. Document everything that happens. If its not written down, it didn't happen. You never know when you might need it for evidence!
riddle me this

New Albany, IN

#4 Jun 11, 2012
wow wrote:
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Kick him out! What are you teaching your child? Life is too short to be miserable!! You deserve more! And why would you want him when he admits he loves another? Show your child that you are a strong woman! Keep your head up and start a notebook. Document everything that happens. If its not written down, it didn't happen. You never know when you might need it for evidence!

What are you showing your kids by being a stalker and keeping notebooks of evidence. Seems to me that you are really miserable in life and a person that does not know how to let things go. And the only person you are documenting it for is yourself because when its all said and done with. No one but yourself is going to read that stuff. My advice, get a life. If he is cheating anf you arent happy. LET HIM GO.....
Thelma

New Albany, IN

#5 Jun 11, 2012
It is never just one. Get away from him and don't look back.
It has nothing to do with you or the other women. It is him. He is the one flawed.
WEHS

Frankfort, KY

#6 Jun 11, 2012
Pamela wrote:
I have been married for 14 yrs, recently found out my husband has been cheating on me. I also have learned not with just one but many. We have one child together he wants to stay & make it work but says he still loves another. Should i kick him out or try to make it work for our child?
YOU alone can't make it work, it TAKES 2! Of course he wants to stay, my question is WHY would you want him to knowing he loves someone else & obviously he has not respect for you or his child or he would have never put you all in this situation! What is that teaching your child? and before you say child knows nothing/too young whatever I promise you a child knows LOTS more than you think. You can stay with him but it's going to be a LONG unhappy life for you!
qwerty

Bowling Green, KY

#7 Jun 11, 2012
Let somebody else have him. He has wasted enough of your life, you are stupid if you stay. If he says he loves another but wants to make his marriage work how could you live with someone knowing they will always be thinking about another? He sounds like a real wienner or a retard!!
Matt

Bowling Green, KY

#8 Jun 11, 2012
riddle me this wrote:
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What are you showing your kids by being a stalker and keeping notebooks of evidence. Seems to me that you are really miserable in life and a person that does not know how to let things go. And the only person you are documenting it for is yourself because when its all said and done with. No one but yourself is going to read that stuff. My advice, get a life. If he is cheating anf you arent happy. LET HIM GO.....
Wow hilarious, since when is keeping notes make someone a stalker? Laughing hard at that, why not keep notes to protect yourself?? Use them if need be, if not toss them in the trash like you should do this man, after all he has treated you like trash as well as your child or he would not have ever done it, shows disprespect and inconsideration. My advice, just leave the situation and keep things at a level of agreement for your child, don't make him/her suffer even though you are.
Chris Rice

United States

#9 Jun 11, 2012
done!
one who knows

United States

#10 Jun 11, 2012
Just try to be reasonable for the child and keep things civil. Alot of people in the same situation these days. You don't deserve that kind of life neither does your child. If someone doesn't love you there is no way you can make them, people make the mistake of staying for the children & that doesn't teach them how to have a good lasting relationship when they got out on their own. You can still be loving parents together or apart.
Carla

Bowling Green, KY

#11 Jun 11, 2012
wait until he brings home a bad std like hiv and then where will you be if he hasn't already? hope you go get a complete work up. best of luck to you.
James

Bowling Green, KY

#12 Jun 11, 2012
Oh my dear how i do feel for you.

Do not stay with someone you will never be able to trust. It will affect your mental and physical health.

No one is worth that and do get your self checked out.
Misty

Bowling Green, KY

#14 Jun 11, 2012
Get away from that man he will always cause you heartache.
ellen

Leitchfield, KY

#15 Jun 11, 2012
I do know , you cant make someone love you . No matter how much you want them to. You can move the world for them but not make their heart move if it does not want to be.
suck on this

United States

#16 Jun 11, 2012
wow wrote:
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Kick him out! What are you teaching your child? Life is too short to be miserable!! You deserve more! And why would you want him when he admits he loves another? Show your child that you are a strong woman! Keep your head up and start a notebook. Document everything that happens. If its not written down, it didn't happen. You never know when you might need it for evidence!
evidence?? Just because you write something in a notebook doesn't make it true nor does it make it evidence. That's like saying just because its on topix its true. Anyone can start something on topix and anyonhe can write anything in a notebook.
Anna

Bowling Green, KY

#17 Jun 11, 2012
I know you must feel awful and my heart goes out to you. Try your best to stay strong for your child, take it one day at a time, 14 years is a long time but i have seen marriages for longer than that fall apart, if these people would speak up and be honest about their feelings then it would save alot of hurt,pain,time and anger which could all been avoided earlier.
Don't waste anymore of your time on someone who will never be 100% faithful to you or love you.
Let him go and you move on without him, don't burden yourself anymore for what he has done.
David

Bowling Green, KY

#18 Jun 11, 2012
Pamela, don't you have any respect for yourself as a woman? I can see trying to work it out if he has only done it once, but several times & admits he is in ''love'' with another??? Come on that is like a slap in the face! Time to let go & start living the life GOD gave you.
Tracy

Bowling Green, KY

#19 Jun 11, 2012
omg women are so stupid these days and men. what is there to work out he plainly does not love you so why would you even want to consider working it out? once a cheater always a cheater.
Pamela

United States

#20 Jun 11, 2012
I would like to thank all of you for the advice. Only problem weighing on me is that i take our marriage vows seriously & the fact our families have stronlgy urged us to work it out. I don't wish to be made a fool of in return i want to do what is best.
WTH

United States

#21 Jun 11, 2012
i hate when people get on here and talk about cheating..blah blah blah....look its obvious the man is a player dont be living by what any family members say lmao they dont live your life bet they just want to keep the family name from being tarnished! makes me sick that anyone would even codone that crap! kick him to the curb let a family member worry with him! or whover he is in love with. i take it you have done the right thing long enough with the marriage vows??? thats not your fault it is his. God wants you to be happy thats why he gave you choices!

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