You can never win with a ~NARCISSIST~

You can never win with a ~NARCISSIST~

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Free from you

Bowling Green, KY

#1 Feb 17, 2013
It just isn't possible. No matter how much you love them, you have to let go. Walk away for good and stick to it, never look back. They will never be what you want, they will never respect you, never be truthful to you, they will never be remorseful, they will blame you for all that went wrong, they only feel for themself. This person loves their life to be private because they don't want everyone knowing how they really are. They will never appreciate anyone they don't know how. They don't know real love it's not wired in them to know how to love. This type of person can destroy you if you allow it.
Never let them tell you they are going to change, it's just another way of abusing you and for them to have more control over you so they can continue covering their lies and deciets better.
I am serious people, if you suspect someone has this you love, google it do your research.
hmm

Lafayette, TN

#2 Feb 17, 2013
Free from you wrote:
It just isn't possible. No matter how much you love them, you have to let go. Walk away for good and stick to it, never look back. They will never be what you want, they will never respect you, never be truthful to you, they will never be remorseful, they will blame you for all that went wrong, they only feel for themself. This person loves their life to be private because they don't want everyone knowing how they really are. They will never appreciate anyone they don't know how. They don't know real love it's not wired in them to know how to love. This type of person can destroy you if you allow it.
Never let them tell you they are going to change, it's just another way of abusing you and for them to have more control over you so they can continue covering their lies and deciets better.
I am serious people, if you suspect someone has this you love, google it do your research.
Starting to think that's what I married , way to many secretes ,, I wonder if its hereditary he has 2 grown sons hmm they are a little nuts too ..
hmm

Lafayette, TN

#3 Feb 17, 2013
secrets **
Huh

Canton, OH

#4 Feb 17, 2013
Guess someone got a little hurt by someone?
hmm

Lafayette, TN

#5 Feb 17, 2013
I did look it up , hmm he does have a few of these traits , I think a lot of people do ,, I copied this from wiki , I THOUGHT IT WAS SPITTING LOL , I THOUGHT WTH DOES SPITTING HAVE TO DO WITH THIS LMAO
Main article: Splitting (psychology)

People who are diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder use splitting as a central defense mechanism. According to psychoanalyst Kernberg, "the normal tension between actual self on the one hand, and ideal self and ideal object on the other, is eliminated by the building up of an inflated self-concept within which the actual self and the ideal self and ideal object are confused. At the same time, the remnants of the unacceptable images are repressed and projected onto external objects, which are devalued."[19]

The merging of the "inflated self-concept" and the "actual self" is seen in the inherent grandiosity of narcissistic personality disorder. Also inherent in this process are the defense mechanisms of devaluation, idealization and denial.[20] Other people are either manipulated as an extension of one's own self, who serve the sole role of giving "admiration and approval"[21] or they are seen as worthless (because they cannot collude with the narcissist's grandiosity).
No love

Bowling Green, KY

#6 Feb 17, 2013
Check this it is very interesting.
http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/there-is-no...
Yea

Canton, OH

#7 Feb 17, 2013
No love wrote:
Check this it is very interesting.
http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/there-is-no...
Yup, I definitely know that feeling, you can't win with these people, so blameless in everything, even when they hurt you right in front on your face and still believe they haven't done anything wrong.
Silent treatment

Bowling Green, KY

#8 Feb 17, 2013
The silent treatment from a narcissist is a common form of abuse used by people who cannot stand to be on the receiving end of another person's self assertiveness. The silent treatment cuts the victim off from the abuser, it sends a distinctive message about how insignificant the victim is and how easy it is for the abuser to live without them. It is utilized by insecure people of weak character and poor self image who cannot keep up their end of a relationship through dialogue. It's their way or else. When you do something that displeases them you cease to exist for a certain period of time
hmm

Lafayette, TN

#9 Feb 17, 2013
No love wrote:
Check this it is very interesting.
http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/there-is-no...
yep , I am in there ,, pisses me off to no end ,, yes I need closer , and I DO want an apology from the rotten sob .. I did lose myself somewhere , I am working on me daily ,, Thank you for the link ..I see him in just about every response , whats more sad is I see myself and the wasted years .. what a cold cold bastard ..

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Since: Mar 11

Rockin' USA ;)

#10 Feb 17, 2013
Yeah, Scorpio's are Great Lovers... BUT the Narcissistic side WILL make you stir crazy!! ALL about them...NO MATTER..WHAT you say, IT I'd THEIR opinion THAT will be heard.. NOT YOURS!!...
Love

New Haven, KY

#11 Feb 17, 2013
Feel in love with one too.,,
IFeelThePain

Casey, IL

#13 Feb 18, 2013
Colorado Chick wrote:
Yeah, Scorpio's are Great Lovers... BUT the Narcissistic side WILL make you stir crazy!! ALL about them...NO MATTER..WHAT you say, IT I'd THEIR opinion THAT will be heard.. NOT YOURS!!...
Cancers are just as bad. I've been with both, and neither has any feelings, remorse or admission of wrong doings. They ONLY think of themselves. I got away from one, now I'm deep into a Cancer, but he's bringing me down. I'm trying to be strong and not give in to his egotistical ways. Funny, he thinks he's perfectly normal.
Believe u but

North Ridgeville, OH

#14 Feb 18, 2013
I believe your stories but be careful of diagnoses! These people may just be downright a$$|-|oles. Give them no excuse!
hmm

Lafayette, TN

#15 Feb 18, 2013
Believe u but wrote:
I believe your stories but be careful of diagnoses! These people may just be downright a$$|-|oles. Give them no excuse!
I think you are right , the silent treatment is a little spooky , pisses me off , yes I was one of those that called all the time , I need closer , after all these frkn years , I need closer ....
IFeelThePain

Casey, IL

#16 Feb 18, 2013
hmm wrote:
<quoted text> I think you are right , the silent treatment is a little spooky , pisses me off , yes I was one of those that called all the time , I need closer , after all these frkn years , I need closer ....
The proper term is closure. You need closure in that relationship. And, let me tell you from personal experience, it is hard to do, but can be done. You HAVE to just keep telling yourself that you deserve better. Don't call or text him. Soon, he will wonder where you got your strength. And, it will piss him off because he thought your world revolved around him. Be strong, though.
Hillbilly

Bowling Green, KY

#17 Feb 18, 2013
I had a pig once that thought he was God's gift to bacon, so I had him over for dinner one evening.
give me strength

Providence, KY

#18 Feb 18, 2013
wish I could do that as well
Sam Vaknin

Bowling Green, KY

#19 Feb 18, 2013
Victim of Narcissist: Move On!
http://youtu.be/qaVn5IPlUvo

Narcissist's Routines
http://youtu.be/x9P4PfwIIew

Narcissist's Insignificant Other: Typical Spouse or Intimate Partner
http://youtu.be/dMMLGM5OmP8

Narcissist Never Sorry
http://youtu.be/ipeAbT6kiW8

Can Narcissists Truly Love?
http://youtu.be/QOAdY3mqNJ0

Effects of Abuse on Victims and Survivors
http://youtu.be/0-Yc5069jRs

Narcissist Hates Happy People
http://youtu.be/no5-rKy_rqc

Spot a Narcissist or a Psychopath on Your First Date
http://youtu.be/jYP9JShyXAc

Faces of Narcissist's Aggression
http://youtu.be/RBkgFyDupe8

Narcissist Reacts to Criticism, Disagreement, Disapproval
http://youtu.be/njxtBM0RQnM
Maripaz Lara

South San Francisco, CA

#20 Jul 18, 2013
No contact, Silent treatment anything that you need to do in a good way to avoid them. I was married to one. Once you have been discarded by a narcissist thank your lucky star. Yes it hurts for I too kept dwelling on a person who claims he was not. I was living in a fantasy. The abuse, lie, cheating, pornography, womanizing and abandonment needs to stop. You have a heart they don't. Seek help from experts, join support group and heal yourself. God is close to the broken hearted. If God is for us who cam be against us
God bless and prayers to all who have been victimized by these people. Stay strong!
Very curious

Bowling Green, KY

#21 Jul 18, 2013
Maripaz Lara wrote:
No contact, Silent treatment anything that you need to do in a good way to avoid them. I was married to one. Once you have been discarded by a narcissist thank your lucky star. Yes it hurts for I too kept dwelling on a person who claims he was not. I was living in a fantasy. The abuse, lie, cheating, pornography, womanizing and abandonment needs to stop. You have a heart they don't. Seek help from experts, join support group and heal yourself. God is close to the broken hearted. If God is for us who cam be against us
God bless and prayers to all who have been victimized by these people. Stay strong!
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