“Fighting The System”

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#41 Jun 30, 2010
Regardless wrote:
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It takes two to tango, Want the kid or not the parent is liable for the child and should be... The child is innocent and should be afforded the best both parents can provide. Your logic is flawed here.. If they are not paying court enforce child support, What makes you think they would pay it without fear of reprisal.
Here is a link for the original poster...
http://singleparents.about.com/od/legalissues...
Still you don,t see a little equality being stomped on in the law? I stated the point in fact because several years ago my girlfriend at the time got pregnant by me. She wanted a abortion and I didn,t. She was 27 at the time with no kids and her reason for not wanting a kid was stretch marks of all things. I offered to raise the kid on my own but no she wasn,t having it. Now against my moral beliefs she goes and has this abortion. Im told there was nothing I could do to stop it because it was her right. Now if she had the kid and I didn,t want it I,m going to pay child support for 18 years. All I,m saying is the parents should have been allowed to help raise their kids on their own without the goverment having to tell them they have too. Their moral responsability should be enough without a law. Sometimes being told you,ve got to do something will keep you from doing something. The whole child support system is a serious mess.

“Every Action has an equal”

Since: Sep 09

but opposite Reaction.

#42 Jun 30, 2010
GreenMan39 wrote:
<quoted text>Still you don,t see a little equality being stomped on in the law? I stated the point in fact because several years ago my girlfriend at the time got pregnant by me. She wanted a abortion and I didn,t. She was 27 at the time with no kids and her reason for not wanting a kid was stretch marks of all things. I offered to raise the kid on my own but no she wasn,t having it. Now against my moral beliefs she goes and has this abortion. Im told there was nothing I could do to stop it because it was her right. Now if she had the kid and I didn,t want it I,m going to pay child support for 18 years. All I,m saying is the parents should have been allowed to help raise their kids on their own without the goverment having to tell them they have too. Their moral responsability should be enough without a law. Sometimes being told you,ve got to do something will keep you from doing something. The whole child support system is a serious mess.
I agree that it is not balanced, But I also see the necessity for the law.. Alot of people do not have the same moral compass as you and I do, Would you not agree?

“Fighting The System”

Since: Jul 09

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#43 Jun 30, 2010
Regardless wrote:
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I agree that it is not balanced, But I also see the necessity for the law.. Alot of people do not have the same moral compass as you and I do, Would you not agree?
Well it would be nice to think they did.

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Since: Sep 09

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#44 Jun 30, 2010
GreenMan39 wrote:
<quoted text>Well it would be nice to think they did.
I agree it is a nice thought, but we both know that it is just not an expected reality and will probably never be...
gess who

United States

#45 Jul 24, 2010
You know what just shut The *#%&% up beacouse this guy is right you don't know the hole story so you should not comment on something that you don't under stand because I have three kids with my wife I support no matter what I have Panhandle for money to support my kids I put a roof over there head and close on there back I have not been able to find a job in 2 years because of this fucked up economy. I also have a child with a girl that dos drugs and has threesoms with whoever the fuck she wants I had a kid with her befor I met my wife she has been to prison off an on since she was 15 she just got out of jail and. About to go back in for 8 years and I don't have s&%t on my record and the cort still says she is a good parent ok what the *&%$% ever .
puppetmaster

Canton, OH

#46 Jul 24, 2010
bgpd put my friend in jail for $600 in back cs
nana

Sykesville, MD

#48 Dec 11, 2010
A lawyer once told me if a father or mother never pays childsupport for a straight year you can take to court to take away all parental rights. Sometimes I feel that will be the best way for my grandaughter. He should never get to see her if he doesn't even try to help out he has no education not even high school and no job.
great dad

Bowling Green, KY

#49 Dec 13, 2010
That's what I want to talk about...all I hear is about women "where's my child support", all you women need get up and support you and your kids ass instead of looking for a damn handout!! I've had full custody of my kids and never once asked for money from their mother and frankly don't want their money!! Get so tired of hearing about deadbeat dads, so let's talk about all the deadbeat moms for min....any input??
Hellen Killer

Greencastle, PA

#50 Dec 21, 2010
great dad wrote:
That's what I want to talk about...all I hear is about women "where's my child support", all you women need get up and support you and your kids ass instead of looking for a damn handout!! I've had full custody of my kids and never once asked for money from their mother and frankly don't want their money!! Get so tired of hearing about deadbeat dads, so let's talk about all the deadbeat moms for min....any input??
Yes, heres some input for you. Do you know what it feels like to spend 3 years with a guy, who tells you that he wants to badly to have a baby and get married. And then, when you actually do get pregnant, he leaves and wants nothing to do with your child. Do you know what it feels like to be 17 years old and in labor all alone? Or to have to go to birthing classes with no partner? You have no idea what some of us mothers have went through. My son's stepdad and myself have given my son everything. A brand new house and pretty much everything he needs/wants. As far as I am concerned if you tell a woman you want to have babies with her and then 'decide' that you don't feel like it anymore, you deserve to support that child! I would have never made the decision to get pregnant at 17 and be alone with my son! I thought we were a family!
Hellen Killer

Greencastle, PA

#51 Dec 21, 2010
great dad wrote:
That's what I want to talk about...all I hear is about women "where's my child support", all you women need get up and support you and your kids ass instead of looking for a damn handout!! I've had full custody of my kids and never once asked for money from their mother and frankly don't want their money!! Get so tired of hearing about deadbeat dads, so let's talk about all the deadbeat moms for min....any input??
Oh, and your kid's mom supporting your kids is NOT for you! It is for your kids! If nothing else, you could put the money back for their college, or a car when they turn 16. Your own need to feel 'independant' is not more important than your kids. It's only hurting your kids not to pursue support, remember that. If you loved them, you would want them to have more in life...and you would stand up for them to the deadbeat mom. Instead of backing down and claiming that you are so independant and don't look for handouts...it seems like you are more worried about yourself and how you will look. I can't stand your arguement at all.'Oh I am so self-sufficient I DON'T WANT SUPPORT! Well not EVERYTHING is about YOU! Realize this is something that good parents do even if they don't want to for their children! I am sure your kids would love having some extra money when they get older and want to buy stuff! My son never has to go without, and its because I had the BALLS to go to court and look the sperm donor in the face and stand up for what OUR son DESERVED! Not for myself! I would never let my own wants affect the decision I made about child support, because if it were for my own self, I WOULD NOT have gone and spent 2 seconds with that loser.
Just me

United States

#52 Mar 29, 2011
cornbread junkey wrote:
but does the money go to the kids most of the time no
I will not call you an idiot like the previous writer but I will call you foolish. Why let a man go Scott free just because you do not like him. Why deprive your children of their father just because you despise him. I do not get it. You are wrong. If he is dangerous then allow protected visits. That is still their father.
nuff said

Ft Mitchell, KY

#53 Apr 1, 2011
My child support is based on me making $4k/month, despite the fact I made $27k for the whole year. I paid $12k in child support, and I couldn't afford to keep my house. I have joint custody, but I haven't laid eyes on my kids for 18 months. I've spoke to them on the phone twice in that time. My ex lives with his mother and doesn't have any housing expenses. His mother keeps the kids while he makes $50K/year working at night and he doesn't pay her a dime. He has a brand new truck and two or three other vehicles. He fought me for 2 years for custody until I was out of money to fight with. He paid $300/mo in child support and "paid" his mother to watch the kids... He loves for everyone to praise him for doing such a great job at raising those kids without their mother - but without money you can't do a darn thing. He gets his straight from my check...and the child support office screwed that up too! I told them... you're not having enough withheld! Now... I'm behind - guess they'll get some tax money again this year.
You know

United States

#54 Apr 1, 2011
90% of this could be solved by not sleeping around with people, and not getting divorced cuz your partner left the seat up, or whatever other petty crap people get divorced for these days. And I know someones gonna scream oh he or she cheated on me... Blah blah, that's usually your own fault too. If you aren't keeping the partner happy, someone else will. Don't focus on your friends, or your video games, or sports, or gardening.... Focus on your SPOUSE and divorce won't happen. No divorce = no child support.
Worried

Toledo, OH

#55 Apr 21, 2011
So my dad owes $20,000 in child support could this get him locked up?
Jay

Bowling Green, KY

#56 Apr 21, 2011
broke wrote:
im 19 and my brother is 17 and he has never in our life paid child support he is thousands of dollars behind he went to jail about 2 days this year and then they let him out and he ran to florida! ha what a lowlife
He ran to Florida, so he wouldn't get locked up. Florida doesn't recognize other states rights for child support, unless the custodial parent lives in florida.
jessica chambers

Franklin, KY

#57 Apr 26, 2011
how about having your own lawyer who can help you or give you advice on how to go about getting your child support that you deserve try prepaid
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Daddy

Hartville, OH

#58 Apr 28, 2011
If Im a day late they start yelling at me.
Porky pig

United States

#59 May 13, 2011
jennifer wrote:
How far behind does a person have to get before something can be done? Do past medical bills that they are paying count towards this also? What usually happens.
medical bills don't count toward child support. one of you has to have insurance, and the other is supposed to pay like thefirst $100 and all the copays and then all other medical or dental is split down the middle. Usually the one paying the child support has to have the insurance, but does n ot always work out like that.
i tried

United States

#61 May 13, 2011
nana wrote:
A lawyer once told me if a father or mother never pays childsupport for a straight year you can take to court to take away all parental rights. Sometimes I feel that will be the best way for my grandaughter. He should never get to see her if he doesn't even try to help out he has no education not even high school and no job.
You can't do that. You have toprove the parent to be unfit before you can take away all parental rights unless the parent wants to give child up for adoption and other parent has a partner willing to adopt the child. My childs father didn't pay for almost 2 years.Eventually he will get caught and go to jail. And the child support keeps adding up even if hes not employed. If hes not employed they base the support off of minium wage and he is still ordered to pay.
i tried

United States

#62 May 13, 2011
They can get arrested now matter how far behind they are just depends on what kind of mood the judge is in and if they got a lawyer. $1 to $999 is a misdeameanor and $1000+ is a felony.

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