ben there

United States

#2 Nov 8, 2012
I have been through the very same thing. Just remember, your kids grow up quickly, they won't be young very long and you won't lose your relationship with them. I held on and got through it and I can tell you that it will get better. It's a horrible feeling to live with but you cannot snap your fingers and make it go away.

There are plenty of kids in families that have no divorce that are more screwed up than those that were in a divorced home. Lots of things affect kids today. The best thing you can do is to be there for them and you can't do that with your brains on the wall.

Try not to let them see your anger for your wife. That will hurt them and there is no need to turn them against her. It will do no good. Then they will have to deal with guilt for feeling that way towards their mom and you probably don't want that for them. If they grow to resent her, let it be because of what she has done and not because of what you said or did.

Give thanks to God for your kids. You can now see they are the only reason you are still here.

Hang on, bro. I swear it will get better.

Since: Nov 12

Colorado Springs, CO

#3 Nov 8, 2012
Hi there, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, but I want to let you know that although it doesn't seem like it right now, there is hope! Please don't take your own life, God has a plan for you and your family. If your wife chooses to leave you, then she will have to face the natural consequences for her own actions. You don't have to take your own life to punish her. You may not see it now, but your life has value, and you are here for a purpose. God has blessed you with two children, I pray that you will be there for them, they need you now more than ever. Remember there are many other choices you can make -- choices that could potentially turn things around in a positive direction. No situation is hopeless.

If you continue to feel this way, I hope that you'll consider calling the national suicide hotline. They are available 24/7, and the number is 1-800-SUICIDE. Also, I work with Focus on the Family, and they have licensed phone counselors that you can call also (at no cost). The number is 1-855-771-HELP(4357) and they are available between 6:00 am and 8:00 pm (MT) Monday through Friday.

If you feel that you might harm yourself, please go to the nearest hospital emergency room as soon as possible -- don't carry your burdens alone.

With prayer,

Rose

“Life is beautiful”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#4 Nov 8, 2012
almost wrote:
My wife is leaving me. Weíve been together 20 years, married 10. We have 2 children ages 10 and 6. I canít accept the thought of divorce. My whole world revolves around my family. I have no job, no friends. I think I am going to kill myself if she goes through with leaving me. I canít go on with this life if she does.
The only single thing making me hesitate is my children. I hate to do that to them. They will be so messed up. However, a part of me likes the idea of my wife having to explain to them that I killed myself because she left me, and her having to raise them with the guilt and difficulty of the situation. I want her to feel this for the rest of her miserable life. I want her to think of my brains splattered all over the wall every single time she wakes up. Thatís right, Iíll do it in front of her so she can have that image in her head.
The kids will be messed up from divorce anyway, this is just a little worse. Hopefully, they will blame their mother. Sheíd rather walk away than try to work it out. So selfish, doesnít care abut the kids being hurt. She actually searched and found articles online stating that divorce doesnít hurt children, just so she doesnít have to feel guilty. Well maybe blood on her hands will bring the guilt she deserves.
Let her go and start a new life! There is a whole new world out there and you just gotta believe! Don't give up life is to sweet!
Blahblahblah

United States

#5 Nov 8, 2012
thinkred wrote:
<quoted text>
Let her go and start a new life! There is a whole new world out there and you just gotta believe! Don't give up life is to sweet!
ROFLMAO
Guest

Haslet, TX

#6 Nov 8, 2012
Blahblahblah wrote:
<quoted text>ROFLMAO
You are a ROYAL AZZ.
STFU with your ugliness-! Obviously the people posting sincerely care & if you don't, then stay off this topix discussion-!!!!
bestestguest

Lake City, AR

#7 Nov 8, 2012
almost wrote:
My wife is leaving me. Weíve been together 20 years, married 10. We have 2 children ages 10 and 6. I canít accept the thought of divorce. My whole world revolves around my family. I have no job, no friends. I think I am going to kill myself if she goes through with leaving me. I canít go on with this life if she does.
The only single thing making me hesitate is my children. I hate to do that to them. They will be so messed up. However, a part of me likes the idea of my wife having to explain to them that I killed myself because she left me, and her having to raise them with the guilt and difficulty of the situation. I want her to feel this for the rest of her miserable life. I want her to think of my brains splattered all over the wall every single time she wakes up. Thatís right, Iíll do it in front of her so she can have that image in her head.
The kids will be messed up from divorce anyway, this is just a little worse. Hopefully, they will blame their mother. Sheíd rather walk away than try to work it out. So selfish, doesnít care abut the kids being hurt. She actually searched and found articles online stating that divorce doesnít hurt children, just so she doesnít have to feel guilty. Well maybe blood on her hands will bring the guilt she deserves.
Don't be alone sweety! Surround your self with positive uplifting people! Trust me it makes a big difference in how you see yourself!
Negative people pull us down with them so steer clear, hold your head up and get out in the world and smile!

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#8 Nov 8, 2012
Guest wrote:
<quoted text> You are a ROYAL AZZ.
STFU with your ugliness-! Obviously the people posting sincerely care & if you don't, then stay off this topix discussion-!!!!
Thank you!!!
guestguest

United States

#9 Nov 8, 2012
almost wrote:
My wife is leaving me. Weíve been together 20 years, married 10. We have 2 children ages 10 and 6. I canít accept the thought of divorce. My whole world revolves around my family. I have no job, no friends. I think I am going to kill myself if she goes through with leaving me. I canít go on with this life if she does.
The only single thing making me hesitate is my children. I hate to do that to them. They will be so messed up. However, a part of me likes the idea of my wife having to explain to them that I killed myself because she left me, and her having to raise them with the guilt and difficulty of the situation. I want her to feel this for the rest of her miserable life. I want her to think of my brains splattered all over the wall every single time she wakes up. Thatís right, Iíll do it in front of her so she can have that image in her head.
The kids will be messed up from divorce anyway, this is just a little worse. Hopefully, they will blame their mother. Sheíd rather walk away than try to work it out. So selfish, doesnít care abut the kids being hurt. She actually searched and found articles online stating that divorce doesnít hurt children, just so she doesnít have to feel guilty. Well maybe blood on her hands will bring the guilt she deserves.
Stay strong for you're. Children. You will make it through this and find something better.

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