What's up with trying to justify Randy for murdering Angela and blaming Paul? Life is all about the choice's we make. Randy made the choice to murder his wife. No one made him do it, he could have easily walked off or told her to leave and never come back. How many marriages did Randy break up? That is a different chapter, excuse me. How many other women has he tried to kill or maybe has killed that you and I don't know about? Was Paul dating them also? You can blame Paul all you want, but it is still Randy who murdered Angela. No one makes you murder someone in cold blood unless you want to murder them. From everything I have read, Randy didn't love his wife and was abusive to her. The 64,000 dollar question is, Why do women go back to their abusers?? I found the answer:Paul,
You ignorant a-hole, you just don't get it do you man??? You were "busy living" with a married woman. He may have told her to leave and find a younger man, but he could have just as well told her to eat s-it, but would she have run out and done that??? You are the one on here trying to justify your affair with another man's wife. And I doubt seriously that Randy was "busy figuring out a way to kill the both of you" or your sorry a$$ wouldn't still be on here trying to justify your actions.
From an outsiderís point of view, it is nearly impossible to fathom why a woman might return to an abusive relationship. While it seems logical that a woman would maintain her independence after going through the trouble of leaving an abusive relationship, there are many things that might also compel her to return. Fear is one of the primary reasons that women return to abusive relationships. Often, abusive men step up their threatening and manipulative behavior right after their victims choose to leave. As a result, many women come to fear more severe abuse if they refuse to return to their abusers. In some cases, women return to abusive relationships because they feel sorry for their abusers. A common tactic batterers use to control their mates is threatening to commit suicide. This may lead the victim to feel both guilty and worried, and she may return to the relationship to save the abuser. Just as often, batterers are able to convince their victims that they love them and are committed to changing. Believing the batterers and hoping for real change, some women return to these abusive relationships.
According to statistics, the average abused woman leaves her abuser seven to eight times before she leaves permanently. Victims of abuse often live in a state of fear, confusion, and overwhelming sadness. To make a successful and permanent separation from an abuser, a woman needs support and easy access to organizations dedicated to aiding victims of abuse. With this support and the understanding that the abuse will continue if they return, many abused women are able to leave abusive relationships permanently.
The situation between Randy and Angela is so sad, she never had the chance to escape from her abuser the day he murdered her. Please read the following post as well.