younger men and older women

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#23 Jun 6, 2011
hitler wrote:
i aint seein it but it would be cool.its the other way around
Haha. Hitler? wth? Why "hitler?"

There are pros and cons to any relationship. One of the pros to dating a younger guy is that usually ime you don't have someone trying to "daddy" you. If you have an independent mentality you want someone who is going to treat you as an equal in the relationship and not try to be controlling over you like some older guys are over younger women.

“Know thyself.”

Since: Sep 10

Murfreesboro, TN

#24 Jun 6, 2011
xx00b wrote:
Older men look sexier. Who wants to finish raising a lover?
Well, you don't raise them if they are already raised. Hopefully no one here is talking about pedophilia.

Age isn't even usually relevant unless it's drastic. A lot of it has to do with the attitudes people have about it. I know a woman who is 10 years older than her husband and they have been married for 50 years and have some children. Likewise I have an aunt who is 15 years younger than her husband with no children. It's really just wanting to make a relationship work and what you want out of your life. Every relationship is going to have it's ups and downs, but it all is decided by both people really wanting it to work.

Ex: I couldn't see myself with someone 20+ years older than I am because of my personality, my interests, and because it doesn't fit into my idea of what I potentially want for my life. Most likely someone 20 years older than I would have already had a family at some point in their life. I'd like to do the whole family thing with someone who hasn't already been there, done that, and is now tired of it.

Orange, CA

#26 Jun 10, 2011
In these days, younger men being attracted to older women and vice versa is no longer a secret. There are many different reasons why this is a shocking boost in these types of relationships, the most famous of them, currently being Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore, or Nick Cannon & Mariah Carey. They are basically the headlines of successful cougar dating.

Why are younger men so much more attracted to these women now? It's amazing; seeing a young man, who can probably get many younger women of his age, absolutely fall for an older women; and there's quite a deal of reasoning behind this, first and foremost, these younger men actually love the youthfulness and surprising energy that these older women bring.

Divorce Rates Going Up Divorce rates are going up, leaving many women single. Sure the men are single, but let's be honest, these days it's like the men like to date women that are simply half of their age; so it's not weird to see a man in his 50's dating a woman in her 30's sometimes in her 20's. It's pretty crazy, but the tides are turning, and now these single women are actually dating the younger men, who are full of energy and do not have the years of hardship slowing down like older men do.

The Secret is Over Also the secret is over, younger men have always been attracted to older women, but it was really forbidden in the past societies, but now this secret is being pretty much eradicated, older women do not care what their neighbor or colleagues think of them in this situation because attraction is attraction and at the end of the day; an age is just a number right?

The Main Fear The main fear of older women is that when they finally get an older woman, that they are going to immediately bolt for the first younger and more attractive lady that they find. But this fear is usually a false one; simply because there's a specific reason why a man loves the older women, it's because they give them a sense of experience and infinite youth; meaning that if you have had this youth for this long, then you are going to be forever young, and it's rather attractive.

Ontario, CA

#27 Jun 13, 2011
younger men have been attracted to older women for a long time, it's just that today these couples are not keeping it a secret anymore. Here is what some of these "younger men" have said about dating a woman 10 to 12 or more years older than them. Some young men are attracted to an older woman's maturity and the fact that older women seem more comfortable with themselves. Older women have lived more. Younger men are attracted to the fact that older women act more mature and seem to be less materialistic than younger women. Mature women don't mess with their heads and play mind games with them, acting coy and shy one minute, the next minute mouthing off and being bossy, showing her true self.With mature women, these young men know right were they stand because she will be up front with her young man, telling him what she's looking for and what she wants. This gives her young man a chance to "back
out" before anything gets too serious if he wants. Mature women don't want to waste their time or his by playing games. She is ready to have some fun with someone who shares the same interests as she does, and she doesn't want to have to worry about his hang-ups. She wants to know if he wants to be with her or not and if he doesn't, then she's going to move on and find someone who does, if he is embarrassed about the age difference, she's not going to waste her time. She has been around the block, and would rather be alone than with someone who is ashamed for the two of them to be seen together because of age.Society thinks sex is the only reason a younger man will want to go out with an older woman and society is only half right if that. It's the idea of woman peaking sexually in their 30s and 40s. Sure, younger men enjoy the experience the older woman can bring into a relationship. They enjoy having a partner that is not so inhibited during sex by saying what they like and want. Mature women today are taking better care of their bodies and are looking better too. For the most part, younger men find older women more interesting and fun to talk to. They find that their older girlfriends are more experimental and eager to try new things and to go to different places. Whatever the reasons may be, younger men are dating older women because they want to. There isn't any one reason for younger men dating older women. It could be a combination of many reasons. Maybe trying to put an explanation to it is a waste of time. Men and women are getting together and dating, when two people get together and find out they both have a lot in common and they like being together, why should they let a little thing like age break them up? Life is hard enough as it is, when two people find happiness with each other, who's business is it anyway? Age should have nothing to do with two people being happy.

Since: May 11

United States

#28 Jun 13, 2011
The fact is if you are a middle aged (30s) divorced man you probably have kids of your own. Being that you probably were married to a woman your age or younger, you may not want to have more kids or raise more than your own. Finances probably wouldn't be good in that situation. I can't speak in trends for "older women," but I date an older woman and she is the best for me. Still, different strokes for different folks so do what makes you happy!
Mad Maven of Randomness

Blacksburg, VA

#29 Jun 13, 2011
Ghost_of_Sparta wrote:
The fact is if you are a middle aged (30s) divorced man you probably have kids of your own. Being that you probably were married to a woman your age or younger, you may not want to have more kids or raise more than your own. Finances probably wouldn't be good in that situation. I can't speak in trends for "older women," but I date an older woman and she is the best for me. Still, different strokes for different folks so do what makes you happy!

Greagoir whispers the name, and thinks.


It's not what Greagoir would have named him, for sure. Cullen, to him, sounds like the name of a fairy-boy and not the name of the young Templar in front of him. No, if Greagoir had named him, he would have had a traditional Chantry name, a strong, manly name. Maybe Greagoir Jr.

He doesn't even want to imagine what Wynne would have named him.

Something silly, I bet. He snorts at the thought. Like Alistair, or Phineas.

Probably Phineas.

In truth, Greagoir doesn't know why he's sitting here, thinking about a situation that never occurred over a boy that may not even be his.

But he looks like me. Actually, he looks like Greagoir's father with his eyes, but Greagoir can see himself in the boy.

He can see Wynne in him, too, but he might be the only one to look and see that their smiles are identical, or that the boy's hair is the same color Wynne's was before she got old and gray.

It's maddening.

("Boy, didn't your mother teach you any manners?" He chides at the mess the boy has made at the table.

"Don't you know, Commander?" Cullen looks at him, curious at his statement. "I was raised by the Chantry. I never knew my mother.")

Cullen could easily not be his son.

But—his grandfather's eyes, Wynne's smile, my jaw—he could be.

He's the right age. And his son—Wynne's son—the baby the then-Knight Commander rode off with, would have been raised by the Chantry. Raised an orphan because the Chantry wouldn't want any child to know their mother is a mage, alive and well. It might make them sympathetic.

But why make him a Templar? Well, what else do they do with boys in the Chantry?

And if Cullen is Greagoir's son, then Greagoir isn't sure what to think. Surely the Maker sent him here to remind Greagoir of his sins, of the youthful discrepancy that resulted in a bastard child, the physical manifestation of every poor decision Greagoir has ever made.

Or maybe, he thinks while watching the boy fumble clumsily with a sword before going to guide him, the Maker is giving him a second chance.


Ontario, CA

#30 Jun 14, 2011
It is not rare to see a younger guy and an older woman date and have a very intense sexual and romantic relationship, which defies the traditional “older man, younger woman” set-up that we are used to seeing. This is not surprising. First, the fact that such a dating situation is still somewhat taboo makes it all more exciting. Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women. These younger guys are both curious and excited about dating a woman who is not ashamed of what she wants from a man sexually after being frustrated with trying to date girls of their own age, as the latter are often confused about what they want and are not as open about their romantic interest and sexuality, which makes it much harder for young guys to approach them and express their romantic interest. There are some other compelling reasons for why older women are more attractive to younger guys.

The more mature women, on the other hand, may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic. No woman is attracted to a guy who is a couch potato or who is unable to climb a set of stairs without being out of breath, especially if the woman herself is very active. Young guys have a stronger sex drive and are naturally hungrier for a woman’s body. Few things are more flattering to an older woman than being with a younger guy who craves her body and who is more eager to be close to her physically than any older guy would.

Often, a younger guy and an older woman would “decide” upfront that their relationship will be casual, and that they should not expect any commitment from each other. Ironically however, the very fact that people remove the pressure of commitment from their interaction increases their sexual attraction and passion toward each other and their desire to be with each other, as their relationship is not clouded by fears and complications of commitment, long-term relationships and related issues.

As a result of that increased romantic passion and sexual connection, the two people are actually more likely to develop feelings for each other and to feel very attached to each other – something they never planned for, but also something that happens quite often and is so far beyond their control. This is in large because it is simply impossible for a man and a woman to have a great time with each other, enjoy a special sexual connection over a long period of time and not develop feelings for each other.

Ontario, CA

#31 Jun 15, 2011
Is it true — that all boys fantasize about older women?

United States

#32 Jun 15, 2011
Older woman (10+ yr age difference) is F&CKING GROSS!!!!!!!!! I know this guy that's dating a woman w/a bigger age difference than that and she buys him everything, and he eats it up! And she's gonna be older, lonely, and broke when its all said and done. Bc that's how guys are, they stick around til they're bored or you're broke.

Not to mention if someone looks old enough to be your mom, isn't that a lil embarrassing??? Lol!

Nashville, TN

#33 Jun 15, 2011
Age aint noting but a number!!

La Follette, TN

#34 Jun 15, 2011
sad wrote:
Older woman (10+ yr age difference) is F&CKING GROSS!!!!!!!!! I know this guy that's dating a woman w/a bigger age difference than that and she buys him everything, and he eats it up! And she's gonna be older, lonely, and broke when its all said and done. Bc that's how guys are, they stick around til they're bored or you're broke.
Not to mention if someone looks old enough to be your mom, isn't that a lil embarrassing??? Lol!
Sounds like you're just bitter and maybe you've been ditched in the past by someone younger. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean you should dog someone else who enjoys older women. Its not sick, its healthy and most of the time just about sex anyway. Give it a rest and better luck next time.

Mount Juliet, TN

#35 Jun 16, 2011
I can’t explain why, but I’ve always been attracted to younger men. Without even knowing someone’s age, you can be sure I’m going to gravitate toward the younger guy. And I don’t know if it’s a function of I’m attracted to younger guys or younger guys are attracted to me. It’s just their energy, their enthusiasm” and—the biggie—“less baggage.

Ontario, CA

#36 Jun 17, 2011
Younger men may feel the younger women their own age are too immature for them.
Most older women are more independent, wiser and have other interests leaving some space for their partner to do some of the things he would like to do.
Most older women don't get as jealous as quickly by second-guessing that their young boyfriend is cheating on them.
Some younger men know that many older women generally are out for 'fun in the sun.' In other words, taking her for a ride down the garden path. In many cases some women don't care and are actually using the young man for any needs she may need in him.
Some younger men are 'old souls' and prefer older women because they can often be less troublesome as far as being selfish, self centered like some young women can be and are much more loyal.

Seattle, WA

#38 Jun 19, 2011
I think it depends on how big an age difference and how big a maturity difference the man and woman have.

I've dated older women (one was 15 years older) but she didnt act 42, she had an very young attitude and a butt that would not quit.

New York, NY

#39 Jun 19, 2011
A sexual relationship between a younger man and an older woman is long as it stays a SEXUAL relationship but I agree a dating relationship would have to depend on the maturity level they both have.

Seattle, WA

#40 Jun 20, 2011
I wish I new of a few older women looking for a younger sexual man like myself. To me at a prime a woman that is older than I they really know how to hide there eyes when their looking. You may not see them or even catch them looking, wanting, needing, lusting, for a younger male but I have felt when one woman in line behind me kept pushing her cart up against my ass. I turn around and everytime she just smiled and turned her head..All she had to do is ask me to go have a coffee or something and I would have took cover from there. I just wish there were more forward women out there. Hell, women take my hand and say "your coming with me" lol thanks

Mount Juliet, TN

#43 Jun 22, 2011
i nearly married a much younger man.

so i think it's fine - just fine!

Mount Juliet, TN

#44 Jun 22, 2011
A sexual relationship between a older woman and a younger man can be very enjoyable.

Since: Jun 11

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#45 Jun 22, 2011
Age is like wine... the older the better

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#46 Jun 22, 2011
you know its truee :)

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