Child drowns in Muskegon River in Big Rapids

Police say a 2 1 2-year-old boy drowned in the Muskegon River while visiting a park with his grandfather. Full Story
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Jacobs neighbor

Big Rapids, MI

#134 May 20, 2008
Susan, Tim, and all who are grieving over the Jacob's death... My heart goes out to everyone during this trying time. Tim, I've seen you with Jacob over the last month and a half that we moved into the neighborhood and have never seen a more caring daddy,.. Walking him and his sister in the stroller, going yard saling and to breakfast early in the morning because you and Jacob were the only morning people in the house and never letting the children out of your sight. I knew that these children were truly yours and Susan's from day 1.
My last memory of Jacob is last Saturday at the restaurant when we stopped to chat. You and he were having breakfast and he was trying to feed me his toast and jelly<smile>
Please know that prayers are with you all and that accidents do happen. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Ignore the ones who haven't a clue and just keep the good memories of Jacob alive.
Sincerely,
Julie
Your neighbor across the street.
What a liar

Franklin, MI

#135 May 21, 2008
Scott wrote:
What a crying shame that adults can be so damned incompetent about simply keeping an eye on kids at all times, ESPECIALLY when they are so young and you're obviously close to a water source. What makes it even more senseless is that so-called adults just can't seem to learn from others mistakes like this, and like the one's where kids are falling out of windows or playing with matches or lighters etc.
WTF is wrong with people, especially parents/guardians etc. There is NO excuse for this type of carelessness, and I mean NONE!
I have a nephew that just turned 6 and a little niece that just turned 6-month's old. I have spent a great deal of time with both kids since they were first born, in-fact both have been living with me since last September and I ALWAYS know where they are and what they are doing and know they are safe from both predator's or senseless things like yet another child wandering off and drowning or getting snatched by some sick person.
I took the simple time and modest expense of child "proofing" my home to make it extra safe for kids, including electrical outlet inserts in every single outlet that's not being used. Not to mention I've ALWAYS made a conscience effort to make sure the handle of ALL pans are turned inward towards the center of the stove so no little heads can bump into them and possibly knock the hot contents on them. But they already know the steer clear of the stove when I'm cooking and to walk around the kitchen center island and not past the stove/oven when in use.
Geesh, just a lot of inexpensive common sense safety features on top of keeping a close eye/ear on them at all times, same when going to stores etc. I NEVER leave them in the truck by themselves, not even for a two minute quick run in to buy a soda etc. They always go with me and are kept almost hipside so if anyone even thought about trying to snatch and run they wouldn't get but maybe two feet and I'd be choking the miserable life out of them.
Bottom line parents, grand parents, aunts/uncles, guardians etc. GET YOUR INCOMPETENT HEADS OUT OF YOUR @SSES and pay the hell attention to the little one's around you at ALL TIMES, ESPECIALLY when a parent has entrusted you with their care and safety. I'm sure this Grandfather feels bad and all that boo hoo stuff and it is indeed a tragedy, a tragedy that adults can be so damned incompetent and don't even absorb/learn from others ignorance and heartache from their ignorance.
I know if this jackass was in-charge of my Nephew and/or Niece and something as simple and preventable as the above happened I would NEVER forgive him/her and would feel they deserve to live with guilt, shame, regret, torment the rest of their life. YES, it sounds harsh but people like this need to feel extreme shame for their incompetence for failing the child in their care...
And you sir are a liar! Anyone with kids, and I mean anyone, will tell you that they can not keep track of them 24/7. Kids will find a way to hide, or what ever. Kids will find a way to get into trouble no matter what. The only way this would not be possible is if they were locked in a padded room. For you to bash this family the way you have, you are an ignorant ass. Losing any family member, let alone a child, is tragic enough. The way you talk of "training"(that is essentially what you claim) the kids to walk around the stove, and stay away sounds as if you have beat it into them. Kids don't listen. Kids "forget" things all the time.
You never seem to have anything good to say on any post here. You are always the perfect saint aren't you. You need a life.

Since: Apr 08

Michigan

#136 May 21, 2008
rval2 wrote:
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Perhaps you took his post out of context...I think he was Truly directing this at the people who don't watch their kids...remember last summer when that little 4 year old boy drowned in the neighbor's swimming pool [No Lock on Gate]...and come to find out, this mother had numerous CPS complaints on file for this exact thing, neglecting her child[ren];
Perhaps Scott should not have used This Grandfather to make his point, but none-the-less, the point still needs to be made...and made...and made...
No, Scott never has anything good to say about anything. He even bashed on the soldier who was killed on his motor cycle. Some people were taught that if one did not have anything good to say, then not to say anything at all. Scott missed that lesson.

Now, to the family. I pray for you in your time of loss. Any family loss is tragic. Hopefully you can find solice in the fact that he is indeed in a better place now, one with no hate spewn all about.

“...all but 6...UNLESS”

Since: Mar 08

The Merry Ol Land Of Oz

#137 May 21, 2008
k9 forever wrote:
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No, Scott never has anything good to say about anything. He even bashed on the soldier who was killed on his motor cycle. Some people were taught that if one did not have anything good to say, then not to say anything at all. Scott missed that lesson
The truth ain't always kind....

And perhaps you missed the grain of salt lesson
Amy

Grand Rapids, MI

#138 May 21, 2008
I know Tim and Susan and baby Jacob, Tim is my brother inlaws brother. I saw how they held him when he was just a baby and how excited, loving and proud they were of their baby son. Accidents happen, no matter how much you watch a child, no matter how careful you are. I have a great nephew the same age as Jacob and he is fast as lightening and very sneaky. It was an unfortunate accident and a tradgedy. You people should be praying for the family to have the strength to endure not condemning them and making assumptions. I will pray for you all that nothing tragic ever happens in your family.

Porter Family, you are all in my thoughts and prayers, may god give you strength in this time of sorrow.

Blessed are those who mourn; they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4

Amy (Deb Porter's sister)
Beth

Big Rapids, MI

#139 May 21, 2008
Scott, do you know this family? Well I DO! They are wonderful people and by no means are incompetent. Be careful up there on that mighty high trip of yours, you may fall off and have to eat your own words. We should not judge the circumstances. This family loved this child with all they have. They provided him a loving and caring home. Though you provide yourself all this wonderful praise, you wont be getting a "father of the year award from here." I can tell you this much too, this family done all the Child proofing etc as well... But ACCIDENTS HAPPEN!
You should be ashamed at your stone throwing. God be with you and the mistakes you are sure to make in the near future. Careful who you call a Jack@$$.. Hopfully you aren't teaching your nephews the wonderful arrangement of pathetic language you use and attitude you have. That will harm them just as much!
Love and prayers be with this family for their loss.. I love ya guys!!!
Roobear Big Rapids

Wixom, MI

#140 May 21, 2008
My heart aches for your family. I have seen Jacob and Dad, walking almost on a daily basis. Dad obviously had a great love for this little guy. It just goes to show how quick accidents can happen. I have a two year old little grandbaby. When I heard of this tragedy, I went home that night and gave him a big hug and kiss. My feeling is, I don't think others have any business or any right to judge others, especially when they do not know the circumstances. This family is dealing with enough grief without having to deal with cruel words from others. Instead of spending your time and energy on hurtful posts, say a prayer that this family will come to terms with this aweful situation, so they may begin a healing process. My thoughts and prayers are with you Porter family. Especially Dad, who I can imagine, has a very broken heart.
Church Family Member

Big Rapids, MI

#141 May 23, 2008
Tim, Susan and other family members: I am praying for you and the healing of this time in your life. I also am praying for the people who are talking against you and this situation. May we all be continuously compassionate in our daily living.
cheryl schaffer

Baltimore, MD

#142 May 29, 2008
this goes out to susan porter.sara was jacobs birth moter you got a gift when sara gave you jacob.she did that thinking you would beable to take care of him boy was she wrong.were was you when this happend.we were at the funeral to all that was not their it was the grandparents wanting the spot light not the birth mother.the funeral was just a way to get attention and donations.the birthmother was very hertby what happend.the family on myside had to leave the church becouse it was not handled right.the grandfather that was their when jacob drown showed up in the funeral home with a pair of dirty shorts and a t-shirt on.their was no love showen for jacob from the grandparents that adopted jacob.
mssallysue

Big Rapids, MI

#143 May 30, 2008
cheryl schaffer wrote:
this goes out to susan porter.sara was jacobs birth moter you got a gift when sara gave you jacob.she did that thinking you would beable to take care of him boy was she wrong.were was you when this happend.we were at the funeral to all that was not their it was the grandparents wanting the spot light not the birth mother.the funeral was just a way to get attention and donations.the birthmother was very hertby what happend.the family on myside had to leave the church becouse it was not handled right.the grandfather that was their when jacob drown showed up in the funeral home with a pair of dirty shorts and a t-shirt on.their was no love showen for jacob from the grandparents that adopted jacob.
First off, you must have a very short memory Cheryl! You got one part right.
The man, as you call Jacob's father, was wearing shorts. Those shorts, however, were clean. He also wore a nice button down dress shirt and a tie, not a t-shirt; not that it matters what he was wearing, I'm sure God doesn't care if we wear shorts in his house. "That man" was also Jacobs legal father. What part wasn't handled right during the service?
Sara was given an opportunity to get up and say something as was everyone else present. So.. if she craved attention.. why didn't she speak when she had the chance?
That funeral was for folks to pay their respects to Jacob and to help support the family through the tragedy of losing Jacob and it was a wonderful service. If donations were given to the family, it's because people wanted to contribute to help with whatever expenses there were regarding the funeral which, I'm sure Sarah didn't pay for in any way.
What's your point in attacking Susan? Have you people not caused enough grief already to last Tim and Susan for many years to come? A family who is still grieving over the loss of their son??Yes, their son, the one whom they have raised from birth.
I could sit here all day and condemn everything you've said, but suffice it to say, your day is coming, you'll have to reckon with your maker some day. I hope you can find forgiveness before that day comes.
I'm so glad that Tim and Susan have their church family and all their friends to lean on, but it's clear to me that you didn't attend the funeral to pay your respects to Jacob or to support the family.. you went to see what Tim was wearing.
May God Bless you, because I'm having a hard time doing so right now.
Jan

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#144 May 30, 2008
I have to somewhat agree with Scott. I go to the lake a lot in the summer and i watch parents go in one direction and let their kids go in another. And these are small kids. My heart goes out the the family. I can only imagne what the grandparent is feeling. But I also can only imagine what the poor child felt when he sank deeper and deeper into that black cold watery grave. The bottom line is people don't watch their kids when they are at lakes and pools. If the grandfater was busy with something else, he should have made the child stand right there with him until he was, once again, able to give him his full attention. People never think something so tragic could have to them, so they are very lax in watching their children.
cheryl

Baltimore, MD

#145 Jun 2, 2008
mssallysue wrote:
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First off, you must have a very short memory Cheryl! You got one part right.
The man, as you call Jacob's father, was wearing shorts. Those shorts, however, were clean. He also wore a nice button down dress shirt and a tie, not a t-shirt; not that it matters what he was wearing, I'm sure God doesn't care if we wear shorts in his house. "That man" was also Jacobs legal father. What part wasn't handled right during the service?
Sara was given an opportunity to get up and say something as was everyone else present. So.. if she craved attention.. why didn't she speak when she had the chance?
That funeral was for folks to pay their respects to Jacob and to help support the family through the tragedy of losing Jacob and it was a wonderful service. If donations were given to the family, it's because people wanted to contribute to help with whatever expenses there were regarding the funeral which, I'm sure Sarah didn't pay for in any way.
What's your point in attacking Susan? Have you people not caused enough grief already to last Tim and Susan for many years to come? A family who is still grieving over the loss of their son??Yes, their son, the one whom they have raised from birth.
I could sit here all day and condemn everything you've said, but suffice it to say, your day is coming, you'll have to reckon with your maker some day. I hope you can find forgiveness before that day comes.
I'm so glad that Tim and Susan have their church family and all their friends to lean on, but it's clear to me that you didn't attend the funeral to pay your respects to Jacob or to support the family.. you went to see what Tim was wearing.
May God Bless you, because I'm having a hard time doing so right now.
im glad you are a church friend but you know nothing about sara to pass judgement on her.tim is not to nice himself for talking about mexicans.
stephanie smith

Morley, MI

#146 Feb 23, 2010
ok jacob is my little brother my dad is his natral dad and you know it was no ones fault things happen and im tired of hearing how its tims fault cuz its not im only 15 and im not that stupid and when you write those ignarnt things u just hurt the family!so please evryone stop it is hard enugh with out rude untrue comments!
stephanie smith

Big Rapids, MI

#147 Feb 23, 2010
Don - Zeeland MI wrote:
How about the grandfather that was supposed to be watching the child?? Where in the heck was he during this? How can you let a 2 1/2 year old just wander off near a river?? Not once did the mother mention him. She wants to place blame on everyone else -
"...all these parents need to watch out for eacch others' kids..."
How about you watching out for your kid??
wow u r an ass jacob was my little brother and i think that you dont know what you are talking about. im 15 and u know what? the things people say hurt soooooo bad some of you people say things that hurt and for those people that arnt saying hurtfull things thank you im glad to see there are some nice people in this world! it wasent any ones fault and im tired of all this stupid talk that hurts the family is in enugh pain with out the hurtfull mean things that are going around!
charity

Big Rapids, MI

#148 Feb 24, 2010
i tell you what that poor family has been through enough my daughter and son share the birth father with Jacob and they read all these posts you would think you have never made a mistake. i went to the viewing with my kids and there were the porters trying their hardest to keep themselves together. you r clueless and u need to get a life thhis has been hard on all of us and as far as all the "precautions" that u claim u take i have a feeling that is just your way of covering up what a horrible person you really are why dont you get a life and quit worring about my family!!!
What a liar wrote:
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And you sir are a liar! Anyone with kids, and I mean anyone, will tell you that they can not keep track of them 24/7. Kids will find a way to hide, or what ever. Kids will find a way to get into trouble no matter what. The only way this would not be possible is if they were locked in a padded room. For you to bash this family the way you have, you are an ignorant ass. Losing any family member, let alone a child, is tragic enough. The way you talk of "training"(that is essentially what you claim) the kids to walk around the stove, and stay away sounds as if you have beat it into them. Kids don't listen. Kids "forget" things all the time.
You never seem to have anything good to say on any post here. You are always the perfect saint aren't you. You need a life.
Red

Sparta, MI

#149 Apr 27, 2010
Gwinnie wrote:
To Scott:
How do you know that this little boy didn't have a slightly older or slightly younger sibling that maybe the grandfather was busy with? You don't know the entire situation. From the story it sounds like he was occupied at the time the boy dissappeared. Your neice and nephew have a large age differnce where as the 6 year old is a little
more self sufficient so you would have more time to pay attention to the 6 month old. It doesn't matter how much you babyproof anything - eventually the kids figure out how to get into things anyway. My house is set up the same way. Everything they shouldn't get into is up high, door handles have child lock door knobs, baby gates are up etc. But my 2.5 year old twins have figured out how to get past the child lock door knobs, they push their toys up to cabinets and tables and stand on them to get things they want, meanwhile I'm chasing around my 15 month old. While the best parents out there do their absolute best to care for their kids in the safest manner, kids grow smarter and smarter each day and it becomes more and more difficult. Regardless of how childproof your neice and nephew's home is, you cannot be a 'perfect' parent, it's impossible. They WILL get into things and the most you can do is be there when they do it to correct them. Show some compassion for the family of this poor boy and wait for the day your six month old puts a penny in their mouth that fell out of your pocket when you pulled out your car keys. Accidents happen!
I would like to say here is the error.... Stop babyproifing everything... Don't put stuff up unless it's poisenous... Teach your children what is right and wrong.... I have a 4 yr old sister, she has known right from wrong since she was 1 1/2... She knows the water is danger and the park is safe....she knows to touch her toys and not my porcelin figurines... And I NEVER had to "babyproof" anything. Babyproof is a lazy excuse. Keep in mind you can babyproof your home but not the next home aunts uncles house... So just teach them... Yes... No. Good ... Bad. Right... Wrong.... No touch... Touch... It was easy with my sister.... And I hate to say but that early in the morning the park is not crowded at all... Blessings to the mother... Prayers for the grandfather....
Kim

Big Rapids, MI

#150 Jun 6, 2010
My heart breaks for this family and especially for the grandfather who has to deal with this horrible, unfortunate accident. To all of you who want to place blame, I want to say, I hope this family does not read this site and I hope you never have anything this horrible happen to one of your children. Scott--you can't possibly be watching two children at all times. Especially at the age of 6 yrs and 6 mos. Your changing the 6 month olds diaper or giving her a bath and where is the 6 year old--strapped to your leg??? You won't always be there---I made several trips to the emergency room with son after injuries on the way to school, at school, on the way home from school and guess what--I couldn't protect him when he went into Iraq and didn't come alive!! I can spend all day placing blame but that won't bring him back. This grandfather was spending time at the park with his grandson---something I wish more people would do! Life is to live--you truly never know when it might be your last chance! If only we couldn't protect the little ones from everything--life would be great but we can't --should we keep them experiencing life?? I hope not! I spend as much time outdoors with my miracle baby, who is 2 years and 3 months and yes, I am always watching him--but he still ends up with bumps and bruises--I don't stifle his growth. Please try to have some compassion cause God forbid should you have to ever deal with a loss like this.
Anne

Saginaw, MI

#151 Jun 28, 2010
It was an accident. plain & simple
16 year old sis

Morley, MI

#152 Dec 15, 2011
Pam wrote:
Too many elderly people raising their grandchildren. Not the way its suppose to be. Good thing he had his grandparents, his own must be usless. But again, people having children who cant take care of them and I as a grandparent would take great care but am not as sharp as I use to be. Thats why grandparents arent suppose to be raising their grandchildren. Too bad such a dis-functional family and a little boy pays.
im jacobs older sister and our family is not dis-funtional!!!

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