What to Do if You are Wrongfully Accu...
joey

Wharton, TX

#127 Feb 23, 2013
Same problem happened to me! I think they do it to imbarrass the #### out of you lol I mean if a woman is really scared they wouldnt act soooo childish is some situations!
adriana

United States

#128 Mar 1, 2013
I don't know what to do I got fire at work for sexual harassment ... Because a group of co workers didn't like me because iam gay .. I wall to my friend to ask her to give me my earphones that she had and two coworker said that I toch her ... When is not even true my friend told me that they wanted to get me in trouble ... She said that it wasn't true they make a investigation for. Two weeks so the gay threatening her to said the opposed and she falt for it so I got termite from work for saxual herrasment can I do somenthing is there word only ..
Clement k

Canada

#129 Apr 6, 2013
One of my co- worker1 was making fun of my female co worker because she had a breast implant, so me and my other co worker2 told her this guy was making fun of her, I talk to the manager about it and now coworker1 and I was accused of sexual harrassment because I asked her if it was true? Is there a way to defense myself? How come co worker2 didn't get charge of sexual harassment?
Marie

Edwardsville, IL

#131 Aug 15, 2013
If someone at a job does not like you for various reasons, is most of all jealous, goes to the boss's, security, etc and claims you are sexually harassing various men and one they feel in particular, if the one in particular is questioned and says nothing ever happened, would you still have to be informed that there was any accusation, or would they not let you know? Also would you still be investigated if they thought you were harassing other men?
tru story

Hazleton, PA

#132 Aug 16, 2013
I kidnapped the lying accuser and tortured, killed and disposed of them. Justice has no price.
JMF

Stockton, CA

#134 Aug 30, 2013
last week I was pulled into the managers office and was told that someone had filled a harassment claim on me I haave been a loyal worker fthis is or my compny and have never had to deal with this ever my file is clean this was a shock to me the girl who did it was out of our dept covering a vacation and thought she was going to stay out of the dept she was in whe se found out she was coming back all of a sudden this happends she said I called some names aand one day when my husband came she said I walked up to him and said why are you smiling at her do you like her cuz I don't all these alleged acusations were faulse but I was told I could be fired now shes comeing back to the dept and I don't think I should have to wok side by side with someone who filed this faulse report about me I was told if it happends agin I would be fired but nothen happened to her for filling a fausle claim doesn't seen right to me it has really aken a toll on me
liars always win

Hazleton, PA

#135 Sep 1, 2013
Hire a lawyer or take the skank on Judge Judy.
Wow

Arvada, CO

#136 Dec 5, 2013
Kenny L wrote:
I feel you. I worked as a security officer in Colorado. To make an extremely long story short: I had these 18-25-something young ladies who worked at a chocolate factory jump on my back saying "Kenny, give me a ride to the warehouse". They would sneak up behind me, cover my eyes and say "who is it"? They would pinch me on my sides, etc,etc.
One day I told them,"You're gonna have to cut this out because this ain't appropriate". When they saw that I was avoiding them, I was called into the office one day and told:"I'm sorry Ken, we're gonna have to fire you because 7 different women came forward and said you've been sexually harassing them, and we've done a full-scale investigation which proves you did".
They NEVER spoke to me about it, so all of a sudden I was fired without any recourse. I now have a suit with the EEOC. WORD OF ADVICE TO THE FELLAS: ALWAYS, report this type of behaviour first! If I would've reported their actions first, it might have kept me from being fired. I was just flattered that cute-hard-bodied 20-somethings were paying attention to a 40yo like me. GENTLEMEN ACT FIRST....TRUST ME!!
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I am in a similar situation in Colorado. Did you hire an attorney?
tim

Fresno, CA

#137 Jan 14, 2014
I was accused of harassment after being approached by a woman to give me a hospital jacket, who was an employee of a hospital. I was an independent contractor. She claimed harassment and battery after I shook her hand to thank her. One week later the hosipital administrator decided that I could only work only off site. No investigation or peer review was ever held so I could defend myself according to hospital bylaws. The woman who had a criminal arrest record found a previously suspended hungry lawyer to sue me after 2 years. How do you defend yourself
ForeverDamaged

Pittsburg, KS

#138 Jan 31, 2014
I am a professor that has been voted teacher of the year by student government and by my college. I am a Professor that after 16 years of service to my students was accused of sexual harassment by a disgruntled student in my class who thought she was going to receive a poor grade. Ironically, being one of the "nice guys" at the university I tend to have a large grade curve to avoid giving students bad grades. So a student may deserve a D but because of my curve they will often end up with a grade higher. I was shocked and angry when I found out from our equal opportunity officer that a female had lodged a complaint of sexual harassment against me. I am very conservative and I am totally aware of being "politically correct" in all situations associated with sex, ethnicity, religion, or cultural differences. My wife of 25 years knows me so well that she knew the complaint was a lie. When I met with our equal opportunity officer and heard the complaint the language was so vile that they are words that I never use or could repeat here. I am a person that use to believe that sexual harassment complaints all were legitimate because "Who would lie about such an event". Now that it has happened to me, I have new perspective upon sexual harassment claims. These accusers recognize that they have a very powerful tool to get revenge on anyone that has angered them. In my case where the charges could not be proved the cloud of doubt that hangs over you is never removed. I feel that I have been psychologically "raped" and would like to be vindicated. But the laws are in favor of the accuser. Hopefully, we will become a little less "polically correct" and start to treat these cases with an open mind.
your amigo

Long Beach, CA

#139 Jan 31, 2014
ForeverDamaged wrote:
I am a professor that has been voted teacher of the year by student government and by my college. I am a Professor that after 16 years of service to my students was accused of sexual harassment by a disgruntled student in my class who thought she was going to receive a poor grade. Ironically, being one of the "nice guys" at the university I tend to have a large grade curve to avoid giving students bad grades. So a student may deserve a D but because of my curve they will often end up with a grade higher. I was shocked and angry when I found out from our equal opportunity officer that a female had lodged a complaint of sexual harassment against me. I am very conservative and I am totally aware of being "politically correct" in all situations associated with sex, ethnicity, religion, or cultural differences. My wife of 25 years knows me so well that she knew the complaint was a lie. When I met with our equal opportunity officer and heard the complaint the language was so vile that they are words that I never use or could repeat here. I am a person that use to believe that sexual harassment complaints all were legitimate because "Who would lie about such an event". Now that it has happened to me, I have new perspective upon sexual harassment claims. These accusers recognize that they have a very powerful tool to get revenge on anyone that has angered them. In my case where the charges could not be proved the cloud of doubt that hangs over you is never removed. I feel that I have been psychologically "raped" and would like to be vindicated. But the laws are in favor of the accuser. Hopefully, we will become a little less "polically correct" and start to treat these cases with an open mind.
That is because this country no longer stands for justice. The laws make suspects free to do as they want. If people in this country don't change, you can expect the educated person's to travel and live in another industrial country. This is the beginning of the end of the USA.
Fired and Banned

Jacksonville, FL

#140 Apr 29, 2014
I was fired from my Job and barred from working similar jobs because of the accusations from a female co-worker. We were hired the same day at private inmate transitional facility in Florida. She was complaining "She thought she was getting the supervisors job that I got" I told her "she was a smart attractive woman she will get promoted sooner or latter here" statement 2, it was cold and raining outside and I was complaining about it being cold, she said "she was going home to snuggle with Ralph" (or whatever her dogs name is) I asked who is that and she stated "my dog" "I stated "What ever turns you on". When the HR lady was confronting me she kept going on and on about how inappropriate it is for a supervisor to tell a subordinate she is attractive. I tried to re-iterate she was taking the statement out of context and how I was just trying to encourage the employee. When they fired me I was told I was being fired for not meeting the probationary period. I have tried to get rehired back into the same employment field but I keep getting turned down, even at jobs I knew I was perfect for. I was never told I was fired for the so called harassment and I have three college degrees but can only get a job as a stock boy.
name

Houston, TX

#147 Jul 10, 2014
I was wrongfully accused of sexual harassment by someone who was a good friend of mine before this happened. I really took this accusation hard and my world was destroyed. My world literally shut down because I took this accusation so hard. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am very shy around women and I was raised to treat women like southern bells. A couple of weeks after I get fired I get a text from the accused womans mother who was a manager at one time at the establishment that a worked at, stating that my mother called her daughter a b#(%. My mother did not know who this person looked like. Now I have the knowledge that she brought my mother into this mess. She threatened to have me thrown in jail and my mother in her true fashion challenged her to produce one witness who could back up the claim. About a week ago now and I learn that the mother (the woman who ultimately got me fired) has been rehired to the establishment. And one of my friends who works there told me that she asked him if he heard about the situation and he immediately came to my aid. He told her that he knew me and that she overreacted and I would never do that. Everyone of my fellow employees came to support me after I got fired and was shocked by the accusation. They really helped to make me feel better but that is the only time that I feel better. This has haunted me to this day probably a year since the events have happened. I have not been able to get this out of my head and forgive myself. I was told how they tried to sue the company and got nothing. I was also given examples of how they are attention wanting and money hungry. Even with all the support from my friends and family I am still under a great emotional distress. It is the first and last thing that I think about every day. I dont know what to do but I believe I deserve some kind of retribution. When she brought my mother into this mess she really showed her true colors. That is what I think bothers me the most. I cant get over it or move on properly. I hope it doesnt but I think this will continue to haunt me for the rest of my life. I have lost sleep thinking about the what ifs in this situation and have been juggling between sadness and severe anger. I know this in unhealthy but I cant get over it and it has just consumed me to know end please tell me what do I do.
Tyler

Skillman, NJ

#148 Dec 3, 2014
Amanda wrote:
Had a heated argument with a co-worker. During the argument, I said to him "you're a liar, it's no wonder you're not married. 5 other witnesses were in the room. Later I was accused of Sexaul harassment for my comment. I received a written warning. Does my comment justify 'sexual harassment'?
No. Just immaturity. Hope you learned from it.
Tyler

Skillman, NJ

#149 Dec 3, 2014
Jinia wrote:
Well, I'm back. Haven't made any rash decisions yet but death does seem like the only way out of this horrible sentence. I have spinal arthritis and can't work in a hospital anymore. I'm old and fragile. THis desk job was all I had. I do feel suicidal as anyone would who is going through such a terrible thing. I have to say that this employee had a lot of power and HR supported her. Not me. To have this come at the end of my life when I was looking forward to retiring is the cruelest joke that could be played on any human being. I am alone and have no one to turn to. If God is listening, I wish HE would answer because there are no people on my side and I've done NOTHING wrong. I've spent all my life helping
people, working hard and TRYING to do good! Why
Don't you have a husband and children? Just retire or find another job. You are 51 not 71.

Since: Mar 15

Rosemead, CA

#150 Mar 1, 2015
I refuse to watch my mouth or my gaze. If I am ever accused of sexual harassment, especially by the 45+-year-old bipolars at my day program, I will just stop attending that program and be a netaholic. I will never pay any fines issued by the courts and threaten suicide if arrested and/or sentenced to incarceration. I am 31 and have adult autism and some anxiety for which I only medicate twice a week.

Many participants on this thread appear to agree with me that the California and Federal definitions of sexual harassment MUST BE NARROWED ASAP. So I decided I'd register with Topix and throw my two cents in.
Angela K

Buffalo, NY

#152 May 4, 2015
I feel a bit naive that I didn't know there were lawyers that could help with discrimination claims. I feel like I've seen a lot in the news recently and there are some people that cry "Wolf!" just to get something their way. It would be nice if people were more fair to each other and I guess that's why we have lawyers that help settle these disputes. Everybody deserves to have their side of the story heard. http://www.obrienlawpgh.com/discrimination.ht...
Hasan

Crownsville, MD

#154 Oct 27, 2015
too trusting wrote:
i have been brought up on erroneous allegations of sexual harassment at work. i have been out on paid medical leave for a few months, and will be out for another several weeks pending joint surgery (i did not get hurt at work). i stopped into work to grab something a couple of weeks ago, and spend between 30-60 minutes in the building visiting with co-workers. at one point a female co-worker walked into a room i was in and began laughing and mocking how i was limping and walking with a cane. i was pretty embarrassed, but decided to just laugh/joke it off (in order to try and patch up my relations with my co-workers for when i get back to work. my boss has conspired with some other employees and been extremely critical of my disposition. she and some employees take every opportunity to report my behavior as irritable and uncooperative anytime that i defend myself, or happen to not agree with every idea or practice that is proposed or introduced. i get scolded when i don't just accept aggressive or indignant behavior from co-workers). anyway, i was laughing nervously, and pretended to jab at my female co-worker with my cane to pretend to poke her. i was off balance because of my injury. i was nervous, not thinking clearly or paying attention and i accidentally poked her, and i believe that it was in her thigh/rear area. i was not looking at her because of being embarrassed by her mocking me. afterward i said "oops" and was going to apologize, but was cut off by her laughing, smiling and saying "ooh that's sexual harassment" in a funny voice. i had just invited this girl and her family, along with a few other employees to go to a parade the weekend before that. my girlfriend and i also lent the girl dvd's and exchanged phone calls and texts (none of which were of a sexual or suggestive nature) about work related and tv related subjects.
at our workplace, many of the employees are always making jokes of a mild sexual nature, or pretending to hit one another or pretending to threaten one another. they may also use offensive or aggressive language when venting to one another. people at my workplace sometimes accidentally bump into, reach around or touch one another due to our line of work being very physically demanding, fast-paced, and team oriented in small spaces.
i have never harassed anyone before anywhere. this has the potential to ruin my reputation and follow me for life. more than anything it's really painful to be accused of something that i am so against. i don't know what to do to protect myself?
Na
sal

Howard Beach, NY

#155 Oct 30, 2015
Orange wrote:
I've been accused by a (woman?)of sexual harassment. The investigators said they found nothing sexual in my emails to her. In fact they said they were nice. She saw me ride my bicycle at lunch time and said it scared her. So now I can't ride my bicycle at any time 24/7 anywhere in Anaheim that she might see me. I can't go to the company gym because she saw me there once, even though I didn't see her. She is a big hypocrite, in what she does for the company (her volunteering. She definitely has psychological problems There is a side of her that she keeps hidden. I've been told their going to fire me if they can even though I've done nothing wrong, except she is afraid of me for no reason except that I did like her alot and someone told her that. I don't want to bring her hidden side to light but I might have too, to save my job and dignity.
Hi I'm a butcher for waldbaums recently my store was bought by Stop n shop they have denied me a job saying that I have a complaint on file of sexual harrsment dating back to 2012, I'm learning about this now, and my union is working very slow wh at can you recommend, Thanks
Fred

Saint Louis, MO

#157 Apr 1, 2016
I went through this crap almost 20 years ago myself. In my case, I was at a vo-tech school that had been bought out by the state and forced to merge with a community college on the other side of town several years prior to my getting hired there. I was stuck with co-workers who were STILL angry about the merger that the state forced upon them, since, for instance, they no longer had any control over who got hired for positions there -- it was now decided at the campus on the other side of town, and they were still a bunch of sour grapes over it. So one or more of them decided they'd try to settle the score by accusing me of sexual harassment after I was there for less than a month in order to try to get my predecessor back (they liked him a lot), who got promoted to a position on the other campus. Even worse, in the small town where this occurred, there is a certain segment of the population there that has it in for outsiders -- and I moved from another state to take that job, not having a clue about what I was getting into, basically putting two strikes against me from the start.

Now, here's where things get even MORE ironic. There was a professor there whom several people had known that he had had sex with quite a few of his students -- yet he still continued to work there year after year after year without complaint. I, on the other hand, got chewed out at least once every week for WAY LESS than what he did. And, to top it all off, my boss was on the other campus, leaving me with no way at all to defend myself against the accusations (in fact, I got accused of sexual harassment there if I inasmuch as even BREATHED wrong). Ultimately, he believed their word over mine and fired me after less than a year there. I would have sued the college, but the job didn't pay very well at all to begin with, so there was no real point in doing so.

It took me a year after that to find another job, but that job was like night and day compared to the hell I'd been through, plus it paid a little better, too -- and I'm happy to say that that's where I still am today.:-)

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