What a crock of BS.<quoted text>
The "Gold Standard" is a stable, supportive, loving home. Whether it's parented by biological parents or not.
Kids can hope for a good biological parents, but it's just not always available.
The gold standard is stable, supportive, loving biological parents. They will trump any other default situation every time.
When that gold standard is not available, the results are always severely diminished.
Over the years, my wife and I fostered over 10 children. In every case, our goal was to restore them to their mother and father. That was the desire of the children and their parents.
How many children have you fostered VV?