Should your children care if their ac...

Should your children care if their actions embarrass your family and it image?

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GBA

Saint Marys, OH

#1 Nov 30, 2012
A letter from an extremely disappointed retired British nuclear submarine captain to his ‘underachieving disappointment’ children. Is it over the line?

The letter reads:
Dear All Three
With last evening’s crop of whinges and tidings of more rotten news for which you seem to treat your mother like a cess-pit, I feel it is time to come off my perch.
It is obvious that none of you has the faintest notion of the bitter disappointment each of you has in your own way dished out to us. We are seeing the miserable death throes of the fourth of your collective marriages at the same time we see the advent of a fifth.
We are constantly regaled with chapter and verse of the happy, successful lives of the families of our friends and relatives and being asked of news of our own children and grandchildren. I wonder if you realise how we feel — we have nothing to say which reflects any credit on you or us. We don’t ask for your sympathy or understanding — Mum and I have been used to taking our own misfortunes on the chin, and making our own effort to bash our little paths through life without being a burden to others. Having done our best — probably misguidedly — to provide for our children, we naturally hoped to see them in turn take up their own banners and provide happy and stable homes for their own children.
Fulfilling careers based on your educations would have helped — but as yet none of you is what I would confidently term properly self-supporting. Which of you, with or without a spouse, can support your families, finance your home and provide a pension for your old age? Each of you is well able to earn a comfortable living and provide for your children, yet each of you has contrived to avoid even moderate achievement. Far from your children being able to rely on your provision, they are faced with needing to survive their introduction to life with you as parents.
So we witness the introduction to this life of six beautiful children — soon to be seven — none of whose parents have had the maturity and sound judgment to make a reasonable fist at making essential threshold decisions. None of these decisions were made with any pretence to ask for our advice.
In each case we have been expected to acquiesce with mostly hasty, but always in our view, badly judged decisions. None of you has done yourself, or given to us, the basic courtesy to ask us what we think while there was still time finally to think things through. The predictable result has been a decade of deep unhappiness over the fates of our grandchildren. If it wasn’t for them, Mum and I would not be too concerned, as each of you consciously, and with eyes wide open, crashes from one cock-up to the next. It makes us weak that so many of these events are copulation-driven, and then helplessly to see these lovely little people being so woefully let down by you, their parents.
I can now tell you that I for one, and I sense Mum feels the same, have had enough of being forced to live through the never-ending bad dream of our children’s underachievement and domestic ineptitudes. I want to hear no more from any of you until, if you feel inclined, you have a success or an achievement or a REALISTIC plan for the support and happiness of your children to tell me about. I don’t want to see your mother burdened any more with your miserable woes — it’s not as if any of the advice she strives to give you has ever been listened to with good grace — far less acted upon. So I ask you to spare her further unhappiness. If you think I have been unfair in what I have said, by all means try to persuade me to change my mind. But you won’t do it by simply whingeing and saying you don’t like it. You’ll have to come up with meaty reasons to demolish my points and build a case for yourself. If that isn’t possible, or you simply can’t be bothered, then I rest my case.
I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed.
Dad
GBA

Saint Marys, OH

#2 Nov 30, 2012
Both my sons went wild and I used tough love. It ended up a period of estrangement with both, one of them lasted 10 years. Today, I have sons, that anybody would be proud to calls theirs. This behavior is very similar to that of the modern day liberal. Instead of bringing shame on their parents they bring shame on their nation. Some of us are about to leave our children. The libs that is

Since: Feb 11

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#3 Nov 30, 2012
GBA wrote:
Both my sons went wild and I used tough love. It ended up a period of estrangement with both, one of them lasted 10 years. Today, I have sons, that anybody would be proud to calls theirs. This behavior is very similar to that of the modern day liberal. Instead of bringing shame on their parents they bring shame on their nation. Some of us are about to leave our children. The libs that is
You most certainly have issues.
Bad Stan

Mansfield, OH

#4 Nov 30, 2012
GBA wrote:
Both my sons went wild and I used tough love. It ended up a period of estrangement with both, one of them lasted 10 years. Today, I have sons, that anybody would be proud to calls theirs. This behavior is very similar to that of the modern day liberal. Instead of bringing shame on their parents they bring shame on their nation. Some of us are about to leave our children. The libs that is
I feel sorry for your sons, they must be embarrassed by you.
GBA

Saint Marys, OH

#5 Nov 30, 2012
Bad Stan wrote:
<quoted text> I feel sorry for your sons, they must be embarrassed by you.
Today I have sons that anybody would be proud to call theirs and they have both thanked me for having the strength to help them straighten out.
Bad Stan

Mansfield, OH

#6 Nov 30, 2012
GBA wrote:
<quoted text>
Today I have sons that anybody would be proud to call theirs and they have both thanked me for having the strength to help them straighten out.
You are one delusional MF
Kicbutt

Bellefontaine, OH

#7 Nov 30, 2012
What did you do? Beat the crap out of them when you were trunk.? Tough love, right?

I bet they thank your #ss that you were such a "great" father.
observer

Bellefontaine, OH

#8 Nov 30, 2012
Kicbutt wrote:
What did you do? Beat the crap out of them when you were trunk.? Tough love, right?
I bet they thank your #ss that you were such a "great" father.
i bet your sons thank your #ss that you taught them how to get money from the government. gba proved his point about libs and they have you to thank. btw. what is trunk? do you mean drunk? are you trunk right now?
observer

Bellefontaine, OH

#9 Nov 30, 2012
Bad Stan wrote:
<quoted text> I feel sorry for your sons, they must be embarrassed by you.
and i bet your sons get a fat check the first of the month that was supplied by some one elses money.
Satan

Mount Vernon, OH

#10 Nov 30, 2012
Lol. Hill jacks!
Bad Stan

Mansfield, OH

#11 Nov 30, 2012
observer wrote:
<quoted text>and i bet your sons get a fat check the first of the month that was supplied by some one elses money.
I bet your sister is also your wife
observer

Bellefontaine, OH

#12 Nov 30, 2012
Bad Stan wrote:
<quoted text> I bet your sister is also your wife
collect that check. you are a proven liberal. thank you. i'll be here all week.
Bad Stan

Mansfield, OH

#13 Nov 30, 2012
observer wrote:
<quoted text>collect that check. you are a proven liberal. thank you. i'll be here all week.
You're stupid and I don't see an easy fix for that.
Kicbutt

Bellefontaine, OH

#14 Nov 30, 2012
observer wrote:
<quoted text>i bet your sons thank your #ss that you taught them how to get money from the government. gba proved his point about libs and they have you to thank. btw. what is trunk? do you mean drunk? are you trunk right now?
Try again, loser. My oldest son is a college professor and the other has his own security guard business. What does you son do, clean out septic tanks for a living?
Kicbutt

Bellefontaine, OH

#15 Nov 30, 2012
What a piece of total trash. GBA got the letter from Glenn Beck, who even Fox news fired. Now that's pretty bad.
http://www.glennbeck.com/2012/11/30/epic-lett... -“bitterly-disappointed”-brit- dad-to-kids/
observer

Bellefontaine, OH

#16 Nov 30, 2012
Bad Stan wrote:
<quoted text> I bet your sister is also your wife
How did you know that? Do you know us?
GBA

Saint Marys, OH

#17 Dec 1, 2012
What a waste of God give air to share it with liberals.
Zen Dude

Buckeye Lake, OH

#18 Dec 1, 2012
GBA wrote:
What a waste of God give air to share it with liberals.
Nobody liked your copy paste?
GBA

Saint Marys, OH

#19 Dec 1, 2012
Zen Dude wrote:
<quoted text> Nobody liked your copy paste?
I didn't post it for you. There are plenty of parents that have problems with their children and don't know what options they have. Many are afraid to take tough stances for fear of losing their kids. I have a sister-in-law that has never put down the law and her children are on drugs and in and out of jail. The kids have zero repect for their mother and do not understand why everybody has it in for them. I am lucky, I got my family back in healthy condition and now have a relation with my sons that I always hoped that I could have. It was not easy and most painful when you love your children so much, but the rewards are there if you are willing to last it out. That's why I posted this piece. At this time of year the worst in folks and families seem to come to surface. Parents and kids, there is hope, don't give up.

Since: Feb 12

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#20 Dec 1, 2012
Of course you should. It is a direct reflection on you.

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