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kids complaining about not going to funeral of someone they dont know

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why

Huntington, IN

#1 Mar 18, 2012
Why would anyone,even Kids want to go to a funeral of a person they didnt even know when they were alive? I mean have some respect for the family and friends that did know her. That is their time to grieve and say their last goodbyes. R.i.p Maddy
darth vader

Beckley, WV

#2 Mar 18, 2012
I don't understand parents allowing their kids to go when they didn't know Maddy Bennett. This was NOT a social event. It was completely disrespectful and stupid! Most of the kids from other schools didn't know her, but went to see what was going on and who else was there!
Paying Respects

United States

#3 Mar 18, 2012
Were these kids there running wild,laughing and joking and most of all was the funeral listed as private services, just because some did not know Maddy does not mean her death did not hit close to home, I am in the school enviroment for this age group on a daily basis and will tell you this affected alot of children her age if they knew her or not, alot of people attend funerals of those that that they have things in common with such as being a student, same occupation, church groups and so on just to pay their respects to both deceased and the family even if they are not associated with them in life, just saying these may be some kids who truly did feel bad for this tragedy and this is their way of being respectful, I am sure that everyone that bought hotdogs at Lowes on Thursday did not know Maddy but it was done for respect for her and her family. So before you judge please think of the feelings of others I would hate for one of those well meaning children to see your post and think they did something wrong by paying their respects to a fellow student of Raleigh County!!!
darth vader

Beckley, WV

#4 Mar 18, 2012
That may very well be, but this family has had enough to deal with, and all very suddenly. I am not "judging".....just wondering why parents would allow their children to attend this wake as if it were a social event.

Many of the kids were well-meaning,many were truly her friends, but many more were there to see who else was there, and what details they could relay to their friends. They were standing in groups, talking and laughing, and in the way of family and staff. I know middle school students very well, too. Unfortunately, this isn't the first wake of a young person I've attended. The death of a young person is always shocking. It is scary. I realize this, too. However, it is the job of the parent to discuss this at home. Making donations is a way to help without being intrusive. The last thing a grieving family needs is for hundreds of people, whom they don't know, to show up and troop through to just to gawk. If you're offended by my opinion, so be it.
why

Demotte, IN

#5 Mar 18, 2012
why wrote:
Why would anyone,even Kids want to go to a funeral of a person they didnt even know when they were alive? I mean have some respect for the family and friends that did know her. That is their time to grieve and say their last goodbyes. R.i.p Maddy
It was all over facebook who was going and who wasnt. the kids that didnt know her didnt need to be there,they should talk to their parents or counselor.But some was like I feel so bad i didnt get to go even tho I didnt know her.sorry it was the wake i was talking about and it was suppose to start at 6 and ended up being 8 because all the people there,that didnt need to be.just because U loose a loved one doesnt mean u go crashing funerals.Grow Up.And as far as the hotdogs,im sure it was some sort of fundraiser so that was to help the family,not hinder them.
darth vader

Beckley, WV

#6 Mar 18, 2012
"why", you are right! I was especially annoyed at the parents who dropped their kids off and left them the entire time.......to be supervised by whom? I suppose some people will allow anything to be free of their kids for a few hours.

A wake is not the skating rink, the mall, or a school dance. Use some common sense, people!

As for the hot dog sale, it was a fundraiser for the family, which was extremely nice.
why

Demotte, IN

#7 Mar 18, 2012
darth vader wrote:
"why", you are right! I was especially annoyed at the parents who dropped their kids off and left them the entire time.......to be supervised by whom? I suppose some people will allow anything to be free of their kids for a few hours.
A wake is not the skating rink, the mall, or a school dance. Use some common sense, people!
As for the hot dog sale, it was a fundraiser for the family, which was extremely nice.
Yes,some parents just dont care. And if there was kids there that honestly knew her, dont u think they would need their parents to comfort them? I would never leave my child unattended at a wake or funeral..I have friends that knew her and her family but didnt even get to go in,that is very disrespectful,I know if it was there child they wouldnt want it to look like a concert outside. Beckley isnt that boring that u have to crash a wake.Go to the mall or something where ur parents always drop yall off any other day :)
Concerned Brother

Beckley, WV

#8 Mar 24, 2012
darth vader wrote:
"why", you are right! I was especially annoyed at the parents who dropped their kids off and left them the entire time.......to be supervised by whom? I suppose some people will allow anything to be free of their kids for a few hours.
A wake is not the skating rink, the mall, or a school dance. Use some common sense, people!
As for the hot dog sale, it was a fundraiser for the family, which was extremely nice.
I agree, some parents will use any excuse to drop their kids off. Take the skating rink for example, I have seen first hand some of what goes on their, you have kids that are anywhere from 10 years old and up, in there dressed like they are looking for the first street corner they can take up space on, some are bunched up in corners and tables deep throating each other! Look at facebook, some of the kids on there post things that I would hope if their parents took time to monitor, their face page would be deleted, but then again, I don't know if it would be or not, some of the kids have pictures on their with their parents who are dressed and making faces the same as the kids! The problem today is parents are too busy trying to be their children's best friend, afraid to offend them or hurt their feelings by actually being their parent. And we wonder why things are going the way they are!!!!!!
Mountaineer

Rocky Mount, NC

#9 Mar 24, 2012
Concerned Brother wrote:
"...some are bunched up in corners and tables deep throating each other!"

HUH?!?! At the skating rink?
Anonymous

Beckley, WV

#10 Mar 24, 2012
why wrote:
Why would anyone,even Kids want to go to a funeral of a person they didnt even know when they were alive? I mean have some respect for the family and friends that did know her. That is their time to grieve and say their last goodbyes. R.i.p Maddy
Maybe the kids are curious or want to be with their friends. As for adults, who knows??

Score Keeper The Greatest

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#11 Mar 24, 2012
I went to my Grandfather's funeral when i was five years old. Still remember it as a good time, the smell of all the roses i had never experienced before, and a preacher at the Beech Run Baptist Church coming up from Hinton that kept Tootsie Rolls in the trunk of his car he gave to us kids. A funeral doesn't have to be a drag, i sure wouldn't want my funeral to be one. Hell, have the kids take me out on the town like that Movie, Bernie's Day Out. Dieing is a part of life, best kids are involved early and realize it all. And most of all, THE BEST THING about funerals, FREE FOOD!!!! Be free beer when i have mine, and the kids are more than welcome, By God!!!!
Kacee

Beckley, WV

#12 Apr 12, 2012
Hi this is kacee I reall miss maddy she was the nices person.
Noyoudidnt

Culloden, WV

#13 Apr 12, 2012
Score Keeper The Greatest wrote:
I went to my Grandfather's funeral when i was five years old. Still remember it as a good time, the smell of all the roses i had never experienced before, and a preacher at the Beech Run Baptist Church coming up from Hinton that kept Tootsie Rolls in the trunk of his car he gave to us kids. A funeral doesn't have to be a drag, i sure wouldn't want my funeral to be one. Hell, have the kids take me out on the town like that Movie, Bernie's Day Out. Dieing is a part of life, best kids are involved early and realize it all. And most of all, THE BEST THING about funerals, FREE FOOD!!!! Be free beer when i have mine, and the kids are more than welcome, By God!!!!
Your grandfather was obviously older and had lived his life. He most likely outlived his parents, the way it should be. This was a young child's service. It's not a party. It's not to be fun. Her life was cut short and a family will NEVER be the same. They'll wonder what she would look like on her 13th birthday, what she'd wear to prom, who she'd marry. They'll never see her grauate, see her off to college pr walk her down the aisle. There's no grandchild to anticipate. This was a little girl. I think your post was callous and your circumstances were extremely different. Have your services the way you want but the loss of a child is tragic and horrific.
hmmm

Oak Hill, WV

#14 Apr 12, 2012
My teenage daughter didn't know Maddy very well, But she is close to some of Maddys friends. Im sorry you would think she was rude by going to her wake,but she went to show respect and be there to comfort her friends that were close to Maddy. My daughter cried for days about her death and just kept asking why would she have to die she was a good person. I think its great that these kids came together like they did during this tragedy to comfort each other. I can't talk for her family,but I would think it would make them feel good to know that this many kids cared. I know wakes are time for mourning ,but they are also a time to celebrate somones life. RIP Maddy
Rude

Oak Hill, WV

#15 Apr 13, 2012
And if your daughter didn't know Maddy very well then she had no business being there. Her friends that actually did know Maddy had each other to comfort at the wake. You're an extremely insensitive person by dropping your daughter off at a wake for someone she didn't know. You probably just wanted her out of your hair for a few hours and you're just making up excuses, right?
darth vader

Beckley, WV

#16 Apr 13, 2012
Scorekeeper, you're a moron. Let us know when you're having your wake, and we'll all come guzzle the free beer. Otherwise, stay on the topic. How wonderful that some backwoods preacher gave you tootsie rolls. I'm sure you made fond memories with him. Funerals are not a "good time" for the family of the deceased. It certainly was not a good time for Maddy's parents. You are a poor excuse for a human being!
why

Demotte, IN

#17 Apr 14, 2012
Rude is right. They have their parents to comfort them. i know this teen girl that wanted to go because she has lost family members in the last year and she didnt even know Maddy at all. It is a place for family and close friends to be.alot of ppl didnt even get to get in because there was a line so long and maybe some of those ppl really knew her or related to her but couldnt get in because of all the other ppl just going for show..

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Since: Mar 12

Beckley, WV

#18 Apr 14, 2012
Who are any of you to say who should and shouldn't be where, and read into the minds of people. You don't know who knows who, you don't know how the family felt. I for one would be overwhelmingly filled with joy if i lost a child and was shown that much love and support from the community.

If they didn't want anyone there, they could have made it a private service.

It's this "I know better than everyone else" mentality that makes this world an unbearable place to be. Do what you do, and mind your own business. When i die, the more the merrier..

just watch out for the bitches in the corner talking crap, cause obviously a funeral isn't to celebrate the life of the person that passed, it's for you dumb morons to pass judgement on crap you know nothing about.

Crawl back into your cave (which, by your affinity for judging others, i assume is a church)
darth vader

Beckley, WV

#19 Apr 14, 2012
First of all, you're the one referring to yourself as "God". I was not judging anyone, but rather suggesting the use of common sense in a terrible situation. Lack of common sense in this country is what has made it unbearable.

It would help a great deal for parents to act like parents. People who actually knew the family couldn't get inside the church because of the curiosity-seekers. Grown-ups and elderly folks had to stand up because kids, most of them from other schools, took upthe seats. There were no parents there to tell them to move, since they were dumped off as though it were a movie matinee.

If you want to show the Bennett family love and support, donate some money to the accounts that have been set up for them. They had no insurance and any little bit helps!

FYI: I don't go to church, I can't stand the hypocrites. I say what I think and live how I want. I try to live by the golden rule and exercise some discretion in social and ethical matters.

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Since: Mar 12

Beckley, WV

#20 Apr 15, 2012
darth vader wrote:
First of all, you're the one referring to yourself as "God". I was not judging anyone, but rather suggesting the use of common sense in a terrible situation. Lack of common sense in this country is what has made it unbearable.
It would help a great deal for parents to act like parents. People who actually knew the family couldn't get inside the church because of the curiosity-seekers. Grown-ups and elderly folks had to stand up because kids, most of them from other schools, took upthe seats. There were no parents there to tell them to move, since they were dumped off as though it were a movie matinee.
If you want to show the Bennett family love and support, donate some money to the accounts that have been set up for them. They had no insurance and any little bit helps!
FYI: I don't go to church, I can't stand the hypocrites. I say what I think and live how I want. I try to live by the golden rule and exercise some discretion in social and ethical matters.
I assure you, i refer to myself as god in the ironic sense.

I just get so tired of people assuming they know better than everyone else in situations they have to part of.

I agree with you, it's a shame that it went down the way it went down. And as a parent, i especially agree with you that the parenting in this area is nothing short of horrendous. I'm consistantly the only person who volunteers at my childs school... ever.

All i'm saying is that is sounds like the infrastructure of this funeral was the first problem. Why was it made public in the first place? Why were kids allowed entrance without a parent or guardian? It seems no effort whatsoever was made to ensure it being the funeral they wanted it to be, and instead, we're taking to topix to complain about the teenagers that were dropped off and allowed to do whatever they wanted?

Also, on a side note, teenagers behave strangely in the face of death. I was at a funeral recently where there were about 15 young people, and they behaved very similarly to how these teens were described. They exist in a world where all that matters is what their peers think about them, and then coupled with bad parenting, how can we put blame on the shoulders of the kids.

Sounds to me like it's the fault of the organizers. Period. Yes, parents suck, but that's not new news.

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