To My Meth Addicted Son~

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Washington County Meth

United States

#1 Jul 31, 2011
This was from a post on the Internet. Could fit some Washington County families as well:

We took out a loan for 3500.00 for a lawyer for this. A loan that will take 3 years to pay back.
We sat for hours in the scummiest areas of the Superior Court building. Your Dad lost 3 days of work in the last month because of this.
We wake up in the middle of the night to your normally calm laid back brother attacking you out of pure rage and frustration.
The same rage and frustration that we feel every time you steal from us.
Day after day, we deal with your girlfriendís psychotic episodes brought on by YOU!
Yes, we blame you for this decent personís slow decent into madness!

Yesterday, you were ordered to 3 years of probation and fines over 3,000.00, and the prospect of real jail time.
Soooo, what did you do?
You took all of the money that you had left and went out and used!.
Then, while supposedly looking for nail clippers you stole MORE money from me!

Is there a common denominator here?
I think that you know what it is, but do you really SEE it?
Apparently you donít so Iíll tell you what it isnít.
It ISNíT meth.
It is your REFUSAL to admit that you NEED help to overcome Meth.

Until I see you ACTIVELY seeking help to overcome this problem, I will assume that you have no interest in quitting.

And if you have no interest in quitting, then I can only assume that you have no interest in alleviating the tension, frustration and pure hell that that your drug use is causing to EVERYONE living in the same house as you.

In coming full circle in this line of reasoning, you need to be aware that I need to take steps to protect my family from the choices that you make and the life that you are CHOSING to live.

Some day, Iím sure that you will look back and truly see the damage that you causing, but by then it will surely be too late.

I realize that Iíve been choosing to ďhelpĒ you over the best interests of my family. That was wrong for two reasons:
1. Only one person can help you and it sure isnít me.
2. There are more deserving people in this family in need of my help, people who arenítí bent on self-destruction and bringing everyone they can with them.

Iím going to give you back your court papers; they are your problem, not mine anymore.
Iím giving you back all of your problems; none of them are mine anymore.
You can continue to live here as long as you do not interfere with our lives. Emotionally, legally or financially. If I have any reason to believe that any crime is committed here ie...drugs in the house, theftÖ..I will get the police involved and you will go to jail. So you may want to think twice about staying here.
As sad as it is to say, you in jail will be a welcome respite from your unwillingness to seek help, and the hell that your CHOICE to use meth is causing us.

If and when you should decide to ACTIVELY seek help, your family is here for youÖuntil that time you are a stranger here.

Your Mother
Jethro

Catoosa, OK

#2 Oct 29, 2011
Washington County Meth wrote:
This was from a post on the Internet. Could fit some Washington County families as well:

We took out a loan for 3500.00 for a lawyer for this. A loan that will take 3 years to pay back.
We sat for hours in the scummiest areas of the Superior Court building. Your Dad lost 3 days of work in the last month because of this.
We wake up in the middle of the night to your normally calm laid back brother attacking you out of pure rage and frustration.
The same rage and frustration that we feel every time you steal from us.
Day after day, we deal with your girlfriend’s psychotic episodes brought on by YOU!
Yes, we blame you for this decent person’s slow decent into madness!

Yesterday, you were ordered to 3 years of probation and fines over 3,000.00, and the prospect of real jail time.
Soooo, what did you do?
You took all of the money that you had left and went out and used!.
Then, while supposedly looking for nail clippers you stole MORE money from me!

Is there a common denominator here?
I think that you know what it is, but do you really SEE it?
Apparently you don’t so I’ll tell you what it isn’t.
It ISN’T meth.
It is your REFUSAL to admit that you NEED help to overcome Meth.

Until I see you ACTIVELY seeking help to overcome this problem, I will assume that you have no interest in quitting.

And if you have no interest in quitting, then I can only assume that you have no interest in alleviating the tension, frustration and pure hell that that your drug use is causing to EVERYONE living in the same house as you.

In coming full circle in this line of reasoning, you need to be aware that I need to take steps to protect my family from the choices that you make and the life that you are CHOSING to live.

Some day, I’m sure that you will look back and truly see the damage that you causing, but by then it will surely be too late.

I realize that I¬íve been choosing to ¬ďhelp¬Ē you over the best interests of my family. That was wrong for two reasons:
1. Only one person can help you and it sure isn’t me.
2. There are more deserving people in this family in need of my help, people who aren’t’ bent on self-destruction and bringing everyone they can with them.

I’m going to give you back your court papers; they are your problem, not mine anymore.
I’m giving you back all of your problems; none of them are mine anymore.
You can continue to live here as long as you do not interfere with our lives. Emotionally, legally or financially. If I have any reason to believe that any crime is committed here ie...drugs in the house, theft¬Ö..I will get the police involved and you will go to jail. So you may want to think twice about staying here.
As sad as it is to say, you in jail will be a welcome respite from your unwillingness to seek help, and the hell that your CHOICE to use meth is causing us.

If and when you should decide to ACTIVELY seek help, your family is here for you¬Öuntil that time you are a stranger here.

Your Mother
maybe if you hadn't molested him as a child this never would have happened?
Irony

United States

#3 Nov 2, 2011
Jethro wrote:
<quoted text>
maybe if you hadn't molested him as a child this never would have happened?
Just because you started that way doesn't mean everyone did!

“To God Alone Be the Glory”

Since: Sep 11

Location hidden

#4 Nov 3, 2011
Isn't it strange how some folks will invariably blame someone else for what they do...?
A Mom

Chino Hills, CA

#5 Nov 13, 2011
Jethro from Catoosa, OK. You can ...never mind. The words in my mind are not worth spewing out to you. Not sure you would understand it appears as you jump to conclusions and make statements without any facts.

I don't know who wrote that letter "found on the internet" however, she is on the right track. She can love her son from a distance. Letting him find out his 'escape route' from facing and dealing with reality is GONE is the best thing she can do. That doesn't mean she gives up on him or stop loving him. Sadly, she will have to set and firmly keep those boundaries to protect the rest of the family from a dangerous person. Sadly, she will also have to accept the prospect that if he chooses drugs, he will be homeless, missing, and may die young - and she may not ever know he is gone.

You wouldn't let a child molesting relative babysit your child, right? Drugs are a different danger to a family, but they are the same in light of protecting the rest of the family from the violence the drug world. If a druggie's mouth is moving and there is a sound coming out, no matter how sincere it sounds...it's a lie.

My heart goes out to that mom.

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