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Lonely On Thanksgiving

Claremore, OK

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#1
Nov 13, 2012
 
I'm a senior who lives alone in Copan, and have no relatives in the area. I have spent several holidays alone, including Christmas, but this year, I would simply like to join with others celebrating a Thanksgiving dinner and fellowship together in an area church if there are any having Thanksgiving dinner celebrations open to the public.

I have prepared and cooked a Thanksgiving meal for myself before...alone, and trust me, there is nothing more depressing, not to mention...a waste of time and money.

I don't take the local paper so I haven't any idea of local announcements concerning this.

Thank you and God bless for all responses.
Another Copanite

Pryor, OK

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Nov 14, 2012
 

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Hello!! I may have some information for you regarding Thanksgiving Dinner. I attend New Life Church in Copan, with Pastor Kurt Rovenstine. We would love to have you come there if you don't attend anywhere else. On Sunday service starts at 10:15 and we always have some sort of breakfast. Service ends around 11:30. Every Wednesday night we have Community dinner - you don't have to attend our church to attend dinner. You don't have to bring anything...we always have plenty. If you will reply with your phone number - I will give you a call tomorrow after I get to work. God Bless!
Lonely On Thanksgiving

Claremore, OK

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Nov 15, 2012
 
Another Copanite wrote:
Hello!! I may have some information for you regarding Thanksgiving Dinner. I attend New Life Church in Copan, with Pastor Kurt Rovenstine. We would love to have you come there if you don't attend anywhere else. On Sunday service starts at 10:15 and we always have some sort of breakfast. Service ends around 11:30. Every Wednesday night we have Community dinner - you don't have to attend our church to attend dinner. You don't have to bring anything...we always have plenty. If you will reply with your phone number - I will give you a call tomorrow after I get to work. God Bless!
Thank you for the reply, that was very sweet, but I was just inquiring about Thanksgiving dinner in particular and if there was a church or group that was having a Thanksgiving Day dinner where the public is invited.

I did hear that last year New Life and a few of the other area churches joined together at New Life for a community Thanksgiving meal. So, are you planning that again this year?

Thank you

PS: Topix says not to post phone numbers for a number of good reasons, otherwise I would.:)
Thanks Anyway

Claremore, OK

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Nov 23, 2012
 
Another Copanite wrote:
Hello!! I may have some information for you regarding Thanksgiving Dinner. I attend New Life Church in Copan, with Pastor Kurt Rovenstine. We would love to have you come there if you don't attend anywhere else. On Sunday service starts at 10:15 and we always have some sort of breakfast. Service ends around 11:30. Every Wednesday night we have Community dinner - you don't have to attend our church to attend dinner. You don't have to bring anything...we always have plenty. If you will reply with your phone number - I will give you a call tomorrow after I get to work. God Bless!
I put the "heart" on your message because at least you were nice enough to invite me to your church services, and you seem like a nice person to do that. But as far as your statement, "we would love to have you", that may be true as far as you're concerned, but the church in general...I don't think so- and here's why.

Actually, I had been invited to New Life by someone else, several months ago.. and so I went on a Wednesday nite for the community dinner thinking it would be more casual and I might have a chance to visit with a few people to get acquainted.

Here's what followed, I went through the gym into the community room just off the side of the kitchen, where the people were busy preparing food. Most of the tables were empty so I sat down in one of the middle ones. People were milling around and most of the kids were in the combo/gym/sanctuary area playing ball, and the teens visiting outside, etc.

There were a few adults sitting in a group at one of the back tables in the community room visiting. The table was full. So far, no one had greeted me, or said hello. Anyway, I was glad when they finally called people to get in line for dinner because I was beginning to feel ill at ease. So, when I got my plate of food, which was nice, by the way, I sat back down at the same place, and pretty soon 2 women came and sat down at the same table, one, a couple of chairs to my left, and another woman on the other side of the table. So, they kind of had their heads down busy eating, and no one said anything. Finally, I tried to break the ice by asking a couple of questions about the church, just small talk. Ok, questions answered pretty bluntly. Neither woman inquired about me, who I was, did I live in Copan, and frankly, it was OBVIOUS neither one cared. If they had acted like they were interested, I would have gone on to introduce myself, but, they didn't. Then, soon they both finished their meals and just left the table. No smile and goodbye, nothing. So, people are sitting around at other tables talking after finishing their meals and I'm sitting there feeling like I want to sink into the floor and disappear by this time. Pastor has been running around doing busy pastor stuff, but at some point I notice him in the side hall at the entrance to the community room, and he stops this guy and whispers something to him while looking over at me, and then the man he's talking to looks over my way as well. It's pretty obvious the pastor is asking him to greet me, or...something to that effect. Well, that didn't happen. By this time I am becoming very embarrassed and uncomfortable so I figure I need to just get up and as unobtrusively as possible and leave.

Why I should be concerned about anyone noticing me leaving, I don't know because no one has noticed me since I came in the door. I am a senior, but hey, I did take a shower, put on nice clothes, and I'm told I'm a very attractive person for my age. So, I didn't "smell funny, talk funny, or scare the little children" by the way I looked. I was simply not part of New Life's social scene. So, left I did as quickly as I could. Passing by- never stopping for a second, pastor rushing on to his next very important stop, whatever that may have been, it was too important to stop even for 1 minute of his time to talk to me...as he's whizzing by says, "we were glad to have you".
Another Copanite

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Nov 24, 2012
 
Hmmmm....it makes me sad to think you had that experience at my church. Your reply is an eye opener and really made me stop and think about our actions. It's unfortunate, that in our busy hectic lives we simply sometimes do not reach out to people as we should. I think people sometimes think that I talk way too much - and i sincerely hope that I wasn't one of the one's sitting near you and not being friendly. Wednesdays are sometimes a hectic time with all of the youth there - which is not an excuse...just a fact. LOL. I really hope that you will give New Life Church another try - we have people from all ages and all walks of life attending. Alot of us are parents in the school system and so we have alot in common with our kids in the same grades and attending all of the sporting events together. We will resume dinner this Wednesday at 6:00. We are getting ready to start up a Bible Study on Wednesday night as well. I will also remind you that New Life Sunday services start at 10:15...we ALWAYS have breakfast and are out around 11:30. With the Christmas season upon us...you should really come and share the season with us. On another note, tonight at the Copan Park is the Lighting of the Christmas tree. I believe the event starts at 5:00 and the lighting of the tree at 5:45 -cookies, cider, hot chocolate and Christmas caroling. I'm planning on being there and bringing my two boys...if I can make it through one more Thanksgiving celebration at my sisters and an afternoon wedding! God Bless and I hope to see you soon! ;)
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Pryor, OK

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Nov 25, 2012
 
Also - this Wednesday night dinner is Men's Night...which means the men do all the cooking...Hamburgers and HotDogs!!! Hope you can come!
Thanks Anyway

Claremore, OK

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Nov 25, 2012
 
Another Copanite wrote:
Also - this Wednesday night dinner is Men's Night...which means the men do all the cooking...Hamburgers and HotDogs!!! Hope you can come!
You know, when I started writing about this I was reminded of something that happened when I was attending a church in Grove,OK.It was a mix of regular, what I'd call down to earth folks, young, old, and in between. I was new in the area, and I felt like God really wanted me in that church. I soon made some good friends.

Anyway, I got to know people, so the faces became familiar. Well, one Sunday night before service, this old man showed up that was a new face. To put it plainly, he looked like a hobo because his clothes were very shabby, dirty and he looked very unkempt. Nevertheless, every single person gathered around that old man to welcome him, yes, including me, who was kind of a baby Christian at that point in my life. When it was my turn to shake hands with him, I was appalled to see his hands were filthy, as if they hadn't been washed in a week,(maybe longer). I shook hands anyway even though it was pretty gross. One of the things that stood out about that old man was his smile, and through the dirt on his face, I have never, ever in my life seen eyes as sparkling and bright blue as that man did. I didn't think about it until later, until I came across this verse in the bible from Hebrews 13/2:
Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it. Or as another version says, "angels unaware". Now, I've always wondered about that old man and had the funny feeling that's who he was in disguise to test us. Since then, there have been 2 other times something similar has happened at another church I belonged to in another town. Now,(about when I dropped in at New Life), I'm not an angel by any means, but it's something to think about when a stranger shows up to maybe check them out. You just never know...:)

Thanks again for the invite
Another Copanite

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Nov 25, 2012
 
I hope you saw both of my previous posts. I do sincerely feel bad that your first experience with New Life did not go well. I really do feel that we are a caring church - but obviously have a ways to go. Our conversation has definitely given me something to think about. I had actually prayed several months ago that God would give me opportunities to share His love the way he would like me too and to put me in the paths of people. I will definitely be remembering this lesson and your wise words in the future. For not having met you, you have a made an impact on me. God bless you this Christmas season and always!!
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Dec 2, 2012
 
Copan Baptist Church is having a Community Christmas dinner this Sunday, December 9 immediately following their morning service. Community is invited.
This Wednesday December 5 is Mexican night at New Life Church!!
Thanks Anyway

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#10
Dec 2, 2012
 
Another Copanite wrote:
Copan Baptist Church is having a Community Christmas dinner this Sunday, December 9 immediately following their morning service. Community is invited.
This Wednesday December 5 is Mexican night at New Life Church!!
I haven't been on here lately. Unfortunately, I've been having health issues that are now going to require I turn my attention to making preparations to move as soon as possible. Church visits or anywhere are out of the question at this time. Thank you dear heart, but really...it never was about eating a meal anyway. It was about a little fellowship, as I tried to explain earlier. Thanks for thinking of me. I will remember your kindness.... Jesus bless you :)
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Dec 2, 2012
 

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I'm sorry to hear that. I did understand that it was more about visiting than it was eating a meal....but we do live in Oklahoma....and everything social revolves around a meal. LOL. It's just that Mexican night is everyone's favorite night and I just wanted to make sure you knew about it. We also deliver if you'd like something, let me know. And I can make you a plate (complete with dessert) and bring it to you and sit and visit!:) Praying for your health issues.
Thanks Anyway

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#12
Dec 4, 2012
 
Thanks, that's very sweet. You know what, tonight I just opted for someone else to do the cooking for me, and ordered a little something from our local Handimart. I appreciate the added food service there and noticed a lot of other people do as well. I know what you mean about the social aspects of breaking bread together. That is the way the early church did it. Again, thank you for your kindness.

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