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Trust me. As bad as u think u want to the truth. It's only going to hurt u. She is probably protecting u and u don't realize it. She probably figures if she tells u the truth it will only hurt you. I've been married for 10 years. Together for 15. My wife cheated on me and I wanted to know everything. What where you wearing?Where was I?What did u guys do? How many times? Where did you do it? She kept lying to me then one day she told me every detail. I wish I'd had never asked. It hurt so bad and it still hurts. So if u love your Wife. Just love her and let it be. In the end if you knew the truth it's only going to hurt u, kill u inside. I'm serious. You r going to have to find a way to move on and not let this weigh on your mind and heart. I know it's hard. This happened to me at the beginning of April and I still hurt everyday. My heart is in pain. I really wish I didnt push so hard for all the details. She loves u and wants to protect u by not telling u the whole truth. I know it's easy to say not think about it or let it go. It's almost impossible, but u r not going to have a healthy relationship unless u find a differ way to deal with things. Trust me. As bad as u think u want to know the whole truth, you really don't.
My wife has a "secret friend" who she works with, but she says they are just friends. Now that she feels like their "friendship" is in danger, she never speaks of him. It was limited when she spoke of him in the past and I then found out they texted "all" the time. She would go into our bathroom to secretly text him. If she was off work sick, they would text. Even now, she brings items into our home, hides them, then takes them to him at work. She also hides things in our van to take to him. She didn't know that I saw her do this a few times. They are small things, but it's still sneaky.
Needless to say, we now live more as roommates rather than two people in a relationship. I'm ready to throw in the towel. I keep waiting for her to fix this, but I don't think she wants to. If I see her bring one more thing into our house to hide and take to him, then I'm filing for divorce because that's just sneaky and deceptive. And probably only part of what's really going on.