Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#1 Feb 1, 2013
If you were married and your husband worked at his parents and his mother was with him all day and as soon as he came home his phone started ringing and called all evening it was her or everytime you went to do something she wanted to invite her self along and you have talked to your husband about it and he says he cant do nothing about it and you dont really want to say anything because you have kids by this person and you want to try and keep it civil for them?
pre

London, KY

#2 Feb 1, 2013
Wife wrote:
If you were married and your husband worked at his parents and his mother was with him all day and as soon as he came home his phone started ringing and called all evening it was her or everytime you went to do something she wanted to invite her self along and you have talked to your husband about it and he says he cant do nothing about it and you dont really want to say anything because you have kids by this person and you want to try and keep it civil for them?
He has an obligation to his own family (his kids) and his marriage. He has to be the one to say to his mother that he needs to spend more time with you guys. She needs to cut the apron strings. It's always good to encourage your husband to spend time with his mother but you an the kids are top priority.
BeenThere

London, KY

#3 Feb 1, 2013
Ihere's a 419% chance you've got yourself a "momma's boy" and you or no one else can change that fact. Talking will not change things now or in the future. So, you've got two choices:
1. Live with it...or
2. D-I-V-O-R-C-E

The choice is yours...

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#4 Feb 1, 2013
Only you can decide.

Is he a good man otherwise?

Is he a good father?

Is he a good provider?

Does he spend time with you?

He is no different than any man who is married to his work. H is using the excuse of it being his mother but plenty of other men find excuses for the fact that they are workaholics.

It is up to you decide
Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#5 Feb 1, 2013
Well he is a good dad and he does provide for us and I understand its his mom and all but he's a grown man who is married with kids she needs to let go and no matter what you say to her or tell her nothing seems to help. Im fed up with it!

“The Fist of Goodness”

Since: May 11

Location hidden

#6 Feb 1, 2013
Wife wrote:
Well he is a good dad and he does provide for us and I understand its his mom and all but he's a grown man who is married with kids she needs to let go and no matter what you say to her or tell her nothing seems to help. Im fed up with it!
Wait, was all this going on when your relationship began with him or after the kids were born?
80s kid

London, KY

#7 Feb 1, 2013
If u don't like it leave, most women would rather have a deadbeat pos pill head any way. Hard workn guys never get any respect just nagging about they work too much or blah blah blah he works puts food on the table roof over ur head sux it up or go get with a sorry ass that won't work and has nothing but time to keep his head up ur azz and that's my option like it or leave it
Been There

Barbourville, KY

#8 Feb 1, 2013
Well that happened to me as well. I sat my foot down and threw a big hissy fit and it's been smooth sailing since! Going on 10 years of no monster in law tagging along! We have a understanding and my line isn't crossed!
Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#9 Feb 1, 2013
It wasnt as bad before we got married or had kids i mean sometimes shed ask if she could go but since we got married its been horrible. She wants to be stuck up his ass 24/7 always calling. and for 80's kid im not saying nothing about him. I love him and I appreciate everything he does but good lord he;s a grown man I dont think he still needs his mommy to wipe his ass.
80s kid

London, KY

#10 Feb 1, 2013
True he does need to be his own man, do his own thing I've done my own thing from 15 on if he is that close to his mom prolly a good thing but I can see how it can be stressful too I like to have my own space
Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#11 Feb 1, 2013
Yea and im not saying for him not to be close to her but he's married with kids now its time for strings to be cut. As soon as we get out of bed the phone rings, rings all day, if we go somewhere it rings the whole time if she dont try and invite herself along. I just wish i could have my family without feeling like someone is trying to take them from me.
Parent

London, KY

#13 Feb 2, 2013
I have to call my kids everyday and they are no longer at home it's just a mothers instinct to know that her kids are ok. Maybe she just worries a lot I would be happy if my mother called me once a month just to check on me but she don't
Road Dog

Somerset, KY

#14 Feb 2, 2013
80s kid wrote:
If u don't like it leave, most women would rather have a deadbeat pos pill head any way. Hard workn guys never get any respect just nagging about they work too much or blah blah blah he works puts food on the table roof over ur head sux it up or go get with a sorry ass that won't work and has nothing but time to keep his head up ur azz and that's my option like it or leave it
Dude...u have hit the nail on the head, these stupid azz broads are all alike, If he takes care of her gripe about his mother she will just start bitching about something else. These bitchers are all alike, they are miserable people and they want everyone around them to be miserable also. I agree with you, put her azz on the road and enjoy being a mammas boy. Mammas will always be there, the bitchers come and go.( my opinion)
Road Dog

Somerset, KY

#15 Feb 2, 2013
Parent wrote:
I have to call my kids everyday and they are no longer at home it's just a mothers instinct to know that her kids are ok. Maybe she just worries a lot I would be happy if my mother called me once a month just to check on me but she don't
Most kids don't realise what a blessing that is, until Mom is not there to call anymore. It may, at times, be inconvient to stop what you are doing and chat with Mom, but the day will come, when Mom dose'nt call. That day is when the calls will be missed, and the blessing will be understood.

Keep calling.......
Road Dog

Somerset, KY

#16 Feb 2, 2013
Hate To Say wrote:
Are you sure there's not more going on than just mother and son stuff?I mean i hate to think it,but it does happen.It just seems a little extreme for a mother to be that jealous.
You are 1 sick puppy, he desperately needs to get rid of you.
just saying

Madisonville, KY

#17 Feb 2, 2013
He loves his mother what wrong with that if he did love his mama then he probably wouldn't love no women be glad he lover her
Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#18 Feb 2, 2013
Im not saying for him not to love his mom. You all have took my question out of extreme. Idc for her calling but Im talking he comes home 6 0r 6:30 no sooner than he gets through the door the phone rings and it rings once a hr to 10 or 11 at night of her calling. If we go out somewhere she calls the whole time. As soon as we get up the phone starts ringing if she aint alrdy called and woke us up. I wouldnt care for her calling like before she goes to bed and talk to him or whatever but its constant and what gets me is shes at work with him ALL day wh cant when he comes home he be able to spend time with me and his kids without the phone ringing 24/7. Ive really tried to be nice and tolerate it but after a while it's got old and Im sure if you was in my shoes you would understand. Im also sure that you wouldnt want someone stuck up you ass 24/7 everytime you and your family went to go somewhere someone had to tag alone or called you the whole time.
Wife

Williamsburg, KY

#19 Feb 2, 2013
Parent wrote:
I have to call my kids everyday and they are no longer at home it's just a mothers instinct to know that her kids are ok. Maybe she just worries a lot I would be happy if my mother called me once a month just to check on me but she don't
Again im not saying for her not to call but what im saying is can she not call once mabey twice and let that be that but she calls as soon as he gets home and doesnt stop until she goes to bed and Im serious its every hour shes calling.
shedevil

London, KY

#20 Feb 2, 2013
Wife wrote:
<quoted text>
Again im not saying for her not to call but what im saying is can she not call once mabey twice and let that be that but she calls as soon as he gets home and doesnt stop until she goes to bed and Im serious its every hour shes calling.
You should love your parents and see they are taken care of after all they did you,But that is a little much.I'd just talk to her myself say I love you as my mom since you are my mother in law but I need time alone with my husband so please slow down with the calls or set times that is good for you both for her to call check on him since that is what most mothers call for they just want to know their kid yes even when they are grown to us mothers they are still our kids we just want to know they are ok that they made it safely home from work.so just say he can call you let you know he's home and safe see if you need anything then let that be your only call unless its a real emergency.I am blessed I guess I got a great mother in law.Then pick a day out of the week to spend with them take them out with you so they feel part of the family too.Do the same for your parents better yet do a day out of with where you cook for your parents and his or take them all out.Thats how we use to do when my mom was still alive.just my opinion

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