I suppose when the enemy is hovering around a camp fire trying to make coffee and stay warm from the overnight cold that there is no war at that moment from lower level individuals but more love for humanity and it is more fair to give him-her a fighting chance?<quoted text>
What happened to "All's fair in love and war" ?
And during the Civil War, the "enemy" was not always men, nor did all the women volunteer for nurse duty. Hundreds of women enlisted (as men) for both Union and Rebel sides from poor, rural areas and were not particularly well educated but enlisted primarily for the rare opportunity to obtain a paying "job" even though they had no real interest one way or the other in the war issues promulgated by the politicians and people of money.(Sound familiar?)
Sarah Rosetta Wakeman (alias Pvt. Lyons Wakeman) of the 153rd New York Volunteers (who was a little better than most at writing) wrote home that she obtained $152 for enlisting and $13 a month and would send more money home when she got it.
Her letter: "Mother, if you are a mind to send me a box of apples and a bottle of cider, you may. The rest of the "boys" are getting boxes of stuff from home... don't mourn for me, for if I never return I hope I shall meet you all in Heaven... The weather is cold and the ground is froze hard, but I sleep as warm in the tents as I would in a good bed. I don't know the difference when I get asleep. We have boards laid down for a floor and our dishes is tin. We all have a tin plate, and a tin cup, and a knife and fork, one spoon. We have to use the floor for a table. I like to be a soldier very well".