Many parents have tried all they can do. In my case, I weathered physical and verbal assaults, property damage, my own war on drugs, waged against a family member's addiction, and numerous bad situations best left unsaid. I tried to help with couselling, securing psychiatric intervention, with minimal insurance coverage and with private funds. I progressed from an "enabler" to trying "tough love," but to no avail. Doctors, inpatient and outpatient interventionists, police, courts were approached without helping to solve the problem. When the individual reached adulthood, there was even less help available, but then there was an innocent baby who was put at risk. Then came the battle with social service who would not allow the baby to remain with his mother, and rightly so, but the agency stated that the child would go to foster care, rather than allowing us to keep the baby. The rationale? A foster home was supposedly more objective and there was always the hope of reunification with the mother. Really??? After all the years of parents trying to help. At that point, I put the problem in the hands of the Lord. Finally, the baby's parents signed their rights away, and we got to adopt our little guy.I agree with you Oglala. Just yesterday there was a couple on Dr. Phil with there 15 yo son. That boy was terrorizing his parents! He had caught the house on fire, threatened to kill them, hit his mother, injured himself, swung a bat at his grandmother and store employees, attacked other kids, cussed out judges, been admitted 14 times for treatment/observation, etc. Nobody could pinpoint the problem! Meanwhile the parents were having to live with the kid, terrified. It had started when he was six years old. Dr Phil and his associates thought the boy was autistic and offered help. He told them if the treatment didn't help they were way in over their head! What the heck are parents supposed to do in a situation like that!?! They had done ALL they could! And I am sure there are many more cases like that. No doubt that kid could grow up to commit a mass killing.
I think the main problem is all the vaccines that they are giving kids! In the past we didn't have this problem. Sure there were kids born with problems but nowhere near this many kids had mental problems. I'm not sure of all the facts on it but I know they have added many new vaccines and they are processing the vaccines differently. I know of one baby who stopped breathing immediately when given a vaccine. Thank God the baby was revived but if a "simple" vaccine can cause a kid to STOP breathing/die, what does it do to their tiny undeveloped brain!
Every kid that I can think of who has committed a mass killing had some of these mental problems and I'm sure on medication for it. GUNS are not the root of the problem. They need to quit poisoning kids.
The reason I am saying all this is because there are many, many parents in crisis similar to mine, but there is still a stigma to mental illness and people are embarrassed to bring it out in the open. But there is hope only if we are able to talk about these unpleasant things. I could have written the article I spoke about before, entitled, "I am Adam Lanza's mother." The only thing that I did that she did not, and that is to lock up weapons in a safe way, never allowing access to them by ANYONE. But we need to start a national conversation about giving more support to folks with serious mental problems, exacerbated by the prevalence of street drugs.