attracted to someone else
confused

Ardsley, NY

#1 Dec 11, 2012
i love my spouse but recently I've been thinking of someone else. i see this person all the time and I can't avoid them. i feel terrible, but i just don't feel the passionate connection with my spouse that I used to. HELP.
me too

Huntington, WV

#2 Dec 12, 2012
confused wrote:
i love my spouse but recently I've been thinking of someone else. i see this person all the time and I can't avoid them. i feel terrible, but i just don't feel the passionate connection with my spouse that I used to. HELP.
Do yourself a favor and stay away from the situation. I've been there and I can tell you it will turn into a mess.
hmmm

Ardsley, NY

#3 Dec 12, 2012
confused wrote:
i love my spouse but recently I've been thinking of someone else. i see this person all the time and I can't avoid them. i feel terrible, but i just don't feel the passionate connection with my spouse that I used to. HELP.
Bet ur the girl that works at university peds with the guy u cheated on ur husband with!!!
confused

Ardsley, NY

#4 Dec 12, 2012
hmmm wrote:
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Bet ur the girl that works at university peds with the guy u cheated on ur husband with!!!
bet you're wrong. I don't work at Univ Peds.
hmmm

Ardsley, NY

#5 Dec 12, 2012
Just thought ur the girl from salt rock that had an affair with a married doc, broke up his marriage with the dance teacher wife!! My bad!!

Since: Oct 12

united states

#6 Dec 12, 2012
confused wrote:
i love my spouse but recently I've been thinking of someone else. i see this person all the time and I can't avoid them. i feel terrible, but i just don't feel the passionate connection with my spouse that I used to. HELP.
How long have u been married? Infatuation of someone else is normal but don't let it destroy your marriage, you can get that connection back if you both work on it. How does the other person feel about you? You might be waiting your time.
confused

Ardsley, NY

#7 Dec 12, 2012
the other person is also in a relationship but has expressed their interest. I've been married for over a year. I don't want to give up all i have for a 'chance' relationship.. just don't know how to get the other person out of my mind!
jws

New York, NY

#8 Dec 12, 2012
Maybe ur spouse feels the 2172same way. It might be best if u talk to him/her about not feeling a connection anymore and try to qork it out . This new person, do u work with him/her?

Since: Jan 13

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#9 Jan 14, 2013
A Year are you seriuos my goodness we were still trying to get to know each other. Today it is to easy to say well it is not working hmmmmm... wonder what this person thinks about me. Ask yourself a question what brought you and your husband together in the first place. Then tell him what is going on in your mind and see if he is willing to work on the relationship or not
Nymph

Chesapeake, OH

#10 Jan 20, 2013
I have a hard time tolerating people for very long, I have many men that ask me out, but I just can't get past the second date, I used to think it was them, but I'm startin to realize its me.....anyway, you should embrace your ability keep your relationship alive, and approach him/her with a different attitude and see if u can fix it, but as long as u keep thinking of this other person and how bad u want them, it's gonna make u see all the things about ur spouse that annoys u
omg

Saint Albans, WV

#11 Jan 20, 2013
Best to stay away from the other person cause he is married and he is happy!
concerned citizen

Portage, MI

#12 Jan 29, 2013
confused wrote:
the other person is also in a relationship but has expressed their interest. I've been married for over a year. I don't want to give up all i have for a 'chance' relationship.. just don't know how to get the other person out of my mind!
I'm no marriage guru, but if you're already having these kind of issues after being married only one year, your marriage is probably already doomed. I've been married for 13 years and together for almost 17 and I've managed to never cheat on my wife for the simple fact I love her so much and I couldn't handle the guilt. God knows it ain't always easy, but if you really love someone you'll keep that shit out of your head and do what's right.
Homer Simpson

Hurricane, WV

#13 Feb 19, 2013
Doooooouuuuuugh
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DMD

Monroeville, PA

#15 Feb 20, 2013
confused wrote:
the other person is also in a relationship but has expressed their interest. I've been married for over a year. I don't want to give up all i have for a 'chance' relationship.. just don't know how to get the other person out of my mind!
Keep in mind the old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater". If he's willing to cheat with you, he'd probably cheat ON you. You've only been married a year so 365 days ago you REALLY loved this person enough to commit your LIFE. So ok, you're attracted to the looks?Conversation? Whatever; just means you're human. Acting on it would then make you wrong. If you see this person every day for work or other, I'd change my schedule. Even more drastic, look for another job. What shouldn't be a choice is giving up so soon. I agree with the other comment about talking it out: look, loving is EASY. Marriage, living together, communication is WORK. Be willing to DO THE WORK.
Humbly ME

Charleston, WV

#16 Feb 21, 2013
U r wrong. God can change the hearts of men. Do not believe the prince of darkness, the great deceiver. I've strayed. I will never again. I have seen evil. I choose God, love,my handsome, successful Godly forgiving husband who deserves No insults.

The one who reins forever
He is a friend of mine
The God of angel armies
Is always by my side!
justsayin

Proctorville, OH

#17 Feb 21, 2013
think about why you married him in the first place, perhaps your engagement wasnt long enough, or it was a get away from whatever.. however if you continue to see this other person you need to end all ties with your husband, thats not being fair to him and you are living a lie... good luck!
DMD

Monroeville, PA

#18 Feb 22, 2013
Humbly ME wrote:
U r wrong. God can change the hearts of men. Do not believe the prince of darkness, the great deceiver. I've strayed. I will never again. I have seen evil. I choose God, love,my handsome, successful Godly forgiving husband who deserves No insults.
The one who reins forever
He is a friend of mine
The God of angel armies
Is always by my side!
I agree people can admit mistakes and become better....with the next person. You don't get a second chance to hurt someone again and you sure have to face the consequences.
meee

Charleston, WV

#19 Feb 25, 2013
Thankfully I'm not looking! God Bless and Good Luck, All!
Anonymous

Huntington, WV

#20 May 3, 2013
Well Turkey Tits, its time for you to face the truth...You are a slut! Do him a favor and leave him, he deserves a good wife.

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