lets get married and have babies

lets get married and have babies

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shocked

United States

#1 Mar 29, 2011
WHY are the highschool girls getting married and having babies? They are still babies theirself. I feel bad for these children. Where are their parents and what kind of parent would allow this?
Bakersfield

Columbia, MO

#2 Apr 5, 2011
im one of the girls that is getting married im 18 years old and i dont think your judgemental oppions of any of us matters because it is our lives not yours so manybe you should mind your own business and worry about yourselves this town worrys about nothing but drama so maybe just maybe live your live and stop worrying and judgeing people you are prolly one of the other worthless people in this town that all they do is drive around drinking bear or work at one of the so called cafes around here or maybe even a gas station this town is a hell hole and there are only people here that couldnt go anywhere with there lifes im glad to be leaveing this town and not haven to worry about people like you that all they do is walk around town worrying about whos doing what and why this and why that...
ben dover

United States

#3 Apr 10, 2011
your comment just shows how young and stupid you really are. The other person(shocked) was not judging you she was just making her own comment and exspressing her concern. It is a problem for young people making these live changing desecions at such a young age. And as far as getting out of this hell hole, you are going to have the same problems else where you just will not have your family and freinds for support Smart thinking
bakersfield

United States

#4 Apr 14, 2011
Umm I won't have any problem leaveing here! I will travel to see my family, and her concern means nothing and as for her she needs not to worry bout us girls,ill b married I don't need to rely on my family for support its time I grow up and b an adult maybe if everyone had this look out on life in this hell hole they would be someone and not just a low life
shocked

United States

#5 Apr 16, 2011
You girls have no idea what its like. You will see.
Constitution

United States

#6 May 3, 2011
This is a free country where we can choose to do what we want to do with out lives. If a person is old enough with parental permission or is 18 they have the right under our constitution to decide. You may speak your concerns but you should never interfear.
shocked

United States

#7 May 3, 2011
@ constitution. Question for you... how in the he'll is posting my opinion on TOPIX interfering with anyones life? Do you teen age kids obsess with the internet and what people say?
This is america I do have a right to say whaatever I feel like. I was not badgering or degrading anyone here.
Obviously these children who are having children and getting married have had no real parental figure in their life or they would be going on to college. To get a career to then have children that they can provide for.
As for personally knowing any of the girls who are pregnant and getting married I dont know them. I am just stating my personal view on this issue.
The_window

Springfield, MO

#8 May 5, 2011
Haha this is awesome! First off this Topix thing is cool, but the funniest thing is everybody getting all rallied up. I graduated from Bakersfield, moved off, and came back. I however WASN'T going to get married before hand. You all are right, it is personal choice.
In today's society though, being young, married, and/or having a baby puts you in a very very disadvantage point. In the long run most people look back and say damn, I wish I wouldn't of gotten married when I was that young. You also have to look that over 50% of all marriages fail. Whoever said something about us being babies, that was kind of a low blow, but we are young. If I would of gotten married back then, no doubt I'd be divorced. Hell, I still don't know who I am, let alone who I'm suppose to be with.
The other side of this, you have to realize the mindset of over 90% of the population in towns like these. Most people think right after high school, you are suppose to get married pop some kids, and die in your parents backyard.
Growing up in this environment, it is hard see the other side of the world unless you live through it. To whoever is getting married, chances are you were born locally, and have never lived anyway else. To all of you other guys, chances are you lived somewhere else and came into this environment.
Just my two cents though. Doubt it makes any difference.:)
blahblah

United States

#9 May 26, 2011
Yes shocked I do believe u r degrading teen moms. I was a teen mom myself and I've done great for me and my child. I am now married and have graduated college fixing to start my career and I was prego at 15 and had my child at 16. Also I had great parental figures n my life. And I am and always have been able to provide for my child. And u may not personally no teens who r prego n getn married but when u post something like this on here it offends all teen moms maybe this is an opinion u should have kept to urself
shocked

United States

#10 Jun 11, 2011
@ blahblah so you say you have an education? Why can't you spell correctly? I can claim to be the smartest person in the world. Doesn't mean its true.. tell me this blah blah, was it hard for you, or was it a bed of roses. That's all these young kids need to realize. In our economy you're not going to get a good job without some type of education or skill. But the younger generation doesn't seem to see it that way. For SOME getting benefits from the state does them just fine. I dont care if anybody gets upset over what I say im not going to sugar-coat anything.
Also, I called these 'teenagers' children because scientific studies show that a brain isn't fully developed until in your twenties. Like in every study there are exceptions. It would be unlikely that the development of every teenager was exactly the same. Nevertheless I still say too many children are having babies. And its a sad thing to see.
Girl who knows

Mountain Pine, AR

#11 Oct 11, 2011
I am 19 now. I got married at 16. I thought it was gonna be a ball getting married young. Now im married with a 3month old daughter. We dont have jobs even though we've applied everywhere we can think of. We are living with his parents. I love my husband and I dont regret marrying him. But I do know that we shouldve made sure we were a bit more stable before walking into this...im not regretting it because i have a beautiful daughter now. i had a bad life at home too. im glad i did it. just wish i couldve been a little smarter about some things.
Cant believe it

Mountain Pine, AR

#12 Oct 17, 2011
You know, I cant believe that all these girls are getting irritated because someone is concerned for them. They think it is going to be all fun and games. Dont they know its going to be hard at times and they are not always going to be madly in love with the person they are with. There will be times they want to dig a 6 foot deep hole. Ive noticed that all these girls are acting like shocked is attacking them personally. Except for "Girl who knows". She is in it right now and is finding out how hard things can get. She is becoming a tiny bit more wise with every hardship. Once these girls begin on this path theyve chosen most of them will regret it and wish they had their childhood back. Most arent mature enough to venture on this path.
Bakersfield

West Plains, MO

#13 Oct 25, 2011
welp im the girl that posted april 5th 2011, im 19 and i graduated high school, and im haven my son in 4 weeks and me and my husband and our NEWBORN SON are moven to germany in december without anyones help! just posting the update!-Kelsey Stephens
Flash

Brainerd, MN

#14 Nov 7, 2011
Anyone know a stephanie harvey?
Just sayin

United States

#15 Nov 13, 2011
And I do believe 19 is old enough to make your own decisions and have a kid, Kelsey. Youre going to be a great mommy :)
Anyone who is having a baby, well, ITS THEIR LIFE, they dont need strangers on a gossip site being "concerned" for them! Get a life!
Unknown

United States

#16 Nov 21, 2011
Yea shes a worthless mother
ABC

United States

#17 Jan 25, 2012
Give it a while. The new will be gone soon... its sad they think a pretty dress and a pretty ring is so much fun!!
Girl who knows

Mountain Pine, AR

#18 Feb 5, 2012
Posting again. My daughter is now seven months old. It is still hard but its getting better. Looking at college and my husband is gonna be working at the new paper factory in salem. I am just gonna say that I hope young girls really think about this decision.
Just Sayin

United States

#19 Mar 1, 2012
bakersfield wrote:
,ill b married I don't need to rely on my family for support its time I grow up and b an adult maybe if everyone had this look out on life in this hell hole
No your not relying on your family for support now u have a husband to support you!!!
bladdybladdy

United States

#20 Mar 8, 2012
The reason every female in gainesville is married with babies is because of a few reasons:

1. Low IQ

2. No Sex Ed in this backwards part of the nation and parents are either not around or don't have the balls to have the "talk" with their kids

3. They're all fucking dumb

It's really simple when you think about it.

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