When do you turn someone in for child...

When do you turn someone in for child neglect?

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wondering

Burlington, IA

#1 Aug 25, 2012
I live in a apartment complex and every day I see the three adorable lil kids being screamed at for one thing or another. The mother won't get up off her lazy butt to take care of them,they look like she never gives them a bath,they have came to my apartment and told me they are hungary and their mom won't get up to give them anything to eat so I have fed them.My guestion is is this enough to turn her in??
me

Pomona, MO

#2 Aug 25, 2012
Yes all you need to do is report it and even if they don't up right away it's on record then the next time something happens its in their system but you have the choice to do it ann.
takes a village

Gower, MO

#3 Aug 25, 2012
Your responsibility is as soon as you see neglect and/or abuse. Report it, and they will investigate. No one should ever make a false report out of spite, anger,etc., but anyone who truly believes a child is neglected or mistreated should report it. You could save a child a lot of misery, or even save a life. There would be so many fewer horror stories if people would simply be aware and get involved. The children will not necessarily be taken out of the home, perhaps the parent(s) simply need parenting classes, perhaps there is a situation of depression, etc., and making a report will help the entire family. Do it now. Don't wait until there is a tragedy.
SuZ

United States

#4 Aug 25, 2012
wondering wrote:
I live in a apartment complex and every day I see the three adorable lil kids being screamed at for one thing or another. The mother won't get up off her lazy butt to take care of them,they look like she never gives them a bath,they have came to my apartment and told me they are hungary and their mom won't get up to give them anything to eat so I have fed them.My guestion is is this enough to turn her in??
Did you ask the mother if they could even have dinner with you?
What if one of the little ones had a food allergy.
Maybe you are allowing her children to eat things she as a mother does not care for them to have.

There is a fine line ... in one sentence you question her parenting technique -shes on them for every little thing, so which is it.

The phrase "lazy butt" to me implies an underlying personal issue between the two of you.

A man just yesterday yelled and hit his grandson for playing in a neighbors gravel driveway telling the 4 year old boy that neighbor "will shoot you" :# 1 It was the Grandfathers neglect for not watching the boy that he wondered off #2 the neighbor doesnt own a gun but the Grandpather still used the threat to put fear in the boy #3 the boy then gets spanked for the grandfathers neglect.

Is the childs life in immediate danger - No
Do I care for the grandfathers way of treating children -no
SuZ

United States

#5 Aug 25, 2012
This is something I would do ....
Hey guys run ask Mom is you can slip on a swimsuit and come play in the hose. Then I'd spray them off and as they finshed I throw a bottle of dial foam on the ground and say ... lets get that dirt from the wet yard off.

See there are ways ... instead of what seems to come across as causing problems.
okes

Nixa, MO

#6 Aug 25, 2012
for feeding kids-- AS a small child ( so my mother says) I went to school and found out they would feed you if you said you were hungry- well the school called my parents and found out I refused to eat at home and would eat at school (they had what I wanted) so the school and mom got together and I didn;t eat at home-- went to school and they would not feed me-- I was hungry all day--
that stoped that--talk with the parent.
Pissed in Ava

Branson, MO

#7 Aug 25, 2012
take into consideration whether the kids are skin and bones and the mom is really fat pay attention if she calls them in at meal time and stop by to barrow something and see if she is feeding them keep chips in your purse and give them to the kids in front of her and see if she takes them away and eats them herself best bet befriend the mom and do a little spying but dont just drop a dime on a hunch
SuZ

United States

#8 Aug 25, 2012
Oh nonsense I dont let kids eat chips as a given either. Nothing healthy about them. Gainsville youre a idiot.
you gotta be kidding

Gower, MO

#9 Aug 25, 2012
Suz--what assurance do you have that the kids are not allergic to dial foam?

I think it is a little unrealistic to go by and give the kids chips and see if the mom takes them and eats them herself. But calling somebody an idiot is rather extreme. Her idea was no more stupid that your idea about the dial foam, lol
SuZ

United States

#10 Aug 25, 2012
I have no intention on taking another womans children to raise ... to be honest.
BUT if I were concerned they needed soap and water my solution would be provide soap and water.
GET IT NOW ?
Asking the children AND THEIR mother by to play in the hose is but one way to achieve what it was "IF" I felt it needed to be addressed .
I have also handed gloves and scarfs out like candy ...
The state workers are already running around like chicken without their heads - so to hotline a dirty face or nagging is clearly a personal vendetta.
I called it for what it was ...
SuZ

United States

#11 Aug 25, 2012
"Oh look at what I ran across, remember these ?? "
- hands mother 3 cans of foaming soap children love to use .
"Look at the deal I got"
-hands 5 bottles of Johnson and Johnson baby shampoo.

Stop making problems start offering solutions

usa

United States

#12 Aug 25, 2012
SuZ wrote:
I have no intention on taking another womans children to raise ... to be honest.
BUT if I were concerned they needed soap and water my solution would be provide soap and water.
GET IT NOW ?
Asking the children AND THEIR mother by to play in the hose is but one way to achieve what it was "IF" I felt it needed to be addressed .
I have also handed gloves and scarfs out like candy ...
The state workers are already running around like chicken without their heads - so to hotline a dirty face or nagging is clearly a personal vendetta.
I called it for what it was ...
As usual the idiot is once again out of it's area.
SuZ

United States

#13 Aug 25, 2012
You dont know me or where I have friends and family for that matter .
SuZ

United States

#14 Aug 25, 2012
10 mins and the colors are already out ... let me guess
usa

United States

#15 Aug 25, 2012
SuZ wrote:
You dont know me or where I have friends and family for that matter .
You must have forgotten your own words... Posting that far away is frowned upon... So get lost idiot
SuZ

United States

#17 Aug 25, 2012
Not what I said - Now enough
usa

United States

#18 Aug 25, 2012
SuZ wrote:
Not what I said - Now enough
Yes it's exactly what came out of that big mouth.
Visitor

Kimberling City, MO

#19 Aug 26, 2012
SuZ,I usually agree with you but you're wrong this time.Take the example of a person I know who was raised in Ava by a druggie mother.Nearly starved to death because the mother sold the food stamps,left the kids for days at a time with no food,no water ,no electricity.If not for the kindness of strangers these kids would not have made it to adulthood.In case of doubt I will allways feed a child,give him clothes or let him shower at my place,and yes ,probably take a cussing from his Mom for doing so.
you gotta be kidding

Gower, MO

#20 Aug 26, 2012
Suz: you criticized the poster for feeding the children, saying they might have allergies. " Did you ask the mother if they could even have dinner with you?
What if one of the little ones had a food allergy."

Then you said "I throw a bottle of dial foam"

The point was your solution to the dirt was no better than the other poster's solution to the hunger.

GET IT NOW?
NOW

West Plains, MO

#21 Aug 26, 2012
If you're sure their being mistreated.. DO IT NOW!

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