Greedy Baby Mamas wanting child suppo...

Greedy Baby Mamas wanting child support and foodstamps

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MAD

Sioux City, IA

#1 Sep 18, 2012
Can anyone please tell me why my husband's ex baby mama is trying to have my husband's license taken away over arrears (less than $700.00)when without a license how does she expect him to get to work to earn the money to give to her sorry lazy a$$? Why do they (child support) stay on him and not care if she even works when all she does is get one govt. hand out after another??? Will she pay her utilities...no she'll just draw a utility check for that. Buy groceries....no she'll just draw $900 a month food stamps and sell half. Help support her children....no she'll just suck the dads dry and then spend the money on beer for her boyfriend. How about you step your fat a$$ up and do your part? Oh wait, you're too busy having babies by all different men to do your part.So when is your next income maker...err i mean baby due? What is this child number 7? Sorry! Only work you do is what families first makes you do! People like you make me sick!Quit having babies and expecting hard working people's tax money and child support to supply you with income while your kids go around looking like orphans!
well

United States

#2 Sep 18, 2012
I am in a househld that deals h both sides of this ituation.. Chid support going out and "supposed" t be comming in.. She hs noting to do wth them going after his license.. If he i $500 or more behind the state, by law, has to g ater him. I do feel like they go after some harde than oths. But as b law when they set chid support they have to takein to account her income and i she hsno ob they put her in at minimu wge. thats the new law. SI have leaned that you can' worry about what she is blowing hr gov. assist. on. t will jus make you more anry. Just pay the child support and not penny more. anything xtra is considered a gift nless sent through the state. andif she is getng a wel-fare check. the state will start taking her child support.
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#3 Sep 18, 2012
It's stupid if they do take them because then how is he supposed to work? I could understand if he didn't work, never saw his kid, and was thousands of dollars behind but a few hundred??? If he has no license to drive to work how do they think he is going to be able to pay to catch up on child support.I don't get the logic!He works out of town and there is no body he can ride with to get there. I work and could possibly pick him up but how he would get there is the question. and you are right, they ride some harder than others and it is the one they know will keep a job so they know that is money for sure. I just get sick of her having child after child and expecting some one else to do for them. She had two miscarriages or she would have 8 kids right now with one on the way! Only reason she has a kid with my husband is because he made a drunken one night stand mistake (he was single at the time and not with me) but he is a good dad and does all he can financially and physically and it just makes me sick that she sits there and mooches off any body and every body!But, ain't nothing we can do I guess except take what she dishes out because you best believe the state is on her side, not ours.
well

United States

#4 Sep 18, 2012
I agree the state in most cases is on the woman's side. But like I said before, I deal with both sides.. In my case the "father" threw a fit bc they told him they were gonna take his DL and he asked the same question of how would he get to work. BUT... He would not pay Child support so what difference to me does it make if he gets to work or not bc he was not supporting his child anyway. They to my knowledge did not take them and he got thousands behind, but every time my husband gets the least bit behind they stay on him with everything they got. and he has NEVER been thousands behind. There's nothing you can do about how many kids she has or how worthless she is.. Just make sure the child support is paid and hope the 18th birthday comes soon...
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#5 Sep 20, 2012
That's quite a few years away till the child turns 18 and you are right there is nothing that can be done. My husband is only behind due to getting laid off and then the new job he got pays less than the old one and he had to wait 2 months to get a review and the whole time he was getting behind even though it is coming out of his check every week. he did not make enough to pay it all. They need to get it together and I can't help but feel like she is pushing them to go after him because ever since he was laid off and she started getting less because they can only take so much of his check she's been asking where the rest of her money is. Texting, harrasing, won't leave people alone. He's told her over and over he is waiting for a review and that he is making less money and that is why she is not getting what she used too. No telling how much she rakes in from each of her 6 baby daddies. But anyway...it's just stupid to take a license for a few hundred. If she is the one pushing for it, she is just screwing herself because if he loses his license he won't be able to drive to work to give her "her" money as she calls it. She's cutting off her nose to spite her face!
sooo

Huron, TN

#6 Sep 20, 2012
Why is he 700 dollars behind in child support? It's quite obvious he wasn't paying the child support in the first place so what does it matter if he has his license to get back and forth to work or not. If it's the law,then that's the law and the law shouldn't be changed/not enforced just because YOU don't agree with it. Maybe you should stop complaining on topix about it and help him pay what he owes. Just my opinion.
well

United States

#7 Sep 20, 2012
sooo wrote:
Why is he 700 dollars behind in child support? It's quite obvious he wasn't paying the child support in the first place so what does it matter if he has his license to get back and forth to work or not. If it's the law,then that's the law and the law shouldn't be changed/not enforced just because YOU don't agree with it. Maybe you should stop complaining on topix about it and help him pay what he owes. Just my opinion.
Just so you understand... getting $700 behind is ALOT easier than you may think! My husband was paying $690 a month for 1 child! He was the only one working bc we had a very sick child of our own and without notice he lost his job! We asked the Childsupport office to do a reveiw and they told us it would take 3-4 months just to get a court date! He got unemployment but after they took their part we only got $90 a week and we have several kids. You tell me why one child is worth $690 a month and they were leaving us with $360 a month for the other 4! We did finally get it lowered but no thanks to the CHILD SUPPORT OFFICE.. We filed our own paperwork and got a date alot faster. He has always paid his child support LONG before it was ever even ordered. So no $700 is not a far off number. I have sat in court and seen SEVERAL people behind 30-60 thousand dollars and they do NOTHING to them but as soon as my husband got $500 behind he got the same "gonna take your licence" letter. My ex NEVER paid his child suport and got thousands behind an they never took his licence or anything. They pick and choose who to go after!
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#8 Sep 21, 2012
sooo wrote:
Why is he 700 dollars behind in child support? It's quite obvious he wasn't paying the child support in the first place so what does it matter if he has his license to get back and forth to work or not. If it's the law,then that's the law and the law shouldn't be changed/not enforced just because YOU don't agree with it. Maybe you should stop complaining on topix about it and help him pay what he owes. Just my opinion.
He is paying it. It is set for his previous job and is more than half of his check so they can only take half and he is left owing the rest each week. He was laid off from the higher paying job and had to take a lesser paying one.They would not adjust it for unemployment so he found another job and has been waiting for several weeks for his new wages to be reviewed and therefor that is why he is behind...not because he didn't pay it at all. You need to know the situation before you judge. If we had the money to just pay it all we would.. We have two more kids in our home we take care of too.
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#9 Sep 21, 2012
well wrote:
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Just so you understand... getting $700 behind is ALOT easier than you may think! My husband was paying $690 a month for 1 child! He was the only one working bc we had a very sick child of our own and without notice he lost his job! We asked the Childsupport office to do a reveiw and they told us it would take 3-4 months just to get a court date! He got unemployment but after they took their part we only got $90 a week and we have several kids. You tell me why one child is worth $690 a month and they were leaving us with $360 a month for the other 4! We did finally get it lowered but no thanks to the CHILD SUPPORT OFFICE.. We filed our own paperwork and got a date alot faster. He has always paid his child support LONG before it was ever even ordered. So no $700 is not a far off number. I have sat in court and seen SEVERAL people behind 30-60 thousand dollars and they do NOTHING to them but as soon as my husband got $500 behind he got the same "gonna take your licence" letter. My ex NEVER paid his child suport and got thousands behind an they never took his licence or anything. They pick and choose who to go after!
You are absolutely right, it is easy to get that much behind and his is set at $680 per month so when only half that can be paid each month it only takes about 3 months to get behind and we are still waiting for them to respond to his review papers. They told us it could take up to 6 months. meanwhile, he is still responsible for the higher amount until the new lesser amount is ordered. It's very frustrating that everyone treats all dads that get behind like dead beats when they don't know the circumstances.
well

United States

#10 Sep 21, 2012
We filed our own paperwork... Or else we wold have been in the hole BAD! they tried to give us the run around like that too.. It's ridiculous!
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#11 Sep 21, 2012
How did you file it yourself? Do you petition the court? if so then that is what we will do next time. I don't like the way they handle things at that child support office at all. If we can handle it some other way we will.
well

United States

#12 Sep 21, 2012
yes, we petitioned ourselves. We kno a para-legal very well, and she helped us draw up the paperwork. We had to pay the filing fee but after we did that we got a cour date in3 weeks verses the child supports 3-4 months! The CS office is a JOKE!
Kids cant eat an excuse

United States

#13 Sep 21, 2012
I fail to see the Hardship $ 690. a month child support.

30 days in a month at $23 dollar per day equals 690

3- meals a day,clothes,food,shelter,toys, medical,
dental,diapers, other miscellaneous.

Amount seems fair to me. Start a hobby,get a part time job,parlay a side venture.

I was a product of child support issues growing up and my Mom raised our family and struggled with that child support issue, its the kids that suffer all the way around. At a young age it is hard to reason.

Anyway a driver license is a privilege not a right.

BOO HOO HOO there going to suspend my driver license, same thing with the child BOO HOO HOO I don't have anything to eat or clothes or a place to live.

And you get on Topix wanting someone to share your tears cause he may loose driver license. Sell the car or truck. The money you would spend on insurance,tags,fuel, payments,maintenance and so forth could be allocated toward paying your obligation to take care of the CHILD you brought in this world.

Should have thought out your actions better on conception night.

Walk,get a bike to ride,share a ride with neighbor or friend.

That is a remedy versus Boo Hoo Hoo and more Boo Hoo Hoo there going to take my driver license.

Deal with it so the tax payers thru welfare won't have to.

That's a better Boo Hoo Hoo than me having Boo Hoo Hoo there going to raise my taxes to pay for somebody's kid.

thats crap

United States

#14 Sep 21, 2012
I never got anything CLOSE to 690 a month!!! And it takes 2 to make a baby. If dead beat MOMS wuld do their share as well it wouldnt be so bad. I have been a single mother and I still believe 690 a moth is too high for one kid. If the child has no food or clothes ect. what is the lazy mama doing? I never got any help from the dead beat dad an my child still got taken care of with out wel fare! It takes 2 to make that baby and the women knew what risk he was taking when she was laying on her back as well. Yeah a man should have to HELP take care of his child but he also has the right to be able to survive and take care of the rest of his kids and family. If the baby mama has the right to get money off of him and still have other babies by different men and expect them to take care of them too she should only expect he is gonna have a family and go on with his life as well. He should not have to give up the rest of his life and all of his money bc he had a baby with a woman he is no longer with. He should do HIS share not the WHOLE thing!
crapper

United States

#15 Sep 21, 2012
Might want to rethink that second to last sentence from the bottom.

Quote - " He should not have to give up the rest of his life and all of his money bc he had a baby with a woman he is no longer with "

Translation = If I was still with that woman I wouldn't object to paying child support, but since we are no longer together don't feel I should pay any child support. The child support money transfer is to raise the child, its irrelevant whether your with the mother or not. HINT- focus on the child's needs not on yourself.
thats crap

United States

#16 Sep 22, 2012
if you would have read what I said.. I said yes you should HELP take care of yourkid but thatdoes not give her the right to make him have to live in the poor house because gets all of your money.Yes he should have to WORK an HELP pay or his kid but SO SHOULD SHE!!
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#17 Sep 24, 2012
Yes, baby mamas should help out! Not rely on the daddy to do most of it and the goverment do the rest!Apparently, the poster called "kids can't eat an excuse" did not read where I said she SELLS HER FOOD STAMPS, DOES NOT WORK,GETS ANY AND ALL HANDOUTS AVAILABLE! That is not doing her part!Let's also talk about clothes, shall we??? She buys none! We have to get them for the child plus give her cs money. I work and help my husband make a living and helped buy all of our kids school clothes..what did my stepkid's mama buy? NOTHING! Her other kids do without because apparently their daddies say child support is enough but my step kid gets what we can afford which is not much after he has to handover most of his pay and trust me if you ever had to pay out that much to someone you'd be hurting too. But I guess you are a baby mama too and we just struck a nerve! You'll get over it!
MAD

Sioux City, IA

#18 Sep 25, 2012
Kids cant eat an excuse wrote:
I fail to see the Hardship $ 690. a month child support.
30 days in a month at $23 dollar per day equals 690
3- meals a day,clothes,food,shelter,toys, medical,
dental,diapers, other miscellaneous.
Amount seems fair to me. Start a hobby,get a part time job,parlay a side venture.
I was a product of child support issues growing up and my Mom raised our family and struggled with that child support issue, its the kids that suffer all the way around. At a young age it is hard to reason.
Anyway a driver license is a privilege not a right.
BOO HOO HOO there going to suspend my driver license, same thing with the child BOO HOO HOO I don't have anything to eat or clothes or a place to live.
And you get on Topix wanting someone to share your tears cause he may loose driver license. Sell the car or truck. The money you would spend on insurance,tags,fuel, payments,maintenance and so forth could be allocated toward paying your obligation to take care of the CHILD you brought in this world.
Should have thought out your actions better on conception night.
Walk,get a bike to ride,share a ride with neighbor or friend.
That is a remedy versus Boo Hoo Hoo and more Boo Hoo Hoo there going to take my driver license.
Deal with it so the tax payers thru welfare won't have to.
That's a better Boo Hoo Hoo than me having Boo Hoo Hoo there going to raise my taxes to pay for somebody's kid.
By the way, I have 2 kids at home and it does not take $23.00 a day to feed or clothe both of them much less one of them! A complete meal for my family MIGHT cost $10.00 because I am a thrifty shopper and we school clothes shop twice a year and maybe get a new outfit or two for Christmas. I don't buy new clothes every month, for one I can't afford it. Also, we live in an older house with cheap rent, I'd like to live in a nicer house but we don't because we live within our means and let's face it, do without some stuff. I'm sorry you apparently had a dead beat dad growing up but my husband is a far cry from a dead beat. In the past few years he has paid in over $30,000 dollars to this woman in child support, that's right, I said PAID IN NOT OWES! So, you need to be on the baby mamas cases about your tax dollars caring for their kids because MY husband does his part. She is the one who does not and relies on the government.....and YOUR tax money to pick up the slack after she spends hard earned money from my husband that is supposed to be for the child! and why should he sell his vehicle that he uses to drive to work to give her money that she will just blow??? By the way, his vehicle is old, not new, it's a rattle trap to get from point a to point b which is work. We don't make payments on it. No new cars here so he wouldn't even get that much out of it if he did sell it. smh!
accept it for what it is

Keller, TX

#19 Sep 26, 2012
I only get $55 a week for my kid but it is based on his father's pay and he also supports another child. I knew he already had one child when I had a child with him. I am not gonna ask for more because that is what he is supposed to pay according to his wages. He makes an average salary so I get average pay. I also work and do my part. I do not expect the state of Tn to give me food stamps nor do I get Tncare. I work hard at a factory job that has insurance. Any other mother could do the same! They don't want to. They were raised to expect handouts so they expect them when their grown and also teach their kids the same method. It's a vicious cycle. Don't be mad at the paying daddy that their kid lives in poverty take it up with the lazy unemployed govt. funds hoochie mama!
mother of three

Paris, TN

#20 Sep 26, 2012
The state isnt worried about the children, fathers or the mothers because if they were they would give all the "child" support to the child but no they keep their fees out thats why it only counts if you send it into them so they can get their money out first. Thats whats bullshit!!

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