Painkiller abuse claims life of Erwin High student

Will Chapman had worried for his oldest son and had been asking family and friends if they would help him get the teenager's attention and turn his life around. Read more
fellow_student

United States

#85 Mar 19, 2008
as a fellow student of matthew chapman i want him to be remembered as the great guy he was.. always the one to give up anything.. help anybody out in any way.. he was awesome.. and everybody loved him. still do. yes he did get in some bad stuff the last year or so of his life but why should he still be downed for it? he was an amazing guy. as a student of erwin high school everyone is in remembrance of him and has been for the last two days. we all know kids will still do these drugs, its just soceity now -- or so they see it. you can't stop unless you want to. and after seeing this, first hand, the pain of the other football players, the family, teachers, friends - i dont wanna lose NOT ONE more friend to drugs.
we all love & miss you matthew valentine chapman!
forever will be remembered & never forgotten.
03/16/08
Big Steve

United States

#86 Mar 19, 2008
I am an erwin student and I am also a good friend of Matt. It is very hard to accept the fact that my friend is gone. The artice was completely right. He was a great player on the field and he was always there for you when you needed him most.

My heart goes out to his family and all other families suffering from this problem. I learned a lesson from his death. I admit I've tried drugs before. I will never comit to this bad habit ever again. I will keep my grades up and succeed in life.

We love you matt, you are never forgoten
David C

Casar, NC

#87 Mar 19, 2008
I feel for the parents

what a waste
Mountain Man

Casar, NC

#88 Mar 19, 2008
I FEEL SORRY FOR THE PARENTS

But, between ingesting medicine for fun,
and choking themselves to death for a rush,
just proves that teenagers are idiots.
Just one more recipient for the Darwin award.

I FEEL SORRY FOR THE PARENTS
JANNA

Atlanta, GA

#89 Mar 19, 2008
I am so very sorry for this family. my blessings to them. also to big momma . people are so rude goes to show you just what you said is very true. people can cut you much worse with words. kids today are desperate for love and attention. they want and need to be listened to. have you noticed people lately their children talking to them and they don't hear one word. another thing is today such freedom with money. parents are busy and work long and hard come home and face more work and sometimes adults are not happy with each other so there is stress. so they hand out money like it was running water because they hope it takes the place of their not being there. children today have pockets ful of money. and yes big momma if you had been involved with school from their early age you would get more respect. I volunteer at school and I hear and see just what teachers face. kids hear from home all the bad things at school so they learn to hate school. then they don't listen and the teachers don't get help from home with child discipline the parent begins to complain that the teacher is picking on my poor little kid. teachers can not perform miricles they and all of us wish we could.I have to say the olny hope of only being close to getting a child through childhood is to stay on your knees . GOD only loans us these children for a season. we are to be their constant companion. we need to put them first. I raised 4 sweet children it was not easy but I was always there for them. we didn't have much but we had each other. and it shows today. they now have babies.my youngest is 21 she grew up in a drug raged school. but she always came home and told me everything that went on at school. never shyed away. the things we discussed were pitiful. she told me one time . thanks mom for being the mom you are. and I said what kind is that?? she said just for listening to me and not judging me. she I only hope that one day I can be a mama like you. That made my day. I am far from perfect I didn't say all this for praise or for negative comments which fault finders will find but just to say put God at the head of your family. go to him he has said if you ask I will answer but first we need to be clean in our own heart for him to hear us. bless each and everyone out there good and bad there is good in all people some you just have to dig for. the ones with bad mouths are just crying out for love. they need to learn that to get love you need to first give love.. GOD BLESS YOU ALL. and as I wrote about my sisters son Zack a couple of days ago in the article on the chid drownding well some readers didn't read clearly THE OTHER PERSON WAS JENNE AND NOT MY NAME HAD THEY HAVE NOTICED WHERE WE BOTH SIGNED IN FROM THEY WOULD HAVE CAUGHT IT.
Marcus

United States

#90 Mar 19, 2008
Maria wrote:
<quoted text>Please don't blame the teachers for things that happen to your child. Do your part as a parent and you will find that the teachers won't have such a hard time with your child.

Did you graduate high school yourself and I hate to say it but the way your comments are written you did not or simply can't type or spell.
Don't throw stones. Have you ever heard of a run-on sentence? Read your last paragraph.

Since: Feb 07

Asheville

#91 Mar 19, 2008
Big Steve wrote:
I am an erwin student and I am also a good friend of Matt. It is very hard to accept the fact that my friend is gone. The artice was completely right. He was a great player on the field and he was always there for you when you needed him most.
My heart goes out to his family and all other families suffering from this problem. I learned a lesson from his death. I admit I've tried drugs before. I will never comit to this bad habit ever again. I will keep my grades up and succeed in life.
We love you matt, you are never forgoten
That would be the best way to honor your friend. Sorry for your loss, I hope many others will vow to not use and go on to succeed in life as he would wish for you to do.
Brewmeister

Taylorsville, NC

#92 Mar 19, 2008
Local-not-Local wrote:
<quoted text>
Actually, no one has ever died from a pot overdose.
So that's the test of whether something is OK or not...whether it results in your death? Frickin' brilliant there, stoner.
Local-not-Local wrote:
Actually, countries with lower or no drinking ages have FAR fewer rates of alcoholism than the U.S.
This is total BS for several reasons:

1. Russia has one of the highest alcoholism rates in the world (far above the USA). Legal age to purchase in Russia is 18.

2. Countries that don't dedicate many resources to identifying, diagnosing and treating alcoholism wouldn't necessarily know or be able to report their true rate of alcoholism. To say that such a country has a low alcoholism rate is inaccurate. Their rate simply isn't known.

3. In most states it's NOT illegal for people under 21 to CONSUME alcohol (although it is illegal in NC). Nineteen (19) states have no minimum age for consumption. An additional 16 states allow consumption under age 21 in a family setting. Only 15 states explicitly prohibit under 21 consumption under any circumstances (except for religious purposes). In most states, it's perfectly fine for a 15 year old to have a beer (some states require parental consent or private-location consumption).

4. It's not just about alcoholism. It's also about drunk driving. The purchase/possession age was lowered during the Vietnam War era and the US saw a huge jump in fatal alcohol-related crashes. The vast majority of studies show that raising the legal purchase/possession age back to 21 significantly reduced fatal alcohol-related crashes.

Get EDUCATED about the FACTS and quit regurgitating the myths you hear in your local bar or head-shop.
Becky

Atlanta, GA

#93 Mar 19, 2008
My breaks for this family. may GODS blessings be with you always. you have lost a most precious gift. as we as parents know you do the best you can and the best is for most parts just not enough to overcome the problems our children face every day. its nobodys fault and nobody can help . as someone stated it starts with the person their self. they have to face that they have a problem first then put on strong armor. they have to say no to their friends and others.YES TO ALL THE YOUNG FOLKS OUT THERE PLEASE, PLEASE KNOW THE DRUGS ARE MUCH STRONGER THAN YOU WILL EVER BE !!! THEY DO KILL ARE YOU READY TO DIE,!!! DRUGS DON'T HAVE A MIND BUT KIDS DO. IF YOU ARE DOING ANY TYPE OF DRUGS STOP WHILE YOU ARE ALIVE. I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THERE. YES IT WAS FUN TIMES. OR SO AT THE TIME I THOUGHT SO BUT I FIGURED OUT NOT WHEN I LOST MY BEST FRIEND 3 YRS AGO TO A ACCIDENTAL DRUG OVERDOSE. WOULD SHE HAVE DONE IT HAD SHE KNOWN IT WOULD END HER LIFE. NO !!! SHE LOVED LIFE. SHE IS GONE FOREVER. I CAN'T PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL HER ANYMORE. SHE WILL NEVER HAVE KIDS TO PLAY WITH MINE. MY HEART HAS BEEN SO BROKEN SINCE SHE LEFT US. PLEASE KNOW FAMILY OF MATT NOTHING YOU DID OR DIDN'T DO WOULD HAVE CHANGED ANYTHING. MATT WAS THE ONE WHO NEEDED TO COME TO GRIPS WITH THE FACT HE WAS NEEDING MORE AND STRONGER DRUGS TO GO INTO LALA LAND . THE I DON'T CARE LAND . ITS KIDS WAY OF GETTING OUT OF STRESS THAT WE ALL HAVE TO LEARN TO FACE SOME DAY.
Truckin

United States

#94 Mar 19, 2008
God Bless....such an untimely tragedy.
Big Steve

United States

#95 Mar 19, 2008
Free wrote:
<quoted text>
That would be the best way to honor your friend. Sorry for your loss, I hope many others will vow to not use and go on to succeed in life as he would wish for you to do.
thank you, i appreciate that.
Bad english

Hickory, NC

#96 Mar 19, 2008
big mommy wrote:
i have a son that gose to the middle school and it is hard you have some teacher that stay on there back about everything they do my son has already said when he gets 16 he was quiting school and i donot know what to do for him but what can i do she has already talk to the princle to fail him i think that the teacher shood not have the right to say that
and if he dose he work she still gives him a f i am not saying it about all teacher but some of them and they no who they are
I'm sorry but this sounds like a kid wrote this! Your spelling and english is terrible!
FYI
-Gose not a word its GOES!
donot- same as above its DO NOT
shood-wtf! SHOULD
princle-what the hell! PRINCIPLE
"you have some teacher" forgot the S
"said when he gets 16"- Its when he turns! gosh!
well my point is you need to proof read you writings so it makes sense! Not like some illiterate middle schooler!
And its not always the teachers faults, they cannot spend all day with just one child, they have lots of kids to teach, when they leave school it is up to the PARENTS to get them to do there homework and check it for them and help them!
the baker man

Taylorsville, NC

#97 Mar 19, 2008
Brian wrote:
The parent(s) of this child are to be blamed for this child's death. They should have educated thier child on the risks of abusing prescription drugs. The parent(s) should have kept this dangerous drug locked away from their child. No one to blame here but the careless parent(s).
Like you know. The article says the patches were stolen. How you do know he took them from his parents? Maybe took them from a friend's house or somewhere else? Just shut your pie hole, moron.
the baker man

Taylorsville, NC

#98 Mar 19, 2008
Squirrel Dog wrote:
Were the patches stolen? or did he buy them illegally? That could mean the difference between an accidental death and involuntary manslaughter. I'm sure the police are working on that.
The article says they were stolen.
Buncombe County Mom

United States

#99 Mar 19, 2008
First of all I'd like to extend my condolonces to this young mans family and friends, as well as to his teachers, coaches,fellow students and staff at school.
This is truly a tragedy for alot of people and sadly one that we have seen before. No one can honestly say that teen aged children in America are unaware of the dangers of drugs. "Street drugs", over-the-counter medicines and those narcotic (which are also illegal without a valid prescription) and non-narcotic used medically have all been proven fatal when used in ways not intended. In my opinion things like this happen more because of an attitude of "it won't happen to me" than from any ignorance of the possible end result.
I don't know this family or the circumstances surrounding this young man having access to Fentanyl patches, if he indeed stole them from someone in his household or family, as I assumed from the article. I do know that this is a drug that should ALWAYS be under lock and key (whether patches,IV preperations or etc.) when used in the home, as it is in hospitals and other facilities where it is commonly used.
I don't understand those who've posted blaming the pharmaceutical industry. There are TONS of faults in that industry,but making fentanyl available by prescription is NOT one of them...ask a few families at the local hospice in-patient facility or some of the home health nurses who take care of folks with bone cancer or the like.
Also...lay off blaming the parent(s). The father knew of a problem and, it seems, was actively seeking help for his son. Maybe he didn't realize how badly they both needed help but I'm sure he's aware of it now. There are alot of people from "good homes" and with "great parents' in prison, in rehab and otherwise suffering addictions as sure as there are those from less than good homes. That's what makes it so tragic to me....the message is out there...but still kids see getting high as fun or as a right of passage that "everybody" does, or they use it as relief from depression or other problems that it is only adding to.
We need to stop casting blame and actively seek a better way to prevent drug use in our youth...and to treat it where it does exist. I'm not into the whole "it takes a village" mind-set, but as a society we do all have to come together when things threaten us all...and drug abuse certainly does.
I'm sorry I got off on such a diatribe but it stands.
EHS07

Hickory, NC

#100 Mar 19, 2008
Loosing a child is hard to bare especially in the family and community! I'm so sorry for the Chapman family, I used to watch Matt play football, he was an amazing person and very kind! My prayers and thoughts are with his family!
mr greenbacks

Taylorsville, NC

#101 Mar 19, 2008
Bad english wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm sorry but this sounds like a kid wrote this! Your spelling and english is terrible!
FYI
-Gose not a word its GOES!
donot- same as above its DO NOT
shood-wtf! SHOULD
princle-what the hell! PRINCIPLE
"you have some teacher" forgot the S
"said when he gets 16"- Its when he turns! gosh!
well my point is you need to proof read you writings so it makes sense! Not like some illiterate middle schooler!
And its not always the teachers faults, they cannot spend all day with just one child, they have lots of kids to teach, when they leave school it is up to the PARENTS to get them to do there homework and check it for them and help them!
And you need to check your brain to see if you can find a little TACT inside there, jackass.

Maybe the lady wasn't fortunate enough to be able to finish school. Maybe she can't type well and felt expressing her sentiments were more important than making sure every typo was fixed. Apparently she got her point across because you were able to make enough sense of her message to correct every little "mistake." Maybe she was too emotional to care about how it looked.

Irrespective of why, and more importantly, a kid died. If you're going to spend your evening looking around to correct people about how they spell or type, don't you think you could have picked a better topic to do it with? Don't be a jerk.
mr greenbacks

Taylorsville, NC

#102 Mar 19, 2008
Mountain Man wrote:
I FEEL SORRY FOR THE PARENTS
But, between ingesting medicine for fun,
and choking themselves to death for a rush,
just proves that teenagers are idiots.
Just one more recipient for the Darwin award.
I FEEL SORRY FOR THE PARENTS
I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR PARENTS
But, between making stupid comments
and criticizing a dead kid to feel better about yourself
just proves that your parents raised an idiot.
Just one more recipient for the jackass award.
I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR PARENTS
WNC Native

Wooster, OH

#103 Mar 19, 2008
mr greenbacks wrote:
<quoted text>
And you need to check your brain to see if you can find a little TACT inside there, jackass.
Maybe the lady wasn't fortunate enough to be able to finish school. Maybe she can't type well and felt expressing her sentiments were more important than making sure every typo was fixed. Apparently she got her point across because you were able to make enough sense of her message to correct every little "mistake." Maybe she was too emotional to care about how it looked.
Irrespective of why, and more importantly, a kid died. If you're going to spend your evening looking around to correct people about how they spell or type, don't you think you could have picked a better topic to do it with? Don't be a jerk.
Thank you Mr Greenbacks, my sentiments exactly!
jon belooshi

Boiling Springs, SC

#104 Mar 19, 2008
kids unwatched have stoopid parents

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