12-year-old boy shot in the head at birthday party

There are 20 comments on the Asheville Citizen-Times story from Sep 30, 2007, titled 12-year-old boy shot in the head at birthday party. In it, Asheville Citizen-Times reports that:

A mother says her daughter never wants to have or go to another birthday party following a shooting that sent three youths to the hospital.

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Amanda in Asheville

Greer, SC

#167 Oct 2, 2007
I do agree a party that late at night for a 13 year old is crazy and unresponsible, then she stopped the party and put all these 11, 12, 13 year old kids out of her house, how were they going to get home????
She really should be held responsible for something, those minor children were in her home. It was an unfortuante thing that happened and poor Eric Penland is fighting for his life in a coma.
The thing that gets me is the hush hush thing in the black community, no one wants to be a "snich". Well, it is going to get worst before it gets better..... and you people that have over heard your kids talking about and know who did it. Just remember, it could be your kids next laying in a coma, and I bet you'll wished you had said something then.
Next it might be at school.... it they bring a gun to a party, and to Stevens Lee to play basketball then why wouldn't they bring it to Asheville Middle or the High. This is serious.
IF YOU KNOW WHO DID IT.....DONT BE SCARED....TELL SOMEONE!!!
This has to stop!!!!!!
Sam

Casar, NC

#168 Oct 2, 2007
dawn wrote:
<quoted text>I was there when the likkle boy was lying in the sidewalk dying the police made his cousin and brother leave..they asked to use my phone cuz to call their parents and tell them eric had been shot....the police made the cousin and brother leave but let me stand there I am white and 50 I watched the boy tremor and watched him quit breathing...I asked the police 3 times to give him cpr they did not..........It gets worse I felt like it was the most racist experience I have had in years and I am a blue blood raised by black nannies and cooks..........He laid there by him self in the driveway for at least 20 minutes maybe more while the police taped off the Area and his family wasnt able to be with him...I was allowed to stand ANd watch his breath...which I did....Pray for this boys recovery...I dont think I ahve ever seen or witnessed anthing that felt so trgic
Dawn, I beleive you to be on some serious narcotics with that story. No one would stand around and let a 12 year old die. I know if Forrest Weaver was there, it didn't happen the way you state. Also who did the shooting if you were there, don't be a chickenchit, speak up.

“www.coppertoken. com”

Since: Sep 07

State of Confusion

#169 Oct 2, 2007
So where does the blame lay? We so far have blamed the mother, the father, the kids, the police...I miss anyone?

The responsibility lays with the one who brought the gun and pulled the trigger.

Ok so the party was till 12 am. Now suppose this mother told these kids to go home at a certain time and they didn't? did the report say anything about when the party was to be over? Or who was picking or suppose to pick up the kids? I didn't see it if it was there.

Gangs are trouble and violence stems from them. I don't think we can hold this mother accountable for that.

Was she perfect? Probably not. But I cant tell you I would have been in that situation either. I dont think I would have had the party that late..but I do know how kids are and they will try to stretch things out many times.

Now the article said she went out there to try to break it up. Took a lot for her to that. Should she have? I cant say if she should or should have called the police. But she may have been trying to keep it from that point.

Now to say the police aren't doing their job, I think is inaccurate. Look at what these folks do everyday on the job. They get in that car and every time they get out of it they risk their life. Knowing they could get killed just walking into any situation. Now would I risk my life for 14 dollars an hour? I don't think so. They are all not perfect, but many...very many are to be commended for what they do on their jobs.
Amanda in Asheville

Greer, SC

#170 Oct 3, 2007
betty asheville wrote:
why are people getting the story wrong. this party took place on Saturday night and it was over by 11:30 PM. the parent was clearing the street telling the kids to go home. the mother did not do anything wrong, she aloud friends of her daughter to come to their daughter's birthday party in their home. it took the APD to respond to the 911 call exactly one hour to show up. this parent did not have the children out partying in her home late into the night. she couldn't control what happened out in front of her house. How dare anyone judge this parent for something that was out of her hands. get your facts straight before you decide to judge someone.
Actually 11, 12, 13, 14 and even 15 and 16 year old children are minors. Before she "asked them to leave and go home" she really should have made sure they had a ride home, they (30 or 40 of them) were in her care and her responsiblity. It's an unfortunate thing that happened and I know she feels responsible, but it's not her fault, she was just trying to make her daughter have a good birthday, just like any parent does.
I think it's a wake up call for all of us parents to remember these are KIDS and they're not little adults that we can hang out with or be unsupervised, they need our guidence

“RadicalDudette”

Since: Feb 07

Location hidden

#171 Oct 3, 2007
betty asheville wrote:
why are people getting the story wrong. this party took place on Saturday night and it was over by 11:30 PM. the parent was clearing the street telling the kids to go home. the mother did not do anything wrong, she aloud friends of her daughter to come to their daughter's birthday party in their home. it took the APD to respond to the 911 call exactly one hour to show up. this parent did not have the children out partying in her home late into the night. she couldn't control what happened out in front of her house. How dare anyone judge this parent for something that was out of her hands. get your facts straight before you decide to judge someone.
It is known as the GRAPEVINE and poor reporting from the media.

But that is not what everyone is angry about.

Saturday at 23:00 hrs rolls over to Sunday (duh!).

No one should have that many folks at their home for a party if if involves minors.

Numbers do not really matter. Have you ever tried to keep up with 30, 40, 50 -100 kids?

The parent of that house should have had an adult
over 21 for every 10 kids.

And, did all the parents of these minors know where their kids really were that night? And did they really have permission?
Drd11

Asheville, NC

#172 Oct 3, 2007
I knew Eric and he was a great friend.
Amber

Buffalo, NY

#173 Oct 3, 2007
Did the kid die??? There hasnt been any updates on his condition?
AVL resident

Lincolnton, NC

#174 Oct 5, 2007
Maria wrote:
<quoted text>
One question. WHERE WERE YOUR PARENTS??????????
My father is in prison for life and my mother was 18 and knew she couldn't take care of me the way I needed to be! That was her choice and I'm glad she had the balls to make it!
Michael T

Calhoun, GA

#175 Oct 10, 2007
The father in this family is black, and I'd lay odds the teens involved in the shooting were as well. This is a common occurence in Atlanta.
And before anyone wants to step on this soapbox and start spouting off about how race doesn't matter like a good little communist reciting their poems about Stalin, just save it.
We all know what the deal is, even those who don't publicly acknowledge it. Go anywhere in the world, and you find the same characteristics. And up until a few decades ago the reality of this was still accepted as the reality it is.

Since: Feb 07

Asheville

#176 Oct 10, 2007
Sam wrote:
<quoted text>
Dawn, I beleive you to be on some serious narcotics with that story. No one would stand around and let a 12 year old die. I know if Forrest Weaver was there, it didn't happen the way you state. Also who did the shooting if you were there, don't be a chickenchit, speak up.
I agree, she's lying through her teeth. Racism my arse, apparently she didn't notice the race of Weaver...or maybe he ain't dark enough to qualify.
Joy and Hope

Weaverville, NC

#177 Oct 10, 2007
The 12-year old boy is a 6th grader at Asheville Middle School, where my cousin goes
hannah

Mooresville, NC

#179 May 12, 2008
who evea shot my best friend josh gon get the buisness when the police find out cause' that wus dead wrong for someone to do
bob

Brooklyn, NY

#180 May 23, 2008
That was black people's party wasn't it?
bob

Brooklyn, NY

#181 May 23, 2008
Michael T wrote:
The father in this family is black, and I'd lay odds the teens involved in the shooting were as well. This is a common occurence in Atlanta.
And before anyone wants to step on this soapbox and start spouting off about how race doesn't matter like a good little communist reciting their poems about Stalin, just save it.
We all know what the deal is, even those who don't publicly acknowledge it. Go anywhere in the world, and you find the same characteristics. And up until a few decades ago the reality of this was still accepted as the reality it is.
LOL About Stalin. That was rather corny as hell. But as far as everything else, you right. Even statistically that is true.
concerned

Denver, CO

#182 May 30, 2008
Asheville Parent wrote:
Who do you people think you are?? I am so sick of reading some of the crap posted on these comment pages. No one (may one) said one thing that was constuctive about what happened to these 3 children. One boy in serious condition with a bullet in his head! Pray for that child that he lives, and lives without brain damage, pray for those two girls that were also shot. Children should never have to deal with being hit by a bullet at a birthday party. The problem was not that they were at a club, walking the streets, out selling dope on the corner. They were at a home of a friend, with a parent (or more) there. Nothing is wrong with that, even after midnight!!!! They were not running the streets. The mother of the birthday girl was doing a GOOD thing by having a party at home. Do you realize how many other children do not have a parent that even gives a crap enough about a child to do that much.
The problem that night was some OTHER parent (of the one or ones with a gun) is not watching that child! Don't sit and blame the police, community or the system. If you want to blame anyone blame yourself! If people would vote to get gun laws controlled then kids would not have such easy access to them in the first place. America is all about our rights, yeah, the right to let our children kill each other because it is all over the TV in shows, Movies, Video Games, and Music Videos. Take your child to CHURCH sometime. They might just enjoy what they learn there.
I think it is great that the kids at the birthday party were in a home, not on the streets, not out looking for trouble. However, outlawing guns will not solve the problem. Drugs are illegal, and as we all know, there is no drug problem with our youth, HA HA!! The problem is with the parents of the one/ones, with the gun. Maybe they should have been aware of where their children were, and what they were doing. And just an FYI I'm pretty sure you have to be over 21 to have a hand gun legally--how old were the ones doing the shooting? I will be praying for the families of the children that were shot, and I hope you will too.
jay kay

Chula Vista, CA

#183 Aug 13, 2008
wat the hell thats krazy partyin at 12 24 dude that mother or father must be a frickin idiot but it aint all her fault
chandler

Mississauga, Canada

#184 Aug 22, 2008
your a jackass
Mother of three

United States

#185 Oct 31, 2008
It is unfortunate that a child lies in a coma, it is also not the parent's fault that the child was at the party with a gun. It is the parent's fault who had a gun. When you leave a child at a party you leave that child in responsible hands. This child's mother was very irresponsible for not knowing your child had a gun. The mother of the child carrying the gun should be charged with a crime. Pray for the child in the coma!!!!!!!!!!
samgirl123

Dubai, UAE

#186 Nov 28, 2008
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samgirl123

Dubai, UAE

#187 Nov 28, 2008
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