Day Care Managers Accused Of Failing To Report Child Abuse - Ne...

Three managers at an Ashburn day care center have been charged with failure to report suspected child abuse or neglect.

[greg]

i have heard of this kind of situation before. my son was the victim of an attack by an autistic boy at at kinder care in maryland. i was a witness to one such attack in which this child was choking a young girl in class. the girls parents were never notified. this leads me to believe that there are many cases that are never brought to the attention of parents, or police if the teachers are at fault

[Former Kindercare Parent]

We took our child out of this same center last fall after similar activities!

[B-STONG]

Former KinderCare Employee...Not all KindeCare's are all the same.I loved my center,my co-workers,and MOST OF ALL MY BABIES.:(I miss you guys.Keep doing your job.

[teacher]

greg wrote:

i have heard of this kind of situation before. my son was the victim of an attack by an autistic boy at at kinder care in maryland. i was a witness to one such attack in which this child was choking a young girl in class. the girls parents were never notified. this leads me to believe that there are many cases that are never brought to the attention of parents, or police if the teachers are at fault

Please be careful how you word things...I'm a special education teacher and you make it seem as thought the autistic child is bad for being autistic, not because he "attacked" your son. Just because a child is special needs does not mean they are not human-there are many children who hurt others and have no disability at all. Conflict is a normal part of life, and although teachers may not be able to prevent one child hitting, pinching or kicking another, it is important that the problem is dealt with and that children learn from the event. It is unfortunate if the parents of the one girl were in fact not notified, but it is company policy (I'm a former Mulberry employee which is now owned by Knowledge Learning Corporation and has been rebranded to Kindercare) that any children involved have an incident report written that is to be signed by the center director and parent.

[truth hurts]

So they charged the three who saw the assault. What about the teacher who shook the toddler, any charges against her?

[truth hurts]

Parents should be ashamed of themselves for putting their kids in harms way. Keep them home where they are safe.

[Former Kindercare Teacher]

I was a former employee at this center of whom with other colleagues had stressed to the management that there were serious concerns of child abuse in this center - none of which were taken seriously until we got KLC Corporate involved. The children involved - parents should seek legal advice against KLC as Corporate KNEW about this incident as well.
I am ALSO very concerned that the DIRECTOR at that time of all these allegations is NOT among those being charged. The women being charged where those that KLC sent in INTERNALLY to investigate claims of child abuse from teachers. WHY ARE THE CENTER DIRECTOR AT THE TIME AND ASSISTANT NOT BEING CHARGE. ITS AN OUTRAGE.
It is sad and disgusting to me that any person would abuse a child - especially at a daycare center where our primary responsibility is the welfare of the children in our care.
Good Riddance to these horrible employees.

[concerned parent]

My children are still at the center and none of this information was shared with us. I still don't even know who the employee was who was fired! And, if my child was in the direct care of this person don't I have the right to know who it is/was? Does anyone know how I can obtain this information? I also agree with the former KinderCare employee that the management should be investigated as well. As for those who suggest we would willingly put our children in harms way - YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES! Many parents have to work full-time jobs to make ends meet and we do everything in our power to make sure we find the most-caring and educational center to take care of our precious children. Keep your preaching to yourself!

[truth hurts]

concerned parent wrote:

My children are still at the center and none of this information was shared with us. I still don't even know who the employee was who was fired! And, if my child was in the direct care of this person don't I have the right to know who it is/was? Does anyone know how I can obtain this information? I also agree with the former KinderCare employee that the management should be investigated as well. As for those who suggest we would willingly put our children in harms way - YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES! Many parents have to work full-time jobs to make ends meet and we do everything in our power to make sure we find the most-caring and educational center to take care of our precious children. Keep your preaching to yourself!

Even after hearing about this, your children are STILL at this facility? And you are doing "everything" in your power to protect your children? BS.

I'd love to see your lifestyle to see what you put ahead of your children. All choices you made that you feel are more important than your children.

Answer these questions.
Do you have a cell phone?
Cable TV?
Newer car with car payment?
Go out to dinner?
Order in carryout?
Husband work a second job?
Take vacations?
Own a TV?
ipod?
nice clothes and jewelry?
xbox and games?
Go to starbucks?
drink alcohol?
smoke?
etc.etc.

All these things are things you spend money on while you "try to make ends meet". Then you search for the cheapest childcare available where they pay $8 per hour and then wonder how these things can happen.

You chose to have kids, now choose to raise them yourself. Make them a higher priority than your fake image of success.

Now that's preaching.

[Former Kindercare Teacher]

Concerned Parent,

The director that is currently at the center is NOT the same director that was in charge at the time that these allegations began. A few teachers were fired from the center Lead & Assistant teacher in the Toddler Room & The lead in the two's room.

If you check the Social Services website you will see all violations and records of our claims against the center concerning child abuse.

and Truth Hurts: i have to agree - alot of parents have jobs where they cannot stay home. I treated my kids with respect love and compassion every day, so please do not just assume that every teacher at a daycare is going to like those described in the news article. There are some great teachers and ALOT of them left this center once we found out that the management was trying to cover it up.

[truth hurts]

Former Kindercare Teacher wrote:

Concerned Parent,
The director that is currently at the center is NOT the same director that was in charge at the time that these allegations began. A few teachers were fired from the center Lead & Assistant teacher in the Toddler Room & The lead in the two's room.
If you check the Social Services website you will see all violations and records of our claims against the center concerning child abuse.
and Truth Hurts: i have to agree - alot of parents have jobs where they cannot stay home. I treated my kids with respect love and compassion every day, so please do not just assume that every teacher at a daycare is going to like those described in the news article. There are some great teachers and ALOT of them left this center once we found out that the management was trying to cover it up.

I agree, there are some great people/teachers out there. There are also some awful/sick people/teachers out there. And my point was, when you choose to give control and protection of your children over to someone else, it should be a last resort and well thought out. And if something goes wrong it is the parents fault as much as the schools.

As you stated, the infractions are available on the social services website. I doubt "concerned parent" bothered to look. If she did, she would have chosen a different daycare.

Also, having children is a choice. Maybe they shouldn't have them until they can provide for them. That means, staying home to raise them. That means living below your means. That means having enough in savings, that if something goes wrong, they don't have to go to work and abandon their children.

[Glad you are not my mom]

truth hurts wrote:

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Even after hearing about this, your children are STILL at this facility? And you are doing "everything" in your power to protect your children? BS.
I'd love to see your lifestyle to see what you put ahead of your children. All choices you made that you feel are more important than your children.
Answer these questions.
Do you have a cell phone?
Cable TV?
Newer car with car payment?
Go out to dinner?
Order in carryout?
Husband work a second job?
Take vacations?
Own a TV?
ipod?
nice clothes and jewelry?
xbox and games?
Go to starbucks?
drink alcohol?
smoke?
etc.etc.
All these things are things you spend money on while you "try to make ends meet". Then you search for the cheapest childcare available where they pay $8 per hour and then wonder how these things can happen.
You chose to have kids, now choose to raise them yourself. Make them a higher priority than your fake image of success.
Now that's preaching.

Do you even have kids? How do they feel about never going on vacation, eating out, watching tv etc.? You honestly don't seem like the kind of person someone could sit around with all day with much enjoyment.
If the safest place for children is in the home should everyone home school as well? Do you suggest that women shouldn't bother with an education (let alone a career) since if they plan on having children it will all be for nothing? You think it's OK for the husband to work two jobs and never see the children, but you find fault in both parent's working and sharing the responsibility? What century are you living in?
It must really upset you to know that there are actually people out there that have smart, happy and healthy kids in wonderful day care situations, that both the parents are able to have successful careers and contribute to their kids as well as to society, and that the family can still enjoy vacations, the world they live in, and other such frivolous things.
By the way, most of the freaky people I’ve meet are the ones that have overprotective, self-righteous moms who believe they are the best and only exposure their child can have.

[Former Kindercare Teacher]

I am not sure how much research goes into finding a daycare - I'm going to assume with a name branded like KinderCare most parents automatically assume that they have a good reputation and that their child is in good hands. That being the case, parents needs to be aware and RESEARCH their centers - All daycares will have some violations ( i believe we got violated for not having a childs sunscreen labeled with their name).. but some are more serious than others.

Research where you put your kids. Stop by, get to know the teachers - yes its "only daycare" but that doesn't mean that those teachers hired are qualified etc. If you are going to put your child into a daycare -- take the time to get to know the teachers/directors/other parents ..etc. Stop by and spend some time in the classroom - get a feel for the environment. Alot of parents are too busy to say anything but hello/goodbye to the teachers in alot of these centers.

There is nothing wrong with putting your kids in a facility to foster social interactions, academics, responsibility etc. But do take the time to know where you are putting your kids. And don't just take a name brand at face value.

If you don't see the information ASK.

[I have seen the light]

Glad you are not my mom wrote:

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Do you even have kids? How do they feel about never going on vacation, eating out, watching tv etc.? You honestly don't seem like the kind of person someone could sit around with all day with much enjoyment.
If the safest place for children is in the home should everyone home school as well? Do you suggest that women shouldn't bother with an education (let alone a career) since if they plan on having children it will all be for nothing? You think it's OK for the husband to work two jobs and never see the children, but you find fault in both parent's working and sharing the responsibility? What century are you living in?
It must really upset you to know that there are actually people out there that have smart, happy and healthy kids in wonderful day care situations, that both the parents are able to have successful careers and contribute to their kids as well as to society, and that the family can still enjoy vacations, the world they live in, and other such frivolous things.
By the way, most of the freaky people I’ve meet are the ones that have overprotective, self-righteous moms who believe they are the best and only exposure their child can have.

Yes I have kids. I also take vacations and raise my own children. I don't pawn my children off on someone else because it's easier to go to work than raise a child.

Since you have a hard time reading, what with all your education and work experience, let me point out that I said that raising your kids should come before extras in the house. Make sacrifices for what is most important. There is no such thing as "a good daycare".

And I can see why a TV would be so important to you and your kids, after all, someone has to raise them. It might as well be the TV, and strangers.

So once again. Stay home and raise your kids until they are old enough to defend themselves. Those of you that don't will be oblivious, and will bitsch and moan when something bad happens..."how could this happen to my child" That's if you even find out about it.

[truth hurts]

Glad you are not my mom wrote:

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Do you even have kids? How do they feel about never going on vacation, eating out, watching tv etc.? You honestly don't seem like the kind of person someone could sit around with all day with much enjoyment.
If the safest place for children is in the home should everyone home school as well? Do you suggest that women shouldn't bother with an education (let alone a career) since if they plan on having children it will all be for nothing? You think it's OK for the husband to work two jobs and never see the children, but you find fault in both parent's working and sharing the responsibility? What century are you living in?
It must really upset you to know that there are actually people out there that have smart, happy and healthy kids in wonderful day care situations, that both the parents are able to have successful careers and contribute to their kids as well as to society, and that the family can still enjoy vacations, the world they live in, and other such frivolous things.
By the way, most of the freaky people I’ve meet are the ones that have overprotective, self-righteous moms who believe they are the best and only exposure their child can have.

And yes, Parents and family are the best exposure for a young child, just not the only. Have you heard of play groups? Where the concerned parents actually spends time together with each other and their children. Sports? Music? etc. The difference is we stay and participate, not just dump them.

We are fortunate that we can afford to raise our children ourselves and take vacations and have safe cars and a safe home and send our kids to good schools. But if we could not afford to do so, we would utilize daycare or other option as a LAST resort. After cutting all other extra expenses.

What does it say about you, that a stranger making low wages, in a 5:1 child:teacher environment, is a better care giver/mother than you?

Please stop breading.

[Glad you are not my Mom]

It's people like you that give stay at home mom's a bad name.

Do you go on these tyrannical rants to your husband and kids? Do you teach your kids to live by such broad generalizations and that people who don't abide by your beliefs are wrong and bad? I think any dare care would teach your kids better than that.

Check in with me in a few years and let's see how your kids are doing and how mine are doing. We'll see which of us is doing the better job parenting overall.

For the record, I have great admiration for women and men that stay home and raise their children as well as those with kids who have a career. There are costs, benefits, and sacrifices to each. However, I find those that attack others for not making (or being able to make) the same decision as them despicable.

[Glad you are not my Mom]

truth hurts wrote:

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And yes, Parents and family are the best exposure for a young child, just not the only. Have you heard of play groups? Where the concerned parents actually spends time together with each other and their children. Sports? Music? etc. The difference is we stay and participate, not just dump them.
We are fortunate that we can afford to raise our children ourselves and take vacations and have safe cars and a safe home and send our kids to good schools. But if we could not afford to do so, we would utilize daycare or other option as a LAST resort. After cutting all other extra expenses.
What does it say about you, that a stranger making low wages, in a 5:1 child:teacher environment, is a better care giver/mother than you?
Please stop breading.

This coming from the person who believes the 18 month old and 2 year old shot in the trailer park are better off dead? If anyone needs to stop breeding (note the spelling) it is you. You are disgusting and it is greatly upsetting that YOU have produced offspring. Thanks for your parenting advice Hitler but no thank you.

[truth hurts]

Not sure what you're talking about with the trailer park.

But anyway, I can see your point. Your children are better off with someone else raising them. How sad for them. It is good however that you have realized you limitations and have passed on responsibilities to someone more qualified than yourself.

I wonder if your husband is having an affair? That's probably something else that someone else can do better than you. Thank goodness you'll have your career when you're all alone.