My husbands ex girlfriend is e-maili...

My husbands ex girlfriend is e-mailing and calling him?

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just living

Covington, LA

#1 Aug 4, 2007
I saw an e-mail on my husband's cell phone from an ex -girlfriend. Who might I add he appears to think is a great person (yeah being that her friend told me she was cheating on him at the end). It said at the end that she was glad he cleared things up?
When I asked him about this it turned into a fight and I was told it was innocent. She was just calling every 6 months of so to see how he was doing. I was then told I am making molehills into mountains and he says I tend to do that.
BULL sh*$%. I don't think my husband will cheat but this son of a *&*&^ has balls dragging behind her a mile long.
If it was so damn innocent on her part why didn't this trash call my damn house.
He doesn't think its disrespectful on either part but that I am blowing this up.
This woman called my husband mind you to find out why he hadn'nt talked to her in over a year. He says he told her b/c he was married. How would you feel? Your opinion counts do you think it's disrespectful?
Also might I add we have been together for over 5years. Woman move on!!!!!!!!!!
I have never called an ex especially one that is married. If I see you in Walmart and say high it is so much different than calling you and e-mailing you!!!!!!!!!!
jjcoolman

Westlake, LA

#2 Aug 4, 2007
I totally agree. They have no children right?
Who broke up with who.
I can see staying friends instead of enemies, sure, but it should be like a random unplanned meeting and Hi. But not like on a schedule of every 6 mos. That is keeping one of them going.
One dumped the other, so one of them should be stopping this behavior.
In my case it was just like keeping soeone on the back burner---esp. like if things get rocky in your relationship with him. He sounds defensive to me. You might need to check further into all of that.
just living

Covington, LA

#3 Aug 4, 2007
No they have no children. I told him he had to tell her not to call or e-mail anymore. He said he would but I'm even start to question that. Even had the audasity to tell me that it was my insecurities. Well I'm the type of person that I don't believe nor will put up with cheating. One time and you can bet your a@# your out. Screw that! But I'm still not sure if he thinks this is inappropriate. But I tell you what if I see this b$% calls him again, my next step is the phone.

You know its 1:47 in the god forsaken morning and I am making my self miserable rethinking how he told me she's not a bitch, he will still talk to her, taking up for her etc. Now I am feeling soooooo hurt.

I am your wife love me, take up for me, respect me!!!!!!!!!!
ELVIS JR

Oberlin, LA

#4 Aug 5, 2007
jjcoolman wrote:
I totally agree. They have no children right?
Who broke up with who.
I can see staying friends instead of enemies, sure, but it should be like a random unplanned meeting and Hi. But not like on a schedule of every 6 mos. That is keeping one of them going.
One dumped the other, so one of them should be stopping this behavior.
In my case it was just like keeping soeone on the back burner---esp. like if things get rocky in your relationship with him. He sounds defensive to me. You might need to check further into all of that.
THIS IS TRUE
Santas Helper

United States

#5 Aug 11, 2007
If this bothers you so much, just call her up and give her your piece of mind. To hell with your husband! He will keep calling or meeting with this chick because he knows it pisses you off! YOU handle your business.
jjcoolman

Westlake, LA

#6 Aug 15, 2007
Santas Helper wrote:
If this bothers you so much, just call her up and give her your piece of mind. To hell with your husband! He will keep calling or meeting with this chick because he knows it pisses you off! YOU handle your business.
I disagree. You should be able to confront your husband, explaining that this makes you uncomfortable.
He has to be able to handle himself and what ever/who ever comes his way. It takes 2!! You cannot give every single person that this happens with a piece of your mind. The ball is in his court!!!!! He can put an end to it if he wants. You should be that important to him. Why does he need a friend so bad? What can she do or talk about with him that you are not capable of?? If he is guilty you need to find out, rather than confronting people and looking like the bad guy.
just living

Covington, LA

#7 Aug 16, 2007
He has since told her to not contact him any more in the future. It took me telling him I was gonna call an ex who is getting a divorce to see how he was doing before he opened his damn eyes and saw how disrespectful this was to me.

Thanks for all of the advice! I appreciate it.
Elizabeth

Oldham, UK

#8 Sep 11, 2007
Your husband and Little Red Riding Everybody are BOTH being totally disrespectful to you. She should move on and email her own man (if one has actually stuck around), and he should tell her he won't be having contact with her anymore out of respect to you. My husband joinded Friends reunited, back in 2002. Within a few weeks his ex joined. She emailed him, he said he deleted it. As far as I know he never replied because he said he didn't want to know and thought she was disrespecting me and her own spouse. She has kept contact with his mother which I find a bit freaky as she only knew her for 12 to 18 months back in 1985, but I guess its a tried and tested method of keeping track of an ex. You should do what I did which was to ring her husband and tell her he should keep a track of what his wife is doing on the internet. He asked if I had a message for his wife, I said yeh, tell her its out of order to contact someone you've had sex with when they're married with kids. My husband took his details off FReunited and like a puppy dog with no brain power of her own she followed suit. Good luck and trust your instincts.
july

Regina, Canada

#9 Sep 13, 2007
I have the same problem, but my fiance has a son with his ex, who is going to be 18 soon, and the son never calls, it is always the ex, stating that the son needs this or that, she has been greedy and selfish from the day that they were married, and is always wanting money from him. This is driving me crazy as I have told him, she has no reason to call unless it is an emergency, she gets her child support every month, and if his son needs anything he has a voice of his own. Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
77jjk

Eden Prairie, MN

#10 Oct 3, 2007
I had the same problem. My husband joined facebook and decided to contact his ex. They wrote two emails back and forth telling about their families and themselves. I found out as soon as it was posted because I have access to all of my husbands accounts. I was furious and cried my eyes out. At the time he felt really bad and said he wouldn't contact her again. But since he was on facebook small connections would be made inadvertently- not through direct contact- only through quizes and things. It still made me mad. We had a big fight about this, but eventually he took his entire profile off of facebook. I felt like I was obsessing because he told me I was over-reacting. AFter reading many on-line self help pages I know I was in the right. I haven't contacted an ex since we began our relationship. I wish he would realize how hurtful it is and I am afraid he still doesn't understand. I promised I wouldn't talk about this subject to him again if he took the profile down and didn't speak to her again. But I still feel misunderstood. Will he ever understand?
Believe

United States

#11 Oct 4, 2007
I do believe you should allow your husband to roam freely as he so desires. Let the man rekindle the relationship with his ex. By doing so, it will not only add some spice to your relationship but it will allow your husband to explore his options. Why don't you just allow your husband to do this and as long as you let him, you will not have to worry about him sneking around behind your back.
Lucy

Maringouin, LA

#12 Oct 4, 2007
Believe wrote:
I do believe you should allow your husband to roam freely as he so desires. Let the man rekindle the relationship with his ex. By doing so, it will not only add some spice to your relationship but it will allow your husband to explore his options. Why don't you just allow your husband to do this and as long as you let him, you will not have to worry about him sneking around behind your back.
Are you crazy? Let him roam freely? How will that add spice to their relationship? That will just make him think it's okay to do what ever he chooses. Why should he explore his options? HE IS A MARRIED MAN! HE SHOULD NOT BE EXPLORING! This could only have been written by a man.
Furious

United States

#13 Oct 27, 2007
I have this same problem. I have been married for 3 years and we have a 2 year old boy. Well my husband's exgirlfriend, thinks it's okay for her to call him at 3 or 4 in the morning to ask him how he is doing. I called her to ask her to stop talking to him and she had the nerve to tell me he was the love of her life and that I had stolen him away from her. She hasn't been with him for over 6 years!!! How does she have to nerve to tell me that. She calls him and leaves drunken messages of her singing along to his favorite songs. What can I do?
HOMEY DA CLOWN

Lenoir City, TN

#14 Oct 27, 2007
TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM WOULD ONLY MEAN ONE THING...... INVITE HER OVER AND HAVE A THREESOME.
mikec

Houston, TX

#15 Oct 28, 2007
I will volinteer as the third if you need someone..PB resident
CRAB MAN

Oberlin, LA

#16 Oct 29, 2007
YOO ALL KOME MEETS ME TWO DUH KAMP, WE DWINK KOLE BEERS AN KOOK DUH SHOO-PIK. AN DOO DUH DIRTY.
Pb Resident

Opelousas, LA

#17 Sep 25, 2008
This &^*^ is stupid!
concerned

United States

#18 Feb 6, 2012
It's just like a man to think petty of women's wishes. It's only ok to confront women about their exes if it is convenient for them, but if women confront them, they say "youre insecure" "youre crazy" "your this...that".

Men, especially married men, SHOULD ALWAYS RESPECT WHAT THEIR WIVES WISH FROM THEM! Isn't that why they married their woman in the first place??? Why should it only be the women to stop such behavior when they ask and they cannot reciprocate??!?? And think of women as pety creatures for even speaking of such a subject to discuss with them!

I say: EFFFFF THAT ISH!!!

Give him an ultimatum: "DROP THAT B!7CH!!! OR I LEAVE YO' SORRY, MANIPULATIN @SS WITH OUR KIDS MO-FO!" And have him pay his dang child support! You think a bad deed goes unnoticed?

For you men out there, put your damn selves in women's shoes, and vice-versa, if you see your husband or wife checkin in with or on someone you are not a kin to, would you excuse their behavior and say: "It's ok! That's his/her ex/old friend! I'm sure e-mailing every 6 months is not at all odd to me."

Yeah. Keep denying.
laughing out loud

United States

#19 Feb 6, 2012
Believe wrote:
I do believe you should allow your husband to roam freely as he so desires. Let the man rekindle the relationship with his ex. By doing so, it will not only add some spice to your relationship but it will allow your husband to explore his options. Why don't you just allow your husband to do this and as long as you let him, you will not have to worry about him sneking around behind your back.
i believe that you are an idiot!!
that's stupid

United States

#20 Feb 6, 2012
Believe wrote:
I do believe you should allow your husband to roam freely as he so desires. Let the man rekindle the relationship with his ex. By doing so, it will not only add some spice to your relationship but it will allow your husband to explore his options. Why don't you just allow your husband to do this and as long as you let him, you will not have to worry about him sneking around behind your back.
Let your spouse f##k around if you want, but mine better behave or he is gone. And he expects me to behave also.
Married should act like married, or they can act like single and be single.
Their choice.

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