Why do people cheat on mates?

Why do people cheat on mates?

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moralityornot

Elizabethtown, KY

#1 Apr 14, 2012
I cannot understand why, why do people not think more of a person they once loved, cared for, shared life with than to be unfaithful? Whether married too or in a live in relationship with! Have you never considered divorce first? These folks step on someones heart, dignity and embarass them and themselves with actions of "lust". Doesn't someone deserve better than to be thrown out like trash, ignored like they never existed? Have their life turned topsy turvy, while the unfaithful parties march through life with the new found temporary excitement for one another. Are hearts or minds not empathetic to the wake of destruction they leave for those they were unfaithful too, having to wade through, thank goodness for true love and karma, I pray that these folks realize this fact..."the person with whom you cheated and took from another has now just become your cheater, and in actuality, the person left behind has lost nothing and in fact has just given you his or her the worry of....will they cheat on me? " you betcha. I am blessed and am very thankful for what I have, I am currently watching an individual wade through that mess and it has kept me up thinking and hoping the best, I can see the pain and so much love that was caused and left behind and for the life of me I DON'T UNDERSTAND. I don't think karma is good enough for these people.
victim

Hopkinsville, KY

#2 Apr 14, 2012
Yes i agree. I have been threw it twice with children in it. The pain dont get any easier the second time. I am a good mother and wife. I give 100% of me to the relationship but when lust takes over then all that goes out the window. And the pain on the one hurt is just awful. I remember just crying till i would almost get sick. I would ask myself " what did i do wrong? " But i dont know what i could have done any different. I would cook,clean house,run errands,take care of children, and still make time for my husband. Some men are not strong as others. But the grass is not greener on the other side. But what kills me is this, is that few moments of cheating worth loosing your spouce and children? Stop to think how bad you are hurting the ones that love you most. And once its done you cant go back and fix it.
not

Portland, TN

#3 Apr 14, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
I cannot understand why, why do people not think more of a person they once loved, cared for, shared life with than to be unfaithful? Whether married too or in a live in relationship with! Have you never considered divorce first? These folks step on someones heart, dignity and embarass them and themselves with actions of "lust". Doesn't someone deserve better than to be thrown out like trash, ignored like they never existed? Have their life turned topsy turvy, while the unfaithful parties march through life with the new found temporary excitement for one another. Are hearts or minds not empathetic to the wake of destruction they leave for those they were unfaithful too, having to wade through, thank goodness for true love and karma, I pray that these folks realize this fact..."the person with whom you cheated and took from another has now just become your cheater, and in actuality, the person left behind has lost nothing and in fact has just given you his or her the worry of....will they cheat on me? " you betcha. I am blessed and am very thankful for what I have, I am currently watching an individual wade through that mess and it has kept me up thinking and hoping the best, I can see the pain and so much love that was caused and left behind and for the life of me I DON'T UNDERSTAND. I don't think karma is good enough for these people.
Because you're passive aggressive and hateful.
not

Portland, TN

#4 Apr 14, 2012
victim wrote:
Yes i agree. I have been threw it twice with children in it. The pain dont get any easier the second time. I am a good mother and wife. I give 100% of me to the relationship but when lust takes over then all that goes out the window. And the pain on the one hurt is just awful. I remember just crying till i would almost get sick. I would ask myself " what did i do wrong? " But i dont know what i could have done any different. I would cook,clean house,run errands,take care of children, and still make time for my husband. Some men are not strong as others. But the grass is not greener on the other side. But what kills me is this, is that few moments of cheating worth loosing your spouce and children? Stop to think how bad you are hurting the ones that love you most. And once its done you cant go back and fix it.
Because you give too much. By doing all the chores, running all the errands, etc, you took away all responsibility from your spouse, likely felt not needed, and looked elsewhere.
Just Me

Scottsville, KY

#5 Apr 14, 2012
not wrote:
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Because you're passive aggressive and hateful.
And how do you know this person is all that? You also need to learn how to spell before you go running someone down i think. I didn't get none of that from reading this persons comment. So how did you?
Just Me

Scottsville, KY

#6 Apr 14, 2012
not wrote:
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Because you give too much. By doing all the chores, running all the errands, etc, you took away all responsibility from your spouse, likely felt not needed, and looked elsewhere.
And once again how do you know that the other person felt not needed? And that's why they looked elsewhere. Are you a marriage counsler?
WOW

Washington, DC

#7 Apr 14, 2012
Just Me wrote:
<quoted text>And how do you know this person is all that? You also need to learn how to spell before you go running someone down i think. I didn't get none of that from reading this persons comment. So how did you?
Any of that, you didn't get any of that. Before you critique someone's spelling you may want to look at your own wording.
Just Me

Scottsville, KY

#8 Apr 14, 2012
WOW wrote:
<quoted text> Any of that, you didn't get any of that. Before you critique someone's spelling you may want to look at your own wording.
There was nothing wrong with my wording for your information!!! What are you an English Teacher? And was i talking to you No i don't think so!!
not

Portland, TN

#9 Apr 14, 2012
A) I cannot help it if your reading comprehension is poor and you cannot understand the postings
B) My spelling is accurate; however, this is topix, not a master's thesis. You are the one attempting (and failing miserably) to be and english teacher
C) My career and credentials are irrelevant. I did not initiate this posting so my personal business will remain that way
D) because you happen to disagree with my opinion/assessment bothers me none. Keep to the topic at hand and try to express your opinion if you wish.
not

Portland, TN

#10 Apr 14, 2012
WOW wrote:
<quoted text>Any of that, you didn't get any of that. Before you critique someone's spelling you may want to look at your own wording.
He/she spelled counselor wrong too
moralityornot

Elizabethtown, KY

#11 Apr 14, 2012
You cannot pretend to know me....make up your mind! Passive and aggresive are two total opposites and the origina
Post is written in third person....k
not

Portland, TN

#12 Apr 14, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
You cannot pretend to know me....make up your mind! Passive and aggresive are two total opposites and the origina
Post is written in third person....k
I'm not pretending to know you. Your post was hateful and passive aggressive (look it up) regardless of 3rd person. If you don't want responses, don't post to begin with. If this is not your personal situation, mind your own business.
moralityornot

Elizabethtown, KY

#13 Apr 14, 2012
not wrote:
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I'm not pretending to know you. Your post was hateful and passive aggressive (look it up) regardless of 3rd person. If you don't want responses, don't post to begin with. If this is not your personal situation, mind your own business.
Hateful? I reread it three times after your remark, it wasn't hateful at all, but I can see where it may be inflammatory if it all relates to you ? Your personal life or someone your aware of who may have committed this heinous act. Or are in fact the person who jumped into this act.
,,,,,

United States

#14 Apr 15, 2012
There are so many reasons why people cheat. And until you walk in their shoes, you'll never know why. I've been the victim of a cheating spouse in my first marriage,and I've also been the cheater. Both circumstances were different and hard to deal with. But it did, in fact, make me fall in love with my spouse all over again. While I don't recommend this path, it worked for me.

But before you judge, walk a mile in someone else's shoes.
Agree

Bethpage, TN

#15 Apr 15, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
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Hateful? I reread it three times after your remark, it wasn't hateful at all, but I can see where it may be inflammatory if it all relates to you ? Your personal life or someone your aware of who may have committed this heinous act. Or are in fact the person who jumped into this act.
Thank you Moralityornot. I agree with you 100%. I like it when karma comes around for the cheaters too. I hope they get what is coming to them also.
Just Me

Scottsville, KY

#16 Apr 16, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
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Hateful? I reread it three times after your remark, it wasn't hateful at all, but I can see where it may be inflammatory if it all relates to you ? Your personal life or someone your aware of who may have committed this heinous act. Or are in fact the person who jumped into this act.
Don't worry about it. What you said was just fine some people like to just argue with other people. Maybe there is a reason why NOT didn't like your post HMMMM?? Sure is making a fuss over it ya know?
Cant tell

Lewisburg, KY

#17 Apr 16, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
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Hateful? I reread it three times after your remark, it wasn't hateful at all, but I can see where it may be inflammatory if it all relates to you ? Your personal life or someone your aware of who may have committed this heinous act. Or are in fact the person who jumped into this act.
You can't tell if someone is hateful just by reading a post. If you read it angry then yes. If you read it as someone tearfully crying it looks (sounds) alot different. However you meant it I don't really care I'm not here to jump on you either way, I just hope your friend gets thier life back on track. Cheating causes real pain.
didit

Gallatin, TN

#18 Apr 16, 2012
I cheated for payback. He was constantly demoralizing me and freaking out if he thought I was five minutes late for work. He tried to control every aspect of my life and break my self esteem by screaming at me all the time and calling me horrible names. The bouts of violence just kept getting worse so, I did the one thing that he wouldn't get over for the rest of his life. I cheated, then to add insult to injury I left him. Maybe not the best approach but it put him in his place.
my oh my

Bowling Green, KY

#19 Apr 16, 2012
moralityornot wrote:
I cannot understand why, why do people not think more of a person they once loved, cared for, shared life with than to be unfaithful? Whether married too or in a live in relationship with! Have you never considered divorce first? These folks step on someones heart, dignity and embarass them and themselves with actions of "lust". Doesn't someone deserve better than to be thrown out like trash, ignored like they never existed? Have their life turned topsy turvy, while the unfaithful parties march through life with the new found temporary excitement for one another. Are hearts or minds not empathetic to the wake of destruction they leave for those they were unfaithful too, having to wade through, thank goodness for true love and karma, I pray that these folks realize this fact..."the person with whom you cheated and took from another has now just become your cheater, and in actuality, the person left behind has lost nothing and in fact has just given you his or her the worry of....will they cheat on me? " you betcha. I am blessed and am very thankful for what I have, I am currently watching an individual wade through that mess and it has kept me up thinking and hoping the best, I can see the pain and so much love that was caused and left behind and for the life of me I DON'T UNDERSTAND. I don't think karma is good enough for these people.
did someone cheat on you?
thinking

Bowling Green, KY

#20 Apr 16, 2012
Sometimes a person doesn't really want to cheat...they just need a friend...

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