Friend: Eau Claire couple in chaining incident misunderstood

A family member and a friend came to the defense of an Eau Claire couple who were arrested Monday after their developmentally disabled 21-year-old son was found in a convenience store with chains wrapped around his ankles.

[Incredible70]

Misunderstood....yeah, so we Ed Gein. He was just trying to keep food on the table....

[RepublicanForWea lthCare]

Don't worry, the all-knowing-state will take care of your children!

[karina]

you know, I really feel sorry for these parents. I work with the mentally ill and mentally challenged. It can be quite difficult to keep them safe from themselves. This family was just trying to keep him safe. Yeah, it was not ideal, but they do not live with an ideal situation. Perhaps with the social service/nurse coming in they could have suggested something more 'legal'.

[The Real Whatever]

Seven adults living in the home and nobody to watch him? Ever hear of alarms on the doors? That's what group homes do. If you can't handle him without chaining him up, perhaps you should explore other living arrangements or care plans. Not buying it.

[hang em]

Look they collect the SSI checks, cash them buy him a new chain every two or three years ( stronger ones ) food stamps feed him, medical assistance is his health insurance and they get the 650 dollars plus to take care of him ??? hang the adults. Let this poor guy live with others like him without chains.

[OhWell]

The Real Whatever wrote:

Seven adults living in the home and nobody to watch him? Ever hear of alarms on the doors? That's what group homes do. If you can't handle him without chaining him up, perhaps you should explore other living arrangements or care plans. Not buying it.

You really have no idea what you're talking about do you?

YOU: "Seven adults living in the home and nobody to watch him?"
ME: Maybe, the other seven WORK like "patriotic" Americans should so they can taxes like all good Americans?

YOU: "...perhaps you should explore other living arrangements or care..."
ME: And who's going to pay for those "other living arrangements?" You? Did you know that it's cheaper to have him living at home than in a "group home?"

YOU: "Ever hear of alarms on the doors? That's what group homes do."
ME: Group homes have someone there 24-7.

Apparently, it had been determined that this 21-year old is developed enough to be able to live at home. Maybe, after this incident, the whole arrangement needs to be looked at again. But...the family doesn't need every Tom-Dick-and-Harry in an already difficult situation.

[The Real Whatever]

So the seven adults all worked the exact same schedule and could not arrange work schedules to make sure someone was home? This is a responsibility you accept when you choose to care for sick/disabled loved one at home. If you can't deliver on that responsibility, don't accept it.

It may be cheaper to have him at home, but cheaper is not always the best. There are state programs to help with this. Of course, then you can't collect his social security check for yourself.

Group homes do have alarms as well in case the worker is in another area and someone wanders out.

Chaining him up is absolutely unacceptable. If you can't deal with him, admit that and get someone to help you. Abusing somebody instead of asking for help kills people.

[tookish]

this is a shame. chalk it up to ignorance, cultural differences, or what.. It was bad judgment, but I doubt there was no evil intent involved. The family could have hired a PCA, or done respite care, or something in the home-care spectrum. I have worked with the elderly and DD community for years, and it is astounding the ignorance that surrounds many.

I hope this young man gets the services he deserves, and his family moves past their ignorance!

[Wondering]

What about the reported beating with sticks and boxing gloves. Was that for his own good as well?

[Slim Shady]

Your in America,you understood how to get here,you understood how to concieve a baby so another I convienently didn't understand doesnt cut it here pal,you play you pay.You want rights and freedom you better understand what goes with it.With that said some time in the slammer will give you plenty of time to understand how it works here and doesnt work here.Playing stupid is no excuse.

[ZenBirdist]

The Real Whatever wrote:

So the seven adults all worked the exact same schedule and could not arrange work schedules to make sure someone was home? This is a responsibility you accept when you choose to care for sick/disabled loved one at home. If you can't deliver on that responsibility, don't accept it.
It may be cheaper to have him at home, but cheaper is not always the best. There are state programs to help with this. Of course, then you can't collect his social security check for yourself.
Group homes do have alarms as well in case the worker is in another area and someone wanders out.
Chaining him up is absolutely unacceptable. If you can't deal with him, admit that and get someone to help you. Abusing somebody instead of asking for help kills people.

I couldn't have said it any better. Many years ago I worked as a respite care provider for families exactly like this one. There is absolutely no excuse for using a chain to restrain someone, even 'for their own good'. There are very strict rules, specifically Rule 40, in place to address the need to physically restrain a person or to hold them in a room against their will temporarily for their safety. I've known many good people like Cheng who require the company of someone 24/7. Some of them lived in group home settings, others at home with their families and the help of state and county programs. I don't know Wisconsin's family service laws but I imagine they can't be so different from Minnesota's. Knowing there was a social worker dropping by on a monthly basis, it seems like the ball was dropped. Cheng's behavior has worsened over the last few months, and his last adventure almost got him hit by a car. These are things his social worker should have been right on top of, and put in place some additional help for the family. At the very least, there should have been some assurance from the family in the interim that someone would be with him at all times. My hope is that Cheng will now get the appropriate services to ensure his safety round the clock.

On a side note, I'm curious about Cheng's parents having separate addresses in the affidavit, yet the article states that Cheng had recently moved into his parents' bedroom to be more closely monitored.

[ZenBirdist]

Tyrone Shoelaces wrote:

Short,stupid and oriental,and missunderstanding is no way to go through life

Anonymously posting stupid comments on the internet... also no way to go through life.

[Deborah]

That's straight up racist. Up yours.

[Pimp Daddy in da House]

in da house

[Slim Pickens]

Incredible70 wrote:

Misunderstood....yeah, so we Ed Gein. He was just trying to keep food on the table....

LOL! Okay, that is flat-out hilarity. Good one!

[Slim Pickens]

It makes me shudder to think of all the money I could have saved on babysitting when my kids were young.

[Rockin John Pt 2]

Yes chains on a person is soooo misunderstood. Maybe he has a hardware fixation and they were doing that to keep him from shoplifting at Menard's!

[tim olson]

there are many false stories on this issue...but i believe what cheng's parents did to him is wrong and they should be put in jail. Maybe this is a hmong culture in laos, but they are in the U.S and need to follow the rules.

[bob vang]

This is how i react to Phong Xiong's story. I use to date his sister in-law and knowing for quit a while. I always thought he was a good person, until i found out he doesnt care about his brother.

Phong Xiong: My families has been in the U.S for 20 years..But they doesnt know english..and are us citzens who want to live the american dream.
Me: If they have been in the U.S for that long, they shouldve have know some english and follow the rules we have. If they don't know English, how are they suppose to work, unless they work for Hmong Asscoiation, which i doubt they do.
Phone Xiong: My parent are nice people.
Me: if they are nice, why chain the kid. I conside My parent as mean parents because they always want me to leave the house..but never in my life they haven't lay a stick on me.
Phone: If you go to people who love kung fu..you will find stick and boxing gloves.
Me: I love kung fu and watch jet-li and chan movies all the time but i dont have any boxing gloves or sticks lying in my house. Plus Boxing glove are use for boxing not kung fu. and sticks..hahha kung uses swords.

If the media find that this is true, which i think it is,, the xiong's families include the 7 members should all be lock up.

[bob vang]

^^^hahah..sorry some misspelling there but you get what im saying. I was typing too fast