How do I tell my wife I love someone else?

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Tired

Alice, TX

#1 Jun 30, 2012
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
sad

Houston, TX

#2 Jun 30, 2012
Tired wrote:
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
I know how u feel, Im not in love with my husband been married for 18 yrs and I'm still young at least I think so, I have been seeing someone else, but I won't leave my husband for him only reason is cuz this person is a very jealous man and set on his ways, I'm not use to his ways, but I just can't find myself to tell my husband I want out. He does know about the other person, but he still stayed around. But, I feel sorry for my husband, but trust me he has done me wrong to. I really don't know what to do. What to do, what to do.
auto body

Alice, TX

#3 Jun 30, 2012
Really? You can come on a public site and say this but you can't grow a pair and tell her to her face? Tell her, pick up the phone and call her, text her, write a damn note, but do something!! You're just afraid that she will be happier without you to make her feel worthless and unwanted. On a side note the grass is always greener on he other side.....wait till you don't have to sneak around with the new girl anymore! Then what? The new car smell does eventually wear off and you'll be back in the same situation. I really hope you learn to appreciAte what You have before you start throwing things away!!! As for your wife Im sure she is stronger and more capable than you give her credit for, and Im sure she will be fine without you. If you really truly do not love her anymore than give her the respect of walking away with her head high and her feet on he ground, not talk of the town.
Tired wrote:
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
Guest

Kearny, NJ

#4 Jun 30, 2012
I am curious as to know what you mean by not wanting to hurt anymore, has she found out about it and you have not been totally honest?

Best to do is be honest NOW...stop putting off her life and preventing her from finding happiness.

I know it isn't easy it is a very hard thing to do
but you have to it's not right and it's not healthy for either party to live miserable.
dixie

Alice, TX

#5 Jun 30, 2012
Here's a little advice.

Open wounds never heal if you keep them open. Leave the person that you are hurting and let them heal.
It will hurt her knowing that it has come to an end , but it hurts even more if she hears it from someone else. So do the right thing and tell her. But give her respect in the way you tell her. Dont come out cold heart and say I already have someone else.

Thank her for the time you both did love each other.
Let her know that as time did pass between you both that it was you who fail out of love. It was not her fault and that you never meant to hurt her but its just over.
truth will set you free

Alice, TX

#6 Jun 30, 2012
just tell her,i want out the end. what a dumb a@$

Since: Jan 12

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#7 Jun 30, 2012
Why live in a lie, just move out and move on, no need to be considerate of someone feelings when you have no respect for yourself. Life is short and anyone living a lie will soon regret their entire life. Just something to think about. We have to choose our own destiny. Thank you and have a nice night.
crazy

Euless, TX

#8 Jul 1, 2012
Tired wrote:
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
Does the person your crazy for love you too? Don't live a lie; life is too short. Tell her now so she can move on now instead of in 10 years is she can build a life with someone that truly loves her.
Shabadam

United States

#9 Jul 1, 2012
Coward. It would be a shame to even call you a man. How were you raised? Do even know anything about respect? I bet you are not afraid of just telling , but the also the backlash of your families. If you are able to secretly shame her for years, then come out and tell everyone do she can move on to a real man and let your pansy ass go.

“Loving Life”

Since: Jun 12

Corpus Christi, TX

#10 Jul 1, 2012
its just that simple, just tell her?;)
wondering

United States

#12 Jul 1, 2012
Wow this is a hard situation. For me personaly I would hope that my husbend would tell me. Yes it will be hard, but I would rather it come from him then hear it from someone else. If u don't want 2 hurt her any more then respect her enought 2 tell her 2 her face. Every book has chapters and its time for this chapter in both of uall lives 2 end. U need to give her a chance to be happy. Good luck I wish both of uall the best!
crazy girl

Dallas, TX

#13 Jul 2, 2012
have you told this other girl that you love her?
Tired wrote:
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
Nathan

United States

#14 Jul 2, 2012
Tired wrote:
I am not in love nor do I love my wife anymore and have found someone who I am crazy for. Have been in love with her for a few years now and don't want to hurt my wife anymore than she already has been.
. Don't tell her,just doink as many as you can on the side.let the wife keep cooking and supporting you as long as you can,then just dump her
been there

San Antonio, TX

#15 Jul 2, 2012
sad wrote:
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I know how u feel, Im not in love with my husband been married for 18 yrs and I'm still young at least I think so, I have been seeing someone else, but I won't leave my husband for him only reason is cuz this person is a very jealous man and set on his ways, I'm not use to his ways, but I just can't find myself to tell my husband I want out. He does know about the other person, but he still stayed around. But, I feel sorry for my husband, but trust me he has done me wrong to. I really don't know what to do. What to do, what to do.
leave, don't waste your time with someone you don't and can not love..I tried that and it was a disaster!! I wasted to many years of my life feeling guilty and being afraid of the truth coming out. It was torture and all I did was hurt him even more than I would have if I had just walked away. Once you lose love for someone...it rarely ever comes back. Love just doesn't work that way. Life is far too short and precious to live in a lie...I finally walked away after more than 20 yrs and it's the best thing I could have ever done. I have never been happier and I am finally with the man who I have always loved. Good luck.
been there

San Antonio, TX

#16 Jul 2, 2012
oops I meant "too" not "to" lol
tierd as well

United States

#17 Jul 2, 2012
I wanna leave my husband. I feel ive lost who i am, distance myself from family because Im So unhappy.
sad

Houston, TX

#18 Jul 2, 2012
been there wrote:
<quoted text>leave, don't waste your time with someone you don't and can not love..I tried that and it was a disaster!! I wasted to many years of my life feeling guilty and being afraid of the truth coming out. It was torture and all I did was hurt him even more than I would have if I had just walked away. Once you lose love for someone...it rarely ever comes back. Love just doesn't work that way. Life is far too short and precious to live in a lie...I finally walked away after more than 20 yrs and it's the best thing I could have ever done. I have never been happier and I am finally with the man who I have always loved. Good luck.
Thanks, I will think about it. Cuz I know it's not far for him, or me living like this. I'm so tired of this life.

“Loving Life”

Since: Jun 12

my mom's hairy sweaty culo

#20 Jul 4, 2012
just man up and quit being a biotch and tell her, that simple!;)
Elite man wannabee

United States

#21 Jul 4, 2012
Elote-man wrote:
just man up and quit being a biotch and tell her, that simple!;)
. Yes take this advice, eloteman knows how to help you
LaRaza

Alice, TX

#22 Jul 4, 2012
Move in with he new girfriend, send soon to be ex-wife a post card, see you later baby!

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