What is a good way to rid my son of h...

What is a good way to rid my son of his temper tantrums?

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Concerned Parent

Corpus Christi, TX

#1 May 7, 2012
I have a two year old and before anyone says its just his terrible twos thats not the case he has always been this way. He will throw himself back and kick and scream and bite he will even throw his face into the floor. I am concerned because for one no matter how many times i ask him to say what he wants or i try to guess he gets more mad the reason I bring this up is because i have a friend whos son would do the same thing and he ended up having blood clots forming in his head my sons doctor has seem these fits and has told me to put him in a safe spot where he cant hurt himself so when he starts I place him in his crib anywhere else I believe would hurt him but even in his crib does he hit himself against it. I dont know if its a matter of he doesnt know what he wants he can be crying for his blanket and I can give it to him but he just throws it and tells me no so i put it away and he gets even more mad the same with when he wants to be held as long as hes mad nothing satisfys him I can pick him up and he throws himself into my collar bone trying to get down so I put him down and hes right back at me again asking to be carried.... I am lost as to what I should do any suggestions?
Special Ops

Iraq

#2 May 7, 2012
You are lacking consistency on what you are doing. Sometime trying too many things doesn't give him an routine of closure of his anxiety, temper attention getting tactics.
I suggest you child proof his room so he cannot hurt himself and leave him in the room until he knows how to act right. The problem is you cannot do this because you do not have the discipline to leave him in there, so you will open the door and pick him up, he will cry to get down so you put him down, he will cry to be picked up so you pick him up. You are at fault.
Leave him a room with no items when he throws these crazy crying tactics and before you close the door you tell him. You are not going to come out until you stop.
Close the door and check on him regularly, when you check on him, you talk to him like a mature caring Mom and say everytime. " You will not come out until you behave" As hard as it is for a mother to do this, I recommend this type of discipline. Once he stops compliment him reward him and tell him you love him.
You need to be consistent, and stop catering to his needs.

What you do now can determine how he acts as a adult in the future.
concerned

Corpus Christi, TX

#3 May 7, 2012
Concerned Parent wrote:
I have a two year old and before anyone says its just his terrible twos thats not the case he has always been this way. He will throw himself back and kick and scream and bite he will even throw his face into the floor. I am concerned because for one no matter how many times i ask him to say what he wants or i try to guess he gets more mad the reason I bring this up is because i have a friend whos son would do the same thing and he ended up having blood clots forming in his head my sons doctor has seem these fits and has told me to put him in a safe spot where he cant hurt himself so when he starts I place him in his crib anywhere else I believe would hurt him but even in his crib does he hit himself against it. I dont know if its a matter of he doesnt know what he wants he can be crying for his blanket and I can give it to him but he just throws it and tells me no so i put it away and he gets even more mad the same with when he wants to be held as long as hes mad nothing satisfys him I can pick him up and he throws himself into my collar bone trying to get down so I put him down and hes right back at me again asking to be carried.... I am lost as to what I should do any suggestions?
I'm not trying to be nosey but does he visit any old houses that might have lead paint? Even old toys handed down can have some. I am not doctor but have researched it and it sounds to me like there could be something affecting his brain and lead is not the only thing that could cause this. Or it could be congenital and may have been born with it. Monitor him closely and ask his pediatrician if he could refer him to a neurologist just to put your mind at ease. I hope this helps and I don't mean to scare you. I always think it's better to be safe than sorry. Good luck and God Bless your family.
terri

Dallas, TX

#4 May 7, 2012
How are his developmental milestones? In other words...has he spoken? How many words? Autism is an epidemic nowadays...
lol

Corpus Christi, TX

#5 May 8, 2012
A good old fashioned spanking!

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#6 May 8, 2012
An ass whooping, then put him in time out and say "now you have something to cry about."

Then you go away and check periodically to make sure they're still kicking :-)

Rinse and repeat as necessary.

In realty time out in a corner will drive a kid nuts. You just can't give in and have to be consistent. If you tell him one thing then you have to follow through even if you no longer want to.
Cindy

Corpus Christi, TX

#7 May 8, 2012
terri wrote:
How are his developmental milestones? In other words...has he spoken? How many words? Autism is an epidemic nowadays...
I agree. Autism is hard to accept but look into it.
Designs

Corpus Christi, TX

#8 May 8, 2012
I have a 3 year old. I am a single father, my son went through the same thing. As he was 2 years old I couldnt go anywhere without him thrrowing a fit. My dad new about the problem and he knew I wouldn't spank or hit him. So one day my son, my dad and myself where at sutherlands and my son dropped to dead weight and started yelling while laying on his stomach. All my dad did was yell louder then him took off his belt (believe me my dad didn't want to do it and he never spanked me when I was a child) and kept yelling louder then my son. After my dad got my sons attention my son kinda looked at him. All he saw was this crazy man yelling with a belt in his hand and then my dad spanked him. It hurt me to see my dad do it and other people in the store looked at us like we were crazy but after the spanking my son jumped up and ran to me. I checked him for a mark and I didn't see one. After I checked my dad told me not to worry he barely tapped him. I believed him because my son was crying more of fear then pain. He calmed down and tried to throw a fit again and all my dad did was unbuckle his belt an the fit stopped immediately. I thanked my dad later that day, and he told my that I have to spank him soon so he could fear my belt. I was unsure of this because the last thing I want is my son to fear me but then my dad reassured me that he would not fear me but he would fear my belt. Long story short he threw a fit while shopping at Walmart. I did not yell because I didn't want to seem crazy but I took off my belt and so he could see me I grabbed him by his arm and picked him up and I spanked his butt, not hard but I'm sure he got the idea because then all he did was cry and hold on to me while he sat in the basket. After he was calm he tried throwing another fit and I took off my belt and he ran to me saying no no no, I replied with ok then behave. He is now 3 years old and I don't notice his fits anymore and I havnt spanked him with a belt since.
parent

United States

#9 May 8, 2012
My son is gonna b 2 & he does the exact same thing concerned parent, but the other day I gave him a spanking & it works!! I'm not saying to beat Ur child ppl. Just a little spanking with a firm voice.
oilfield wife

Corpus Christi, TX

#10 May 8, 2012
Spanking works!! I was spanked as a child and I grew up perfectly fine!!...my 3 year old knows what a spanking is, if he doesn't listen he gets a pop on the butt and sent to his room for time out and he knows if we go to the store I will take him to the rest room!...I have no problems with him when I need to go out somewhere!! He's an angel!! It's hard to discipline your children but it definitely works and I do not regret my decision to do so!!! Children know what there doing an they know what they need to do to get what they want...sometimes even ignoring them works to, or I tell my son also if he wants to throw a fit he can go to his room and he stops right away...
parent

United States

#12 May 8, 2012
I agree & yes the ignoring works too!
info

United States

#14 May 24, 2012
Get off topix and spend time with.him and he may not act out to get attention
hmmm
#16 May 25, 2012
I disagree with spanking in all storys above no one hit hard right? it wasnt the spanking that helped it was u being assertive! so y even spank im tired of people telln me i should spank my 2yr old its so funny their kids r now either on drugs or have no respect on how they talk or treat others so i will stick 2 doing it my way BEING ASSERTIVE and even though hes only 2 if he does something wrong or throws a tantrum i yell back putting my foot down then explain 2 him y it was wrong and so far its been working great
Lmao

Puyallup, WA

#17 May 25, 2012
hmmm wrote:
I disagree with spanking in all storys above no one hit hard right? it wasnt the spanking that helped it was u being assertive! so y even spank im tired of people telln me i should spank my 2yr old its so funny their kids r now either on drugs or have no respect on how they talk or treat others so i will stick 2 doing it my way BEING ASSERTIVE and even though hes only 2 if he does something wrong or throws a tantrum i yell back putting my foot down then explain 2 him y it was wrong and so far its been working great
lol he will turn in to a rude bastard and treat orhers like shit. That or he will be an emotional little brat that likes plying with dolls. Assertive.... Lol no fool the only way to bring up a child proper I how our parents did it.

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