Never thought i would start a relationship with a married man

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#1 Dec 29, 2011
I honestly never thought that i would ever do something like this.Its not that i think i'm better than anyone else, because i don't. I honestly let myself believe that good people get into bad situations. I mistook the newness of being appreciated and wanted for love. I suppose i was looking for something i didn't have. I was selfish and didn't realize everyone my careless actions affected. I use to think that people that did these kinds of things were genuinely bad people and people that had no self love or worth. I didn't do it for the money, revenge,or anything like that. I did it because i allowed myself to believe that i was better for this man, and that i could provide him more that what he had at home. What i failed to realize is that his wife was the one that was truly the great person in all this. She was there when he had nothing and when he was nothing. She supported him thru everything, she was the one who forgave. I now know that something that started with me taking something that wasn't mine was never going to end well. I believed he was a good man, and he possibly was before i came along. It was not with anyone from this town, But i know that there are many wives out there keeping the family together and being strong for their marriages and i just wanted to say, coming from the (once) other woman. I am sorry
Punisher

Fort Worth, TX

#2 Dec 29, 2011
There are plenty of good single men out there. You should withdraw from your situation before it becomes harder on you to leave what was never yours. Sometimes hard lessons are the best learned. if you love yourself you will do what's right.
short thang

Dallas, TX

#3 Dec 29, 2011
Punisher is absolutly right ....i have been in your shoes , iv seen I married guy I didnt plan for it to happen , it started of as freinds then we started liking each other then started seeing each other at nights and just hanging out ....after 3 months things happened and we stopped talking its been almost 3 yrs and from time to time he pops in my head I havent let go ....
SweetIriss wrote:
I honestly never thought that i would ever do something like this.Its not that i think i'm better than anyone else, because i don't. I honestly let myself believe that good people get into bad situations. I mistook the newness of being appreciated and wanted for love. I suppose i was looking for something i didn't have. I was selfish and didn't realize everyone my careless actions affected. I use to think that people that did these kinds of things were genuinely bad people and people that had no self love or worth. I didn't do it for the money, revenge,or anything like that. I did it because i allowed myself to believe that i was better for this man, and that i could provide him more that what he had at home. What i failed to realize is that his wife was the one that was truly the great person in all this. She was there when he had nothing and when he was nothing. She supported him thru everything, she was the one who forgave. I now know that something that started with me taking something that wasn't mine was never going to end well. I believed he was a good man, and he possibly was before i came along. It was not with anyone from this town, But i know that there are many wives out there keeping the family together and being strong for their marriages and i just wanted to say, coming from the (once) other woman. I am sorry

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#4 Dec 29, 2011
I would love to say that I made the courageous decision to end this relationship but the truth is he left me. I knew when I embarked on this relationship what the consequences of my actions could be. I am not the type of woman that can easily move on to a new relationship within, days, weeks or even months. I am experiencing great pain, but nowhere near the pain that he and I have caused. The struggle that I have is within me, for allowing my self-worth to be compromised and for being tolerant, loyal, and understanding of his situation. The entire time I was oblivious of the lie we had been living. I allowed him to keep me as his secret, until he no longer wanted my presence in his life. Lesson most definitely learned. I greatly appreciate your words of encouragement.
fyi

Corpus Christi, TX

#5 Dec 29, 2011
sorry you had to go through this. Did the wife know about you and that is why he decided to end it? No matter what they say about their wives, they will never leave them. If they do, what makes you think he'll be faithful to just you? Men and women that cheat on their partners are not to be trusted!!
the other woman

Corpus Christi, TX

#6 Dec 29, 2011
I know exactly what you are talking about...I too allowed myself to become involved with a married man. We became friends and we even discussed our marriages with each other, I guess most women who listen to married man's sad little stories about how "horrible" their wives are and how bad their situations at home are...tend to believe that they can somehow "save" this man from his depressing lifestyle and give him something better. You tend to feel sorry for and want to make things better for this person. I have done that for so many years and boy did that end in turmoil for everyone involved. I never imagined that we would hurt as many people as we have...I live every day with the knowledge that I hurt all the people I loved and cared for the most. I dont know why people have affairs..I have heard every single excuse there is in the book..I can safely say that there is never a good excuse for cheating and that if you are that unhappy in your relationship, then simply walk away, it will hurt at the beginning but the outcome will surely be much better than the one that became of my situation. My family will never be the same and now I am trying to build a new family for my children with what I have left. The man that I was involved with, we are still together, and we are very happy together but I still feel guilty for finding this happiness and love at the expense of my children's sense of security and loss of the family they once knew. Good luck and I hope you find peace.
yumm

Lewisville, TX

#7 Dec 29, 2011
Married men are the best
FART

United States

#8 Dec 29, 2011
Thats why you never fart in bed. Romance leaves any marriage as soon as the wife farts in bed. And close that restroom door! Nobody wants to see you caca.
the other woman

Corpus Christi, TX

#9 Dec 29, 2011
fyi wrote:
sorry you had to go through this. Did the wife know about you and that is why he decided to end it? No matter what they say about their wives, they will never leave them. If they do, what makes you think he'll be faithful to just you? Men and women that cheat on their partners are not to be trusted!!
this is not true...I would never make the mistake of cheating again. I have seen the pain that it has caused and would never want to see this again...especially for my children. Everyone deserves a second chance and some people do change. It is rare but it does happen.
FART

United States

#10 Dec 29, 2011
I'm single and will not pass gas in front you .(other women) and I have health be edits.
Funny

Fort Worth, TX

#11 Dec 29, 2011
That's why you don't mess with married men! Feeling sorry for them or just being friends is NO EXCUSE. I don't feel sorry for any of yal! How do u think the wife or children feel. If you don't want to get hurt, cause problems, or fall in love with a married man. YOU SHOULDN'T GET INVOLVE WITH ONE! You have no respect for yourself or his & your family.
BUMBY

United States

#12 Dec 29, 2011
SweetIriss wrote:
I honestly never thought that i would ever do something like this.Its not that i think i'm better than anyone else, because i don't. I honestly let myself believe that good people get into bad situations. I mistook the newness of being appreciated and wanted for love. I suppose i was looking for something i didn't have. I was selfish and didn't realize everyone my careless actions affected. I use to think that people that did these kinds of things were genuinely bad people and people that had no self love or worth. I didn't do it for the money, revenge,or anything like that. I did it because i allowed myself to believe that i was better for this man, and that i could provide him more that what he had at home. What i failed to realize is that his wife was the one that was truly the great person in all this. She was there when he had nothing and when he was nothing. She supported him thru everything, she was the one who forgave. I now know that something that started with me taking something that wasn't mine was never going to end well. I believed he was a good man, and he possibly was before i came along. It was not with anyone from this town, But i know that there are many wives out there keeping the family together and being strong for their marriages and i just wanted to say, coming from the (once) other woman. I am sorry
You idiots actually believe this desperate need for attention ? So desperate it is obviously made up ? Hey, gullible is not in the dictionary. I dare you to look it up.
the other woman

Corpus Christi, TX

#13 Dec 29, 2011
Funny wrote:
That's why you don't mess with married men! Feeling sorry for them or just being friends is NO EXCUSE. I don't feel sorry for any of yal! How do u think the wife or children feel. If you don't want to get hurt, cause problems, or fall in love with a married man. YOU SHOULDN'T GET INVOLVE WITH ONE! You have no respect for yourself or his & your family.
we are not looking for sympathy or even hoping that people will understand why we did what we did..we are simply sharing experiences with others who have unfortunately been in similar situations.
FART

United States

#14 Dec 29, 2011
the other woman wrote:
<quoted text>this is not true...I would never make the mistake of cheating again. I have seen the pain that it has caused and would never want to see this again...especially for my children. Everyone deserves a second chance and some people do change. It is rare but it does happen.
did you ever fart in front of him? Be honest.
The hurt wife

Baltimore, MD

#15 Dec 29, 2011
I have been the woman on the other end. My ex husband cheated on me with a co-worker, divorced me, and is with "the other woman". They do not realize the pain they have caused me and my child. My child does not see his father because he chooses the girl over him. Not even a christmas gift. So I don't think everyone feels the guilt they should. I can't say who is in the right or the wrong, but you should never cross a line where you interfere in someones vows they gave to one another. My child is very young and will not know his father. So yes it does hurt everyone involved except for those doing the cheating, until the same is done to them. As much pain and anger as I have I can only wish they feel hurt and pain soon enough.
FART

United States

#16 Dec 29, 2011
The hurt wife wrote:
I have been the woman on the other end. My ex husband cheated on me with a co-worker, divorced me, and is with "the other woman". They do not realize the pain they have caused me and my child. My child does not see his father because he chooses the girl over him. Not even a christmas gift. So I don't think everyone feels the guilt they should. I can't say who is in the right or the wrong, but you should never cross a line where you interfere in someones vows they gave to one another. My child is very young and will not know his father. So yes it does hurt everyone involved except for those doing the cheating, until the same is done to them. As much pain and anger as I have I can only wish they feel hurt and pain soon enough.
I'm single.
the other woman

Corpus Christi, TX

#17 Dec 29, 2011
FART wrote:
<quoted text> did you ever fart in front of him? Be honest.
oh my gosh mister...what is your obsession with "farting"??? what does this have to do with the discussion we are having here?? Maybe you should start your on topic based on the "farting" subject' and NO NO NO I have never passed gas on the hubby or the bf!
Funny

Fort Worth, TX

#18 Dec 29, 2011
the other woman wrote:
<quoted text>we are not looking for sympathy or even hoping that people will understand why we did what we did..we are simply sharing experiences with others who have unfortunately been in similar situations.
well I never wish bad for anyone & I hope you learn from this cause I too have been cheated on. There is no worse feeling in the world. The pain it causes, crying in front of your children not being able to sleep or eat. Messing with married men/women is something no one should do.
FART

United States

#19 Dec 29, 2011
the other woman wrote:
<quoted text>oh my gosh mister...what is your obsession with "farting"??? what does this have to do with the discussion we are having here?? Maybe you should start your on topic based on the "farting" subject' and NO NO NO I have never passed gas on the hubby or the bf!
I'm sorry. Did I mentioned I'm single.....hint hint
the other woman

Corpus Christi, TX

#20 Dec 29, 2011
FART wrote:
<quoted text>I'm sorry. Did I mentioned I'm single.....hint hint
let's keep in mind "Fart"...my username is "the other woman"...LOL

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