Dan Finn of Crosslake, arrested for 2 Sexual assaults

[xabused]

I was abused by an adult as a child. I hope Finn gets sent to jail. Inmates have a special treatment for child molesters.

[think first]

yeah im sure they do and im sorry that you went through such a horrible experience, i just hope that his children dont see comments like yours because its hard enough as it is for them let alone to hear harsh things being said, and have people sitting and constantly talking. this family is such a nice family and they dont deserve the treatment some people may give them. I truley feel for the finn's and i hope that they can get through this together.

[think first]

and need not mistake what i have said. its the family as in his wife and children that dont deserve any of this. and im not saying the victims deserve anything either, they dont deserve people to know their names after they have been through such a terrible experience. as in the first one to make this topic, if her son was a victim why would she tell everyone that reads this who some of the other victims are. that truely pissed me off because i am friends with these boys, and also dan's children.

[xabused]

I know how Finns kids feel. shame that they can never live down. The victims are lying in bed at night with feelings of shame so strong they are physical. How can dans kids and wife get past this?? dans actions have changed all 4 of there lives forever. he will lose his son,forever.his brothers and mother are mortified.I am not expressing my feelings very well,so i will stop posting.

[Thatman]

needs help

[think first]

i know they can never get past this, but i hope that they can healthily move on some day and not be brought down 100% by his actions. obviously its going to change his wife and childrens lives forever... my main thing is what the "mother" said about twins being victims because she narrowed down the local boys pretty well.. its only fair that she posted her sons name and said what happend to him, but why would she want to put her own son in that spotlight.. the victim has been through enough as it is..

[maybe]

maybe the victim wanted to come forward . Maybe they thought in doing this it would help other boys come forward and not to be afraid to tell. Maybe you should watch what you are writting , the way you keep talking of Dan Finn and what a nice guy he is and all the things you keep writting about his family it as if you are trying to make other victims feel quilty so that they don't come forward. By what you are writting maybe you are doing more harm than good. Maybe you should think of it this way. DAn Finn did this all by himself. like you say 100%. Don't make others feel quilty for there writing and getting the word outthere and sacrifising them selves. He made his choices and it is sad his family is paying for it . What is more important ,to hide and portect the family of Dans or to hide and protect yourself as a victim or put yourself out there and hope that others will too so this never happens again to anyone. I am sorry but I do stand behind this mother and I feel they are brave in what they are doing.

[think first]

yes. it is important that these boys come forward and help prevent anyone else from going through this horrible experince. i do think that they should. and if they choose to come forward in private or public is their choice. i feel that if one of these young men dont come forward to the public but do make a statement to the police that is their citizen right. to keep it private. she shouldnt tell everyone exactly who was molested. if they dont choose to have everyone in this very very small town to know their name, why does she have the right. Dan finn was a very nice man who i would have easily trusted and it is horrible what he has done. i dont think its okay that he did it. someone does need to stop him. he needs help. i agree with all of that. i just dont feel its her place to tell who the victim was.

dont you think after the victims have been through all of this that they dont need everyone knowing. it is possible to be confidential and my concern is that this woman has ruined that confidentiality for these two boys. thats my concern. basic point- it is very brave to stand up and put yourself out there, but dont put it out there for someone else as the "very angry parent" of pine river did when he/she stated:

" But he has not done this yet. With more convenceing he may go. You see he has a twin brother who did not want him to go to Becker and tell them. I think something also had happened to his twin brother."

[think first]

twist my words if you want to argue. all Im saying is:

victims- it is important that you come forward and help the community prevent a larger disaster.

others- dont mention names, or describe the victims when locals knows its narrowed down to 4 boys, its not your place.

and as one of you have said earlier, one of dans faces may be a dark evil man, however you put that. but his other side is a very nice man, involved in the community. that is the man that i have talked about, the dan i know. if that makes you rest peacefully.

[victims do have a right]

I know that the mother was not thinking very clearly at the time she wrote her commentary. She was upset as her boy was also . I know her and she is sorry for how she had written of possible others and she did not mean to put it across like she had. She was desperate in hoping that they would get help and to make sure that this man got what he deserves. She has been in a place that none of us as parents want to be. She is sorry for mentioning others. I have spoke with her and know her true feelings were not to harm the other victims in anyway . She does wish she could take some of what she had written back. But she can't . I must say some of the things that you wrote (think first) were harmful also to others if any victims were reading these. In your last writting you have finally said he does need help. Also about the confidentiality of these two boys, I know that the one boy she is the mother too wanted this out there so therefore his privacy is not ruined and his family is going to stand with him and his friends. I wanted to let you know that this mother does understand that other victims have all the rights of privacy and she is sorry for her feeling of desperation . We will all know today I believe of Dan Finns Plea in court.

[think first]

I have never stated it to try and not get these boys to go in. 3 of the boys i have heard of i am pretty good friends with, i went to pequot with these victims(not neccesarily all) and dans children. i feel bad for the boys and what has been done, and my main point all along is to not tell more people who these boys are because the town will gossip anyway and its not fair. but these boys should come forward, yes, i havent said that they shouldnt. and these boys know of how nice of a man dan finn can be. they also saw the side that 99% of this town havent, and know how evil he can be.

its hard to belive that the man i know could do something like this. but as I KNOW the victims, i know that its true because they WOULDNT EVER make this up.

[think first]

and as long as the mother realizes what she has said, my point has gotten across to her. thats all i wanted. even if it was a mis-speak, if my statement will make anyone else realize thats its not fair to the boys, maybe it will help.

and for your son, im sorry that this has happened once again, and i hope you guys have success with this.

[Pathetic]

You are all unbelievable especially the person who is claiming that they are the mother of the victim. One thing you should know in making such claims, EVERYTHING you say is subject to COURT DOCUMENTATION. And I will be happy to present these things to Mr. Finns attorneys. Piss off.

[So Called Victim]

So here's the thing— Since I've already been blatantly and obtrusively identified by a few people so it's alright that you all know who this is. The things that have been said are very misleading to myself. I really don't understand how these things could come up when I myself have never been contacted about the situation.“These people need to come forward,”“do the right thing.” You act like you know what is true and isn't true. You want me to come forward.... Well here it is people---- If your too dumb to know it by now, this is Bryce..... I'm not afraid to say it and I have nothing to hide.. 1st.. people need to speak on there own behalf, and not about others. 2nd..never say anything bad about other people. I hope those of whom felt it necessary to say twins, and brother and all that stuff regret it. Because if you haven't checked lately, there aren't very many twin brothers that played hockey in the lakes area. Hey here's an idea incase a person didnt quite know who,“I think ill just google Patriots hockey. HEY look, it gives me like a hundred articles with the names and everything.” Think ahead people!... 3rd.. So on with the story... Just so you all know, I'm a very determined, independent and strong willed person. If something like this had happened to me, I would have been the first to come forward for my own sake and well being. But thank you for those who have showed that you are caring and tried to help.
Yes, it may of seemed weird that Dan was a good friend of mine, but please don't judge me for that. I feel that I have a very strong, if not a better friendship with his children as well. I'm very close with the whole family; even their relatives. I have no regrets about this friendship with the Finn family and I have learned a lot from knowing such good people. Now I understand that Dan is facing some charges, I don't know the story of the victim, nor the suspect, I've only heard it through others. But I have no say in this because it's not my place to be.
But I do have a say in that things are being said directly about myself, and only I know that these allegations are not true and I wish that people would of came to me instead of saying things that they may have heard or thought. Believe what you want to believe people, but I know what is right and what is wrong, and no wrong has been brought on me by Dan or anyone else. Shit happens! If these charges are true then they're true, if they're false then they're false. But leave it to the authorities to figure it out and sort things through. I hope the best to the victim or victims, as well as anyone that is involved with this. They're all my friends, but enough is enough, and leave those that are involved to be involved, and keep yourselves out of it.

[So Called Victim]

I would also like to comment about the Very Angry Parent and this quote.
“You see he has a twin brother who did not want him to go to Becker and tell them. I think something also had happened to his twin brother. I need to find a way to talk to them both and let them know that it is ok to go to the sheriff . These two twins from what I know is that they had a difficult family life growing up.”
Lets start with where do we get,“You see he has a twin brother “hmm,mm, that would refer to me” who did not want him to go to Becker and tell them?” Ummm, Yah.. About that. I didn't even know it had happened until I had traveled home and found out about this stuff. So could I really tell him not to do this when I didn't even know he did? I think not. Oh and didn't I read that the Very Angry Parent wanted to find a way to talk to them both. Its been 14 days, still no word. Thats not an insult, just a statement, don't be offended.
Ohhh Ouch. A difficult family life growing up EH? Looking back, I actually loved my childhood. My parents were and even now more than ever a huge part of my life. If growing up with five TV channels, no computer, or any fancy stuff is a difficult childhood. Then my god, I'm guilty!!! I'm sorry that I wasn't spoiled with all the opportunities in the world, but money sure as hell doesn't buy happiness. I thank my parents everyday for the life they've given me, and not having all of that fancy stuff is what made me who I am today. I'm a successful student at a private college as well as a standout collegiate athlete. I've volunteered more hours than I care to count. It's not the time that's important, it's the many people that I have helped that counts. I was taught to put others first, and if you know me you would know. Theres so many other things that I could bring back to my GREAT childhood, even the opportunities that I was given by being around the Finn's. I've learned how to build a house, keep my faith in god, how to study, how to run a business, and so many more things. And I'll admit knowing Dan and his family has helped me become a better person. Well the better person is speaking out right now like many of you wanted. I was not sexually molested, or abused, or anything like that by Dan Finn. I'm sorry for the things that have been brought forward, but I am not a victim in any way, and I hope you all respect my feelings and if you want to contact me, I would be happy to try to help anyone with questions that they may have. Thank you all for listening to something that shouldn't of had to be said but it's the people that wanted it, so the people got it.
My name is Bryce Szymanski, and I am not a victim.

[So Called Victim]

So here's the thing— Since I've already been blatantly and obtrusively identified by a few people it's alright that you all know who this is. The things that have been said are very misleading to myself. I really don't understand how these things could come up when I myself have never been contacted about the situation.“These people need to come forward,”“do the right thing.” You act like you know what is true and isn't true. You want me to come forward.... Well here it is people---- If your too dumb to know it by now, this is Bryce..... I'm not afraid to say it and I have nothing to hide.. 1st.. people need to speak on there own behalf, and not about others. 2nd..never say anything bad about other people. I hope those of whom felt it necessary to say twins, and brother and all that stuff regret it. Because if you haven't checked lately, there aren't very many twin brothers that played hockey in the lakes area. Hey here's an idea,“I think ill just google Pequot Lakes hockey. HEY look, it gives me the names and everything.” Think ahead people!... 3rd.. So on with the story... Just so you all know, I'm a very determined, independent and strong willed person. If something like this had happened to me, I would have been the first to come forward for my own sake and well being. But thank you for those who have showed that you are caring and tried to help.

Yes, it may of seemed weird that Dan was a good friend of mine, but please don't judge me for that. I feel that I have a very strong, if not a better friendship with his children as well. I'm very close with the whole family; even their relatives. I have no regrets about this friendship with the Finn family and I have learned a lot from knowing such good people. Now I understand that Dan is facing some charges, I don't know the story of the victim, nor the suspect, I've only heard it through others. But I have no say in this because it's not my place to be. But I do have a say in that things are being said directly about myself, and only I know that these allegations are not true and I wish that people would of came to me instead of saying things that they may have heard or thought. Believe what you want to believe people, but I know what is right and what is wrong, and no wrong has been brought on me by Dan or anyone else. Shit happens! If these charges are true then they're true, if they're false then they're false. But leave it to the authorities to figure it out and sort things out. I hope the best to the victim or victims, as well as anyone that is involved with this. They're all my friends, but enough is enough, and leave those that are involved to be involved, and keep yourselves out of it.

[Some More]

I would also like to comment about the Very Angry Parent and this quote.
“You see he has a twin brother who did not want him to go to Becker and tell them. I think something also had happened to his twin brother. I need to find a way to talk to them both and let them know that it is ok to go to the sheriff . These two twins from what I know is that they had a difficult family life growing up.”

Lets start with where do we get,“You see he has a twin brother “hmm,mm, that would refer to me” who did not want him to go to Becker and tell them?” Ummm, Yah.. About that. I didn't even know it had happened until I had traveled home and found out about this stuff. So could I really tell him not to do this when I didn't even know he did? I think not. Oh and didn't I read that the Very Angry Parent wanted to find a way to talk to them both. Its been 14 days, still no word. Thats not an insult, just a statement, don't be offended.
Ohhh Ouch. A difficult family life growing up EH? Looking back, I actually loved my childhood. My parents were and even now more than ever a huge part of my life. If growing up with five TV channels, no computer, or any fancy stuff is a difficult childhood. Then my god, I'm guilty!!! I'm sorry that I wasn't spoiled with all the opportunities in the world, but money sure as hell doesn't buy happiness. I thank my parents everyday for the life they've given me, and not having all of that fancy stuff is what made me who I am today. I'm a successful student at a private college as well as a standout collegiate athlete. I've volunteered more hours than I care to count. It's not the time that's important, it's the many people that I have helped that counts. I was taught to put others first, and if you know me you would know. Theres so many other things that I could bring back to my GREAT childhood, even the opportunities that I was given by being around the Finn's. I've learned how to build a house, keep my faith in god, how to study, how to run a business, and so many more things. And I'll admit knowing Dan and his family has helped me become a better person. Well the better person is speaking out right now like many of you wanted. I was not sexually molested, or abused, or anything like that by Dan Finn. I'm sorry for the things that have been brought forward, but I am not a victim in any way, and I hope you all respect my feelings and if you want to contact me, I would be happy to try to help anyone with questions that they may have. Thank you all for listening to something that shouldn't of had to be said but it's the people that wanted it, so the people got it.
My name is Bryce Szymanski, and I am not a victim.

[Travis Nelson]

"You are all unbelievable especially the person who is claiming that they are the mother of the victim. One thing you should know in making such claims, EVERYTHING you say is subject to COURT DOCUMENTATION. And I will be happy to present these things to Mr. Finns attorneys. Piss off"

Present to Mr. Finns attorney? A defending attorney, what the fuck is he gonna use against the victims mom? It's not defamation I hope you know. I think your confused. What you said is very stupid. Congrats go get a cookie.

[Travis Nelson]

Can we let the people who decide this case decide it. We can do without threats, and name calling, you're not helping anything. You're being immature and childish. I just graduated and I haven't seen anything like some of you people since 6th grade. The court will decide what happens and I sure hope they get it right.

[I dont know]

Congratulations Graduate ... you are right! And I agree, I hope the court does get it right. Unfortunately for all involved this type of charge makes everyone already find guilt because it's a charge that scares the crap out of everyone. Fear makes everyone very defensive and protective. No one wants this to happen to their child , friend or family memeber. And for Mr Finn this charge will hang over him no matter what the court decides. If he is quilty I hope he gets what is due him and that the God he worships judges him accordingly. If he is not guilty I hope he can find peace in his life . For the boys involved I hope they can get past this as well as they are the ones that really matter in this case. I don't believe they lied. But I don't know.