Getting a husband interested
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Wife

North Ridgeville, OH

#23 Oct 20, 2013
Apparently, the joke is on me. I guess I am just stupid for not clearing the computer history. He says it was just by coincidence he found it - he was looking for something else. Yeah, right. He has called me out and shamed me for feeling sorry for myself on an anonymous site. I was trying to reach out to anyone else and express my feelings to others without embarrassing him or my family. Instead, this is what I get.

I know you'll find this too. And when you do, I hope you can live with the consequences throwing this weakness in my face. Rather than listen to what I've been begging for all these years, and expressing love to me as you vowed to God you would do, you want to hurt me some more and make me feel even smaller and uglier (than the Ogre you recently called me) by exposing my weakness. Needing human affection, needing to be valued and wanted are normal, especially for a woman. But you deny me all that. I can't get it at work, and it's not the children's job to meet my emotional needs. You won't allow us to socialize or have friends. So I have no where else to get my basic human need for acceptance. The only crumb you offer is when I'm in tears. It's not volunteered, it's not genuine. It's just done out of obligation and the need to kick this old can down the road another mile. I can't go elsewhere now either, even to a harmless computer, because you're watching me like a hawk. Add paranoia to the list. This isn't going to end well, or privately.
For Real

Jamestown, KY

#24 Oct 20, 2013
Wife wrote:
Apparently, the joke is on me. I guess I am just stupid for not clearing the computer history. He says it was just by coincidence he found it - he was looking for something else. Yeah, right. He has called me out and shamed me for feeling sorry for myself on an anonymous site. I was trying to reach out to anyone else and express my feelings to others without embarrassing him or my family. Instead, this is what I get.
I know you'll find this too. And when you do, I hope you can live with the consequences throwing this weakness in my face. Rather than listen to what I've been begging for all these years, and expressing love to me as you vowed to God you would do, you want to hurt me some more and make me feel even smaller and uglier (than the Ogre you recently called me) by exposing my weakness. Needing human affection, needing to be valued and wanted are normal, especially for a woman. But you deny me all that. I can't get it at work, and it's not the children's job to meet my emotional needs. You won't allow us to socialize or have friends. So I have no where else to get my basic human need for acceptance. The only crumb you offer is when I'm in tears. It's not volunteered, it's not genuine. It's just done out of obligation and the need to kick this old can down the road another mile. I can't go elsewhere now either, even to a harmless computer, because you're watching me like a hawk. Add paranoia to the list. This isn't going to end well, or privately.
I don't know if this is fiction or not but if you are for real you need to consider looking for a better life for yourself. Life is to short to allow someone to belittle you. Do you keep yourself in good shape and take pride in what you look like? If so you are married to a prick and you can do better.
Wife

Elyria, OH

#25 Oct 20, 2013
Oh......does anyone know a good divorce attorney while I'm still here???
Feel Your Pain

Alvaton, KY

#27 Oct 20, 2013
My husband sounds just like your husband. I no longer try to initiate sex and I can honestly say I don't love the man. He's just a check every Thursday.
Feel Your Pain

Alvaton, KY

#28 Oct 20, 2013
Oh and I've tried to divorce him! He won't leave!!!
Wife

United States

#30 Oct 20, 2013
Wife wrote:
Oh......does anyone know a good divorce attorney while I'm still here???
Anyone can post as any name, this comment was not from me. Just someone trying to get me in deeper trouble.
JustPlainBubba

Elyria, OH

#31 Oct 20, 2013
You or not.....consider it. He sounds like a bum who does not love you! You might find freedom a better choice and you might find the right someone who will love you.
usedtolivethere

Bowling Green, KY

#32 Oct 22, 2013
Sorry wrote:
There is no reason to keep a passcode from your spouse or keep a private computer if you aren't hiding something. Believe me I've lived that before when I was cheating and unhappily married. Now I'm with someone I'm happy with my life is an open book. I don't mean this as a smartazz but you have at least two choices, leave things alone and nothing will ever change or confront him. But if you confront him be prepared for the ugly truth which could lead to divorce but do you really want to stay with someone for the rest of your life that doesn't want you? From a man's perspective I cannot imagine not wanting sex. Minimum I want it is 4 times per week and some weeks every day. Make sure you aren't the type of partner that makes sex a chore. My wife and I totally understand each other, our worst sex is better than self pleasure. There are times she really doesn't want it or is too tired for it but will allow me my release and basically takes one for the team and then there are those rare times I'm too tired or stressed to initiate it and she will and I would say take one for the team but I always rise to the occasion. I wish you the best of luck.....
Sounds like you have a great/sharing wife. I have been in a rut here lately with my wife. Do you mind giving me your email (do not want to discuss openly here with some of the jerks posting here), I would like to discuss maybe your wife taking one for the team with me. I notice you are in Hopkinsville, i will be considered the "away" team. But, i will travel there, or maybe you guys could come here for a little get away from that Ghetto better known as "Hoptpwn. Thanks, it will be very fun, i am a great person to be around, but perfer if you are not there when she takes it.
Wife

Elyria, OH

#33 Oct 22, 2013
Before long, maybe???
Never Say Never

Jamestown, KY

#34 Oct 22, 2013
Sorry wrote:
There is no reason to keep a passcode from your spouse or keep a private computer if you aren't hiding something. Believe me I've lived that before when I was cheating and unhappily married. Now I'm with someone I'm happy with my life is an open book. I don't mean this as a smartazz but you have at least two choices, leave things alone and nothing will ever change or confront him. But if you confront him be prepared for the ugly truth which could lead to divorce but do you really want to stay with someone for the rest of your life that doesn't want you? From a man's perspective I cannot imagine not wanting sex. Minimum I want it is 4 times per week and some weeks every day. Make sure you aren't the type of partner that makes sex a chore. My wife and I totally understand each other, our worst sex is better than self pleasure. There are times she really doesn't want it or is too tired for it but will allow me my release and basically takes one for the team and then there are those rare times I'm too tired or stressed to initiate it and she will and I would say take one for the team but I always rise to the occasion. I wish you the best of luck.....
I have been married over 30 years and have never been told no by my wife. She has always been willing and does things I still can't believe she does. I just wish she would be open minded enough to do it with another young good looking guy while I watch as this is a fantasy of mine.

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