Speaking only for myself, I am not the kind of person who could ever see himself in a plural relationship or marriage.Dear SSMers
I am puzzled by your attitudes regarding legal polygamy/plural marriage. They seem to range from outright hostility to tepid support. "Marriage equality" is the mantra of the movement, yet there is a strong reluctance to include polygamy. Why? A seldom mentioned yet obvious objective within the movement is to shatter the monogamous conjugal (husband and wife) marital standard forever. To fundamental alter the very legal concept as a unique privileged union of one man and one woman as husband and wife. It stands to reason once that's changed, ssm is not the only logical path.
Polygamy is a valid form of marriage throughout time and place, far, far older than SSM, and more widely practiced. Why shouldn't it be considered? Is there a fear that to embrace it would undermine the SSM movement? A reluctance to share the spotlight? A sense of superiority?
However I am very interested in a monogamous marriage.
So I don't see plural marriage as being a fight that I wish to undertake.
This is a personal decision.
And I think you're going to find that the "SSMers" aren't going to speak in a unified voice on plural marriage.
By the very definition of the term "SSMers", we are all in favor of SSM.
But to ask our opinion on plural marriage--to ask for a unified opinion--would be like asking us, "As SSMers, how do you feel about vanilla ice cream versus chocolate ice cream?"
There is no relationship between Same-Sex Marriage and Plural marriage.