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Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

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#22 Feb 1, 2013
L1: The LW is definitely sheltered but what is more troubling is that she cannot voice her feelings about things to friends at 15.

L2: I have no clue if it's a culture thing. I'll take all of your opinions on that one. Cultural or not, though, if I was at that table I would have had to speak right up right away. "Please sit up and stop slurping" and then ask an everyday questions to him. I don't think I could have helped myself. I know that's probably just as rude, too.

L3: People just don't get it. Just because you think your kids are the best doesn't mean everyone else thinks so.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#23 Feb 1, 2013
LW1: Just tell your friend you don't like the music because you find it negative and depressing.

LW2: It is partly cultural. Asian people use chopsticks to eat. This generally brings them closer to the plate or bowl than they would be using western utensils. I would gently encourage him to work on his table manners.
Sam I Am

Chicago, IL

#24 Feb 1, 2013
1. This is why home schooling is dumb. The child totally misses out on developing social skills.

2. There are some Asian cultures where soups are slurped. I am not aware of any culture where chewing with your mouth open is acceptable. It's hard to tell a grown person how to eat. That's where friends come in because they can bust his chops about it.

3.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#25 Feb 1, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
1. This is why home schooling is dumb. The child totally misses out on developing social skills.
I know a teacher who is planning on homeschooling her kid during middle school because that's the age range that causes her the most worry with regard to bullying and social problems(can't remember her exact reasoning). But I'm thinking the same thing. You think that is the most challenging age range and so you are pulling her out so that she does not have to face it? SO what happens when she goes back to schol and all the other kids have been trhu whatever it is your scared of and havee developed the necessary coping skills?

Keep in mind, this is the same woman who keeps her daighter in a 5 point harness car seat that she barely fits into. She's in second grade. I can honestly say, I've never met a more paranoid parent.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#26 Feb 1, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I know a teacher who is planning on homeschooling her kid during middle school because that's the age range that causes her the most worry with regard to bullying and social problems(can't remember her exact reasoning). But I'm thinking the same thing. You think that is the most challenging age range and so you are pulling her out so that she does not have to face it? SO what happens when she goes back to schol and all the other kids have been trhu whatever it is your scared of and havee developed the necessary coping skills?
Keep in mind, this is the same woman who keeps her daighter in a 5 point harness car seat that she barely fits into. She's in second grade. I can honestly say, I've never met a more paranoid parent.
I'm not a paranoid parent, except when it coems to middle school. I've heard stories! Scares the snot out of me! And it's not very far into the future for us!!!

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#27 Feb 1, 2013
I don't think it's fair to make a blanket statement like "homeschooling is dumb." I think that probably some parents who do it are ill-equipped, but I personally know a few and a) they're educated enough to educate kids (i.e. possess a teaching degree) and b) they make a point of getting their kids involved in social activities like sports and art and stuff so that the kids DON'T miss out on developing social skills.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#28 Feb 1, 2013
Stina wrote:
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I'm not a paranoid parent, except when it coems to middle school. I've heard stories! Scares the snot out of me! And it's not very far into the future for us!!!
Me too. That is why I'm sooooo grateful that the luck of the draw got Lulu (and Nunu next year) into a K-8 magnet school. Our HS is not the best, socially speaking, so I'm hoping that having a core set of friends upon arriving will help to insulate them from a lot of the BS.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#29 Feb 1, 2013
*shudder* I wouldn't re-do middle school again if you paid me, but the thought of having to be at *home* all the time with my mom and sister at that age would have been the things nightmares were made of.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#30 Feb 1, 2013
Stina wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm not a paranoid parent, except when it coems to middle school. I've heard stories! Scares the snot out of me! And it's not very far into the future for us!!!
Tell me some stories. What are examples of this unthinkable horror?
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#31 Feb 1, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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Me too. That is why I'm sooooo grateful that the luck of the draw got Lulu (and Nunu next year) into a K-8 magnet school. Our HS is not the best, socially speaking, so I'm hoping that having a core set of friends upon arriving will help to insulate them from a lot of the BS.
Yeah, my daughter's school (she's in Christian school) goes to 8th grade. I tried getting her into a magnet-type school, but they are impossible to get into here.

FL now has virtual school where kids can do school on-line. My friend has her daughter doing it (they tried MS and it was a nightmare) and she is still in a lot of social activities and hangs with the friends she knew throughout school. She will go to regular school in 9th grade.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#32 Feb 1, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Tell me some stories. What are examples of this unthinkable horror?
Besides the bullying and fighting, etc (relatively normal stuff), there's a TREMENDOUS amount of sexual activitiy (both straight and gay) going on. I know my kid is going to deal with that at some point, but I prefer it not to be when she's 11.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#33 Feb 1, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
I don't think it's fair to make a blanket statement like "homeschooling is dumb." I think that probably some parents who do it are ill-equipped, but I personally know a few and a) they're educated enough to educate kids (i.e. possess a teaching degree) and b) they make a point of getting their kids involved in social activities like sports and art and stuff so that the kids DON'T miss out on developing social skills.
It has evolved from even when we were kids, I think. But then, if you're running your kid all over town for gym and art, what's the benefit of having them stay home? All of those things are convieniently located in one centralized area called a 'school'.

Both my mom's sisters homeschooled their kids and I thought my cousins were all weird at the time, but looking back, I was not exactly the queen of cool. And they're all functioning adults today.

But, would I have wanted to *be* homeschooled or would I want to home school my own kids? Hell to the no.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#34 Feb 1, 2013
Stina wrote:
<quoted text>
Yeah, my daughter's school (she's in Christian school) goes to 8th grade. I tried getting her into a magnet-type school, but they are impossible to get into here.
FL now has virtual school where kids can do school on-line. My friend has her daughter doing it (they tried MS and it was a nightmare) and she is still in a lot of social activities and hangs with the friends she knew throughout school. She will go to regular school in 9th grade.
My friend J's daughter did virtual school for 6th and 7th grades (and is now in a Christian school for 8th). When I first heard of this, I thought it was a bad idea to leave a middle school-age kid home alone unsupervised all day, but my friend explained that her stay-at-home-mom sister lives across the street and would pop in a lot AND they put security on their internet access so their daughter couldn't get into bad stuff online. It worked well for them.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#35 Feb 1, 2013
Stina wrote:
there's a TREMENDOUS amount of sexual activitiy (both straight and gay) going on.
Not sure what kind of sex-charged middle schoolers you've got in your area, but I wouldn't consider that a rational fear.

Why, why, WHY do people continue to believe that horn-crazed 11 and 12 year olds are banging away every opportunity? This is patently untrue. Typically, boys don't even become interested in sex til about 13/14. And girls that age aren't interested at all.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#36 Feb 1, 2013
Stina wrote:
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Besides the bullying and fighting, etc (relatively normal stuff), there's a TREMENDOUS amount of sexual activitiy (both straight and gay) going on. I know my kid is going to deal with that at some point, but I prefer it not to be when she's 11.
Where do you hear these stories? Several co-workers as well as my boss have school age kids. I've been here over 10 years and therefore have been around long enough for more than one of them to start and finishmiddle school. One is in college now. Several other of the co-workers kids are currently in misddle school. These are people I see and talk to every day. I've just never heard any of them claim any big worry about middle school, sexual or otherwise.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

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#37 Feb 1, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
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It has evolved from even when we were kids, I think. But then, if you're running your kid all over town for gym and art, what's the benefit of having them stay home? All of those things are convieniently located in one centralized area called a 'school'.
Both my mom's sisters homeschooled their kids and I thought my cousins were all weird at the time, but looking back, I was not exactly the queen of cool. And they're all functioning adults today.
But, would I have wanted to *be* homeschooled or would I want to home school my own kids? Hell to the no.
My sister has her child in a regular school and still runs her all around for dance, gymnastics and all her activities. I don't see that as any different.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

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#38 Feb 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Not sure what kind of sex-charged middle schoolers you've got in your area, but I wouldn't consider that a rational fear.
Why, why, WHY do people continue to believe that horn-crazed 11 and 12 year olds are banging away every opportunity? This is patently untrue. Typically, boys don't even become interested in sex til about 13/14. And girls that age aren't interested at all.
I don't know. Here's a clip from this link about sex in middle schools from ABC http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story... :

Students told us that some kids are having sex in school bathrooms and hallways even in classrooms.

At a middle school outside Baltimore, Md., a couple of 12-year-olds had oral sex in their science class. Their classmates watched, but the teacher didn't see them.(The teacher was suspended and later resigned.)

And the kids say it happens at home too, and we parents almost never know.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#39 Feb 1, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
*shudder* I wouldn't re-do middle school again if you paid me, but the thought of having to be at *home* all the time with my mom and sister at that age would have been the things nightmares were made of.
Amen to that, sistah!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#40 Feb 1, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I don't know. Here's a clip from this link about sex in middle schools from ABC http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story... :
Students told us that some kids are having sex in school bathrooms and hallways even in classrooms.
At a middle school outside Baltimore, Md., a couple of 12-year-olds had oral sex in their science class. Their classmates watched, but the teacher didn't see them.(The teacher was suspended and later resigned.)
And the kids say it happens at home too, and we parents almost never know.
A couple of random cases doesn't make it the norm.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#41 Feb 1, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Where do you hear these stories? Several co-workers as well as my boss have school age kids. I've been here over 10 years and therefore have been around long enough for more than one of them to start and finishmiddle school. One is in college now. Several other of the co-workers kids are currently in misddle school. These are people I see and talk to every day. I've just never heard any of them claim any big worry about middle school, sexual or otherwise.
This is something my friend's daughter and her friends experienced in MS. I've heard it from a couple of other moms I work with that have kids that go to the same school. And it's considered one of the "better" ones in the area. There is a lot of "oral" stuff going on.

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