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“I Am Mine”

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#21 Jan 24, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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When I first read the letter this morning, I read it as "we invited them out to dinner at a restaurant." which, according to etiquette, implies that you're paying. But I read it again much later, and could see how it could have been a more informally worded invitation/conversation that wouldn't imply that the "guests" were being treated.
In my world, there is no such thing as a 'formal' dinner wirh friends.

“bELieve”

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#22 Jan 24, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>In my world, there is no such thing as a 'formal' dinner wirh friends.
Me neither. Invite-only dinners involve family.

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#23 Jan 24, 2013
In my own experience, I agree. But I also read the Miss Manners column and etiquette can be sticky.

Toj

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#24 Jan 24, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>In my world, there is no such thing as a 'formal' dinner wirh friends.
I would suspect most people are like you but that woman in the letter sounded like she had a stick up her butt and I bet she goes by the strictest guidelines of etiquette. It's probably why she was bent out of shape about such a little matter.

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#25 Jan 24, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I would suspect most people are like you but that woman in the letter sounded like she had a stick up her butt and I bet she goes by the strictest guidelines of etiquette. It's probably why she was bent out of shape about such a little matter.
True. Someone at the Washingtonpost thread on this said "I'd be a bit annoyed that these people invited strangers to join us, but i wouldn't be so bothered that I would be bent out of shape like this, angry about it." Others said to go through with the dinner and to keep an open mind about the other couple. Maybe the invited friends think the LW and the "stranger" friends would really hit it off.

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#26 Jan 24, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
In my own experience, I agree. But I also read the Miss Manners column and etiquette can be sticky.
For me, "Bob and I would like to take you and Joe to Fogo de Chao for dinner" means you pay, while "We need to get together soon. How about we all have dinner together at Fogo de Chao" is separate checks.

“I Am Mine”

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#27 Jan 24, 2013
Sgt__Smith wrote:
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For me, "Bob and I would like to take you and Joe to Fogo de Chao for dinner" means you pay, while "We need to get together soon. How about we all have dinner together at Fogo de Chao" is separate checks.
Sounds reasonable. And unless it was your birthday, you won't hear "I'd like to take you..." from my mouth.

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#28 Jan 24, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Sounds reasonable. And unless it was your birthday, you won't hear "I'd like to take you..." from my mouth.
Agreed. And if someone said it that way out of the blue, I'm sure I would say something to clarify that it's Dutch. I hate the whole fight-over-the-bill thing, probably because my dad used to make such a big deal out of it. I know it pleased him as he got older, that he could afford to treat friends and family to dinner, but he made such a production out of it, at the restaurant and on and on afterwards, that I would just cringe when the check came.

And we never ate anywhere really expensive, so it was even worse that he would brag about it so much.

Since: Dec 07

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#29 Jan 24, 2013
1 Boot him out. HE'll find another trailer park mama quickly.

2 Yes it's rude. Cancel on them.

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#30 Jan 24, 2013
Sgt__Smith wrote:
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For me, "Bob and I would like to take you and Joe to Fogo de Chao for dinner" means you pay, while "We need to get together soon. How about we all have dinner together at Fogo de Chao" is separate checks.
ITA. It's all about wording.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#31 Jan 24, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
LW1: Dude is presumably in his 30s or almost in his 30s and lives with you in your dadís house, cheats on you, has a baby with another woman, tells the other women he loves her and wants to be with her, and you still want to be with him? Darwin and all of humanity are thankful that you havenít successfully bred.
DING, DING, DING, we have a winner.

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