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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Sep 22, 2013
DEAR ABBY: The other day, while backing out of a parking space, I nearly hit a woman who was walking behind my car with her toddler son. I didn't see them because I was dialing my cellphone and was distracted. The woman rightfully yelled at me to pay attention and get off my phone, and although she was gracious and encouraged me to consider it a "wake-up call," I didn't react as kindly to her out of embarrassment. Instead, I became defensive and didn't apologize, even though it was my fault.

I shudder to think of what might have happened, and I admit this wasn't the first close call I've had. I'm a married mother of two and should know better.

While I can't go back and find her, I hope the woman sees this letter. I want her to know that because of that incident, I now lock my purse and phone in the trunk or place them on the backseat out of reach before I start my car. This way, I avoid the temptation to look at messages or make a call.

I have also asked my kids to keep me accountable by reminding me if I happen to forget. They will be driving in a few years, and I want to set a good example for them.

Please pass this idea along -- especially to moms like me who try to multitask in the car.-- HANDS ON THE WHEEL IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR HANDS ON THE WHEEL: Your suggestion of placing your purse and phone on the backseat out of reach is a good one. You are really lucky you didn't kill or seriously injure that mother and her child. Regardless of whether or not the woman sees your letter, I hope it will remind other drivers of the danger of driving while distracted.
And while I'm on the subject, I read an article recently that discussed distracted walking. According to U.S. Secretary of Transportation Anthony Foxx, this has caused an increase in pedestrian deaths. In 2011, more than 1,500 pedestrians were treated in emergency rooms because of injuries they suffered while using a portable electronic device.

The safest course of action for drivers and pedestrians is to do only one thing at a time, and to be fully present while doing it.

DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for 13 years, and I often wonder how to fill out questionnaires that ask my marital status. I have recently started checking "single" because enough time seems to have passed, and I don't define myself by my divorce. However, now I'm wondering if there's a certain etiquette recommended.-- STATUS UNKNOWN IN OHIO

DEAR STATUS UNKNOWN: Honesty is recommended. As much as you might like to present yourself that way, you are no longer single. Calling yourself single is dishonest. As someone who has been married and divorced, you are a divorcee -- and you will be until you remarry. Saying you are single is a misrepresentation of the facts.

DEAR ABBY: I have a son-in-law whom I hate to ask questions. He goes into so much detail that I'm always sorry I asked. Is there any way to make him get to the point?-- LIKES IT BRIEF

DEAR LIKES IT BRIEF: Yes. Explain that when he goes into so much detail, you can remember only 10 percent of what he says, so please get to the point. And when he forgets, remind him.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#2 Sep 22, 2013
1- I woulda told that stupid btch to watch where she was walking.

2- Saying your single is fine! You're not "misrepresenting" anything.

3- "I didn't ask for your life story!"

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#3 Sep 22, 2013
1 I dont have a purse, oh what am I to do??

2 Nobody flipping cares, and if that is the most dishonest thing you do, count your blessings.

3 Tell your SIL that everytime you ask him what time it is, he builds you a watch. I know peeps like this and I just quit asking them anything.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#4 Sep 22, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
1- I woulda told that stupid btch to watch where she was walking.
2- Saying your single is fine! You're not "misrepresenting" anything.
3- "I didn't ask for your life story!"
Abby's full of shit. Single /never married & singled/divorced is still single. Lw is filling out forms. I've never seen a form where divorced was an option.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#5 Sep 22, 2013
L1: And don't forget bycyclists. Girl got hit by a train here looking at her phone. It's just plain stupid to text while in supposedly control of a moving anything.

L2: I've been checking single for years, haven't gone to jail yet. In fact, when I closed on this house the paperwork said...single, never married...don't know where that came from but I kept my mouth shut and I still have my house.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#6 Sep 22, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
I've never seen a form where divorced was an option.
Really? I've seen it a few times.
boundary painter

San Antonio, TX

#7 Sep 22, 2013
LW1 isn't giving CA a bad name since LW1 did learn from his/her error.

LW2 is making OH look silly--but not giving the state a bad name.

LW3 should stop asking this guy questions.
Pippa

Hancock, NY

#8 Sep 22, 2013
1: Right. Lock your purse and cell phone in the trunk. I do NOT think that's a good idea. In fact, it's stupid. Why not just turn off the volume/vibration on the phone and put it in a pocket. That way, you won't hear any incoming calls or messages while you're driving. And at least you have a possibility of reaching your phone and calling for help if you have an accident. Your purse? Where do you keep your driver's license? I can just see you now at a traffic stop and you're asked for your license and registration. Do you say, "If you just give me a minute, officer, and allow me out of my car, I'll get my purse from the trunk." Just what is the officer likely to think? That you have some kind of weapon in the trunk? Now if you have something like OnStar equipped on your car, putting just your cell phone in the trunk might be a good idea. But very few people of my acquaintance have that.
Erghh

Nashville, TN

#9 Sep 22, 2013
LW1- Good for her! Too bad she seems an exception rather than the rule, though.

LW2- OK to say they're single cos they are but if they had kids, it may be unfair to them to let others conclude that the folks weren't married when they had 'em.

LW3-If he's that way to his FIL, I feel sorry for his coworkers.
Pippa

Hancock, NY

#10 Sep 22, 2013
2: For what it's worth, I think it depends on the options given. Yes, you're divorced and that will always be your status until you remarry or perhaps get a new identity from the Witness Protection program. But I agree that single is single whether never married or divorced. You do not currently have a spouse. If it's a legal form and "divorced" is an option, you're better off saying divorced if only to know for sure that you told the truth. If it's a just a questionnaire asking for opinions and what not, go ahead and check single.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#11 Sep 22, 2013
1: I don't text (grrr, hate it), but put my purse in the backseat. If the phones rings, it waits. Life continues. This inability to freaking unplug is annoying.
I'm glad LW got a call, but other inconsiderate boobs don't. FL has anti-text law as of Oct. 1st.

2: If divorced is an option, check it.
If not, hit single.
If you have an online profile, you can bet single (never married v divorced) is important.

3: Sitting there and listening to it all isn't working!
My mom talks forever and hates silence; you just walk away. It seems rude to us but to them, they are so friggin unaware it doesn't always register.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#12 Sep 23, 2013
L1: Pippa makes good points.

L2: Unless being divorced has an importance to the document/paper you are filling out, I really wouldn't worry about it.

L3: "Son, get to the point."

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#13 Sep 23, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
1: I don't text (grrr, hate it), but put my purse in the backseat. If the phones rings, it waits. Life continues. This inability to freaking unplug is annoying.
I'm glad LW got a call, but other inconsiderate boobs don't. FL has anti-text law as of Oct. 1st.
Yeah, but unfortunately it's only a secondary offense. You can't be pulled over just for doing it. At least most people swerve like drunks when they text, so I guess they can be pukked over for that.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#14 Sep 23, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
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Yeah, but unfortunately it's only a secondary offense. You can't be pulled over just for doing it. At least most people swerve like drunks when they text, so I guess they can be pukked over for that.
Bah!
Numerous studies are showing it's as bad as drunk driving at times.
So vile--I feel a Hulk-like rage when I see people looking up and down and up and down all the time and you know they are texting.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#15 Sep 24, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
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Bah!
Numerous studies are showing it's as bad as drunk driving at times.
So vile--I feel a Hulk-like rage when I see people looking up and down and up and down all the time and you know they are texting.
I totally agree with you. I was FURIOUS when they passed the law but then just made it a secondary offense instead of a primary offense.

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