women are so shallow these days
Statement of Fact

Chicago, IL

#71 Feb 27, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
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Do you often check out men and determine whether you find them attractive or am I just special? That might explain why you can't pick up women ... they notice you staring at other men.
Maybe it's my imagination, but it seems like the regulars here, as in people like you, are really not exactly the friendliest folks in the world. WTF making fun of guy who struggle to meet ladies here? Well....gee not everybody is a big hot shot like you. Fortunately I'm long away from that stage with four grandchildren and can tell you for a fact that people were a lot nicer when I grew up. You Y Gen folks really should work on your attitudes.
Kitty

Chicago, IL

#72 Feb 28, 2014
The girls I grew up are very shallow and materialistic now. My husband is just average looking and makes just an okay living. But he's honest, lovable, fun to be around and a great father, while my so-called friends keep dating hot looking losers who cheat on them. Will they ever learn? I wouldn't bet on it.

Since: Aug 08

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#73 Feb 28, 2014
Statement of Fact wrote:
<quoted text>Maybe it's my imagination, but it seems like the regulars here, as in people like you, are really not exactly the friendliest folks in the world. WTF making fun of guy who struggle to meet ladies here? Well....gee not everybody is a big hot shot like you. Fortunately I'm long away from that stage with four grandchildren and can tell you for a fact that people were a lot nicer when I grew up. You Y Gen folks really should work on your attitudes.
I'm actually late 70s and Gen X .

I wouldn't be making fun of them if he said he were looking for advice, which I would be happy to give if he really were looking for something constructive and wanted to have an honest conversation about it.

Instead of being an adult and asking for advice and he has instead chosen the sour grapes approach. I have no respect for men who behave like that. I also find it whiny.

Since: Aug 08

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#74 Feb 28, 2014
I dunno some websites say I'm Gen X ... others say Gen Y. I'm probably a hybrid.

Since: Aug 08

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#75 Feb 28, 2014
Biggest problem some men have, IMO is they either aim out of their league or they have no personality or both.

If you can hold a conversation with them, show them a good time, make them laugh, be charming, and you can support yourself (you don't have to be loaded ... Although you should have enough to take them out), you can get women. That doesn't mean you can get hot women. If women find you attractive AND you can do those things, you can get women, even hot ones, like they are going out of style.

The guy who said 300 pound women who seem to be the only ones he finds have decent personalities, maybe those are the women in his league. Maybe just like he doesn't find 300 pound women attractive, women don't find him attractive.

Fat chicks need lovin' too and not every guy is attractive ... sux if it's you, but it's a fact of life. Most guys accept it. If you hang out with a group of guys, there's usually a couple of guys who just naturally get the hotties and there's some that know they can't and they seem to go after women who are more in their league. That's my experience at least.
clarification

Hoffman Estates, IL

#76 Feb 28, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
Biggest problem some men have, IMO is they either aim out of their league or they have no personality or both.
If you can hold a conversation with them, show them a good time, make them laugh, be charming, and you can support yourself (you don't have to be loaded ... Although you should have enough to take them out), you can get women. That doesn't mean you can get hot women. If women find you attractive AND you can do those things, you can get women, even hot ones, like they are going out of style.
The guy who said 300 pound women who seem to be the only ones he finds have decent personalities, maybe those are the women in his league. Maybe just like he doesn't find 300 pound women attractive, women don't find him attractive.
Fat chicks need lovin' too and not every guy is attractive ... sux if it's you, but it's a fact of life. Most guys accept it. If you hang out with a group of guys, there's usually a couple of guys who just naturally get the hotties and there's some that know they can't and they seem to go after women who are more in their league. That's my experience at least.
If you are finding women too shallow, little man, perhaps you just don't have what it takes to go deep.
Unhappy in Chicagoland

Joliet, IL

#77 Feb 28, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
The guy who said 300 pound women who seem to be the only ones he finds have decent personalities, maybe those are the women in his league. Maybe just like he doesn't find 300 pound women attractive, women don't find him attractive.
Fat chicks need lovin' too and not every guy is attractive ... sux if it's you, but it's a fact of life. Most guys accept it. If you hang out with a group of guys, there's usually a couple of guys who just naturally get the hotties and there's some that know they can't and they seem to go after women who are more in their league. That's my experience at least.
Even skinny guys (even those that smell like pine trees) are heavily rejected by Chicagoland women if they don't make 6 and 7 figures, don't own luxury yachts, sports vehicles, speedboats, cabin cruisers, mansions, and such. Okay, at first she might be welcoming to him because of his appearance, but once she finds out the skinny/attractive guy is not rich, it's over. Especially with the numerous young ladies moving from the suburbs into the city and hooking up with gangsters and hardened thugs, chances are, the instant she finds out he is not rich, any young Chicago city woman especially would say to that skinny, handsome guy stuff like "Go join a gang or the mobs! Rob some banks! Steal a nice luxury sports car for me! Don't come back into my face until you got money and a sports car! I don't care if you gotta evade a SWAT team and/or gun down a few police officers and end up on the Sheriff's Top 10 Most Wanted list! Don't come back to me until you have what I want!"

Since: Aug 08

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#78 Mar 1, 2014
Unhappy in Chicagoland wrote:
<quoted text>Even skinny guys (even those that smell like pine trees) are heavily rejected by Chicagoland women if they don't make 6 and 7 figures, don't own luxury yachts, sports vehicles, speedboats, cabin cruisers, mansions, and such. Okay, at first she might be welcoming to him because of his appearance, but once she finds out the skinny/attractive guy is not rich, it's over. Especially with the numerous young ladies moving from the suburbs into the city and hooking up with gangsters and hardened thugs, chances are, the instant she finds out he is not rich, any young Chicago city woman especially would say to that skinny, handsome guy stuff like "Go join a gang or the mobs! Rob some banks! Steal a nice luxury sports car for me! Don't come back into my face until you got money and a sports car! I don't care if you gotta evade a SWAT team and/or gun down a few police officers and end up on the Sheriff's Top 10 Most Wanted list! Don't come back to me until you have what I want!"
All my buds who I grew up with have women and only one of them makes 6 figures.
Lawrence

Schiller Park, IL

#79 Mar 1, 2014
I rarely post on Topix, but can resist getting my 2 cents in. I can meet women anywhere. I'm a traveling salesman so I meet people all across the country. In general small town people are the friendliest. But I still find New York, Denver, Pittsburgh, LA, and Houston etc. to be friendlier than Chicago. Chicago women more than anywhere else put a premium on how tall guys are. At 5'11 I'm not short. But only in Chicago and nowhere to I get told I'm not tall enough even by women just 5'3" or 5'4".
Lawrence

Schiller Park, IL

#80 Mar 1, 2014
"nowhere to" should have been "nowhere else."

Since: Oct 12

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#81 Mar 1, 2014
Lawrence wrote:
"nowhere to" should have been "nowhere else."
They want to breed up in height...so that future shallow generations, are a bit taller....
Unhappy in Chicagoland

Joliet, IL

#82 Mar 2, 2014
Lawrence wrote:
I rarely post on Topix, but can resist getting my 2 cents in. I can meet women anywhere. I'm a traveling salesman so I meet people all across the country. In general small town people are the friendliest. But I still find New York, Denver, Pittsburgh, LA, and Houston etc. to be friendlier than Chicago. Chicago women more than anywhere else put a premium on how tall guys are. At 5'11 I'm not short. But only in Chicago and nowhere to I get told I'm not tall enough even by women just 5'3" or 5'4".
Welcome to Topix, the only forum that follows the U.S. Constitution, especially the First Amendment and the Bill of Rights. Indeed, Illinois is apparently the only region where especially guys with glasses, who are short, who have disabilities, are not super rich and such, are treated as social outcasts. And then when the outcast complains about being isolated, Illinoisans normally take it to the most extreme end of their retaliatory rants, as though the outcast were Ted Bundy, or even Adolf Hitler. Other forums are far less free; and in fact, the city-data forum is just like North Korea! That city-data forum will ban complainers so fast their head would spin, exactly as though the complainer had directly insulted Kim Il-Sung, Kim Jong-Il, Kim Jong-Un, the North Korean government, army, Juche philosophy; even as if the complainer were plotting to knock down the big copper statues of Kim Il-Sung and Kim Jong-Il in Pyongyang.
Patent Oswalt

Hoffman Estates, IL

#83 Mar 2, 2014
Lawrence wrote:
I rarely post on Topix, but can resist getting my 2 cents in. I can meet women anywhere. I'm a traveling salesman so I meet people all across the country. In general small town people are the friendliest. But I still find New York, Denver, Pittsburgh, LA, and Houston etc. to be friendlier than Chicago. Chicago women more than anywhere else put a premium on how tall guys are. At 5'11 I'm not short. But only in Chicago and nowhere to I get told I'm not tall enough even by women just 5'3" or 5'4".
5'7" is short. Midgets are thinking of accepting guys that short into their society because they tend to have short arms similar to midgets.
Reading Teacher

South Saint Paul, MN

#84 Mar 4, 2014
Patent Oswalt wrote:
<quoted text>5'7" is short. Midgets are thinking of accepting guys that short into their society because they tend to have short arms similar to midgets.
7 and 11 may be the same on the first roll at craps. But the dude said he was 5'11" not 5'7".
Reading Teacher

South Saint Paul, MN

#85 Mar 4, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
Biggest problem some men have, IMO is they either aim out of their league or they have no personality or both.
If you can hold a conversation with them, show them a good time, make them laugh, be charming, and you can support yourself (you don't have to be loaded ... Although you should have enough to take them out), you can get women. That doesn't mean you can get hot women. If women find you attractive AND you can do those things, you can get women, even hot ones, like they are going out of style.
The guy who said 300 pound women who seem to be the only ones he finds have decent personalities, maybe those are the women in his league. Maybe just like he doesn't find 300 pound women attractive, women don't find him attractive.
Fat chicks need lovin' too and not every guy is attractive ... sux if it's you, but it's a fact of life. Most guys accept it. If you hang out with a group of guys, there's usually a couple of guys who just naturally get the hotties and there's some that know they can't and they seem to go after women who are more in their league. That's my experience at least.
If a woman doesn't like how you look, personality will not even come into play. Many men are frustrated because of things like their height or just simply being ordinary looking. Women now are far more shallow than men. The average looking woman can easily get a date even if she's overweight. Not so with the average looking guy. I finally met somebody who liked me.(We're still dating) But it wasn't until I drove up to Lake Geneva.

Since: Oct 12

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#86 Mar 4, 2014
Patent Oswalt wrote:
<quoted text>5'7" is short. Midgets are thinking of accepting guys that short into their society because they tend to have short arms similar to midgets.
Not in Hollywood...Saw a list of movie actors that were 5'7" and under....pretty good group.....
go-away

Brookfield, IL

#87 Mar 4, 2014
So this is what burbank has come to. not surprised
Patent Oswalt

Hoffman Estates, IL

#88 Mar 4, 2014
Reading Teacher wrote:
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7 and 11 may be the same on the first roll at craps. But the dude said he was 5'11" not 5'7".
Yes, however, I stated that 5'7" was short. I stand by that. And I stand tall.
Patent Oswalt

Hoffman Estates, IL

#89 Mar 4, 2014
Go Blue Forever wrote:
<quoted text> Not in Hollywood...Saw a list of movie actors that were 5'7" and under....pretty good group.....
Ah, the...short list.

Since: Aug 08

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#90 Mar 5, 2014
Reading Teacher wrote:
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If a woman doesn't like how you look, personality will not even come into play. Many men are frustrated because of things like their height or just simply being ordinary looking. Women now are far more shallow than men. The average looking woman can easily get a date even if she's overweight. Not so with the average looking guy. I finally met somebody who liked me.(We're still dating) But it wasn't until I drove up to Lake Geneva.
I have a buddy who is having a hard time finding anyone. He can find them, but there is usually something wrong with them. He's talked to me about it a few times, but he's not as whiny as some of the guys on here and he wasn't bashing women. He's more or less just stumped.

All the women in our circle think he's got a nice personality, but he's not in the best shape (not in terrible shape). Even if you don't have the best looks, if you are looking to find someone and are having problems, it doesn't hurt to put your best foot forward and hit the gym regularly.

So, it's not just Chicago.

And you are right, if women find you attractive you usually have lots of options and the guys who aren't don't and have to work more at it. Again, that's not just Chicago.

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